| Jun 26 @ 10:18 PM |
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georgiapeach42
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I have a couple of male friends that started out as lovers. Both are really great men that came along in my life when I needed them most and they are still part of it. They are one of the few people that I have let get close enough to see the real me because I can trust them.
Have you ever had a lover that turned out to be one of the best friends you ever had?
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| Jun 26 @ 10:20 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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part time lover of a full time friend nothing more nothing less
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| Jun 26 @ 10:31 PM |
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willsmalto
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we usually end up being friends, not best friends. I don't trust people nowadays
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| Jun 26 @ 10:33 PM |
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georgiapeach42
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I understand and it is sad we have to be this way. 
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| Jun 26 @ 10:51 PM |
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Makya
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Not once things wee over with. No.
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| Jun 27 @ 12:23 AM |
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Always_Striving
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No, there is either too much sexual tension (meaning that her presence still makes me want to do her instead of befriend her),
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there is to much resentment (anger held for the previous crap she has pulled on me).
To me the concept of she being my friend after the relationship is over is more of a fantasy in someone's mind, but not in mine.
georgiapeach, I am glad to read that it has worked for you.
P.S. I think that the name georgiapeach is cute, I like seeing up in the forums.
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| Jun 27 @ 6:26 AM |
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georgiapeach42
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Well in my situation the sex was the major focus of our relationship, somewhere along the way the friendship grew and we realized sex was getting in the way of the friendship. So we transformed the relationship.
And Striving I am going to tell a little of my age here but georgiapeach has been my handle for 30, since CB radios were so popular.
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| Jun 27 @ 9:13 AM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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Yes...
Jeanine is still one of my best friends even though we dated in 2002. It was very easy for us to transition the relationship from partners to friends.
I have a few more but I am not as close to them as I am to her.
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| Jun 27 @ 9:49 AM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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My longest term relationship was a friendship that morphed into a sexual relationship, kind of went on that way for about ten years, then morphed back into friendship. He had more of an effect on my life than almost anyone, and believed in me far more than I ever did. People are people - it's impossible generalizing about relationships, it's always going to depend on the people who are in them - for the two of us it's been a friendship that's spanned over 30 years, with and without physical intimacy.
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| Jun 27 @ 9:56 AM |
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Loreli
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If I run into them somewhere...we're happy to see each other. Constant friendship faded over time.
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| Jun 27 @ 12:52 PM |
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marylou
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Have you ever had a lover that turned out to be one of the best friends you ever had ...............no but if I ever did.......I would probably marry him....... 
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| Jun 27 @ 8:38 PM |
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jamminjerry
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there will be no friends in my bed. my friends are a handshake and a hug away. women use sex to make friends. thats why my sex mates are angry at me ! LOL friends first, friends always or never. sex has nothing to do with being friends. i will put up with a whinny female for sex but not for friends LOL. we be jammin 
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| Jun 27 @ 8:53 PM |
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broomhilda
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i find its hard to be friends with someone after you slept with them.
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| Jun 27 @ 10:41 PM |
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emptypages
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no.
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| Jun 27 @ 11:01 PM |
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Automotor
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It's esy being friends with women after sex, it's when they get boyfriends that it gets complicated.
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| Jun 27 @ 11:11 PM |
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Nightowl001
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Short answer is "No."
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| Jun 27 @ 11:42 PM |
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jaybird777
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Have you ever had a lover that turned out to be one of the best friends you ever had? Nope.
I wish it weren't so.
Most of my friends are women.
Alla my lovers been women.
Once they cross over ta lovers, if that don't pan out, then I lose out on the friend part a it too.
I don't know why. Wish it weren't so, but gots ta be honest bout it.
I alway have some hesitationals when a friend wantin ta take that step, cause I donna wanna louse up the friendship.
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| Jun 28 @ 12:50 AM |
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Say_Yes
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Yes, I have had lovers that I later became close friends with, and a couple of friends, who became great lovers and then later, we reverted to being just friends again. As a mature adult, I can maintain a friendship with someone that I have slept with in the past, without problems arising. In fact, it is the norm for me to remain friends with women, long after the sexual relationship ends.
Two of my closest friends are now married to women, who were lovers of mine, at one time. Now, their wives are friends of mine, but nothing more. I have twice sung at weddings of a former lovers and I was honored both times to do so.
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| Jun 28 @ 4:51 PM |
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swingpup
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Full time long time true friends that are also part time lovers are simply the best. These are the few that one may have known for many years who enjoy you for who you are not what they may or are able to receive from you.
No pressure per monogamy, marriage or to even cohabitate. They are certainly the "keepers" both as friends as well as lovers.
 
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| Jun 29 @ 8:46 PM |
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sloriver
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The best friend I ever had just happened to be a lover too. She's no longer my lover but she'll always be one of my best friends.
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