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CathyCRN
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| Jul 1, 2008 @ 2:23 AM |
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sweet5red
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i have a cam but i only use it to make still pics like the ones on my profile.. and my wedding dress etc.. although becks has seen me on cam.. we were gooofing off one night LOL i was drinkin wine.. Sweet N Louisiana
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| Jul 1, 2008 @ 6:08 AM |
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Solitaire
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careful, I'm sorry that you got hurt by this guy, but being lied to isn't a new or an internet phenomenon. The "I'm separated" (but living in the same house, in the same room in the same bed) routine and neglecting, or outright lying, about marital status have been a longrunning storylines. Books have been written, movies produced and songs sung about being lied to or cheated upon by the errant spouse. The internet just provides a new venue for an old tune. They have gone from cruising the bars to perusing the personals.
People, men and women, lie. We've all seen the stories of the guy who's married to upteen women at the same time; the woman who's mother needs an urgent surgery, the missionary in Africa who can't keep their beloved Yorkie pup. Whether it is for an ego boost, profit or they just can't say no to a pretty face, people lie. The internet has just widened their audience.
Again, I'm sorry you got hurt. There have actually been several very good threads here about how to try and gage if they are married. Lots of smart folk here, and just like their profiles too, with immense insight and experience.
Don't write MD off yet, ok?
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| Jul 1, 2008 @ 9:48 AM |
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DiamondRain
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Thing about meeting someone online is that it makes it so easy to deceive someone. Unlike meeting someone in person where, although you can still be deceptive about some things, you can't hide the obvious.
I think that a good percentage of people looking for someone online are lonely and use the internet as a way of having contact with other people as a substitute for real personal contact. And a certain percentage of those types are unhappy about themselves in some way and wish they were "someone else." They feel insecure about who they really are and feel no one will like them, so they make believe they are someone they are not in a desperate attempt to get some of the attention that we all like to get.
And just like in the offline life, there are those -- mostly men I think but not exclusively men -- who just want to get some on the side and use the same type of deception online that they have used over the millennia offilne. Of course there are both men and women who are unhappy in their relationships and use deception about their status to lure someone else in.
Then there are those who just want to try out being someone they fantasize that they are just to see how good the attention they get feels. I think a lot of not so bad intentioned people get intoxicated by this idea and try it out at least once at sometime in their online experience.
Years ago, in the early Internet days in the early/mid 90s, I fell for someone more than once online only to find out she was a total fake, and not any of the things she said she was. I had my heart broken more than once. I finally learned not to ever give my heart to someone I have never even met in person, and that online "love" was a fantasy that cannot be trusted. There is no substitute for actually face to face meeting.
The main point is that it is so easy to deceive someone online that it is the perfect place for the types of people I described above. It's wise never to give your heart to someone (and certainly never give them anything like money!) until you have at least met them face to face. Don't forget, many a heart has been broken as the result of deception even in real in-person relationships. So when you add the ease of fooling someone online, you can see how much more risky it is that even meeting someone the old fashioned way.
There is nothing wrong with meeting someone online. It's a good way to find people in a busy world. All you need to do is be careful, use common sense and don't fall for anyone in a serious way until you have gotten to know them in person.
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| Jul 1, 2008 @ 11:11 AM |
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Gallows_Humor
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It's wise never to give your heart to someone (and certainly never give them anything like money!) until you have at least met them face to face. Don't forget, many a heart has been broken as the result of deception even in real in-person relationships. So when you add the ease of fooling someone online, you can see how much more risky it is that even meeting someone the old fashioned way.
There is nothing wrong with meeting someone online. It's a good way to find people in a busy world. All you need to do is be careful, use common sense and don't fall for anyone in a serious way until you have gotten to know them in person. ..well said... 
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| Jul 1, 2008 @ 1:15 PM |
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Bluebonnet72
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there are liars everywhere.. male and female.. for real and here in "fantasy land" yes that is right and we have to pay much attention in fantasy land where everything is almost allowed and everyone is masked behind a computer
Watch out ! 
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| Jul 1, 2008 @ 1:17 PM |
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Silver1961
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| Jul 1, 2008 @ 1:20 PM |
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Aeromuse
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I'm finding that getting involved in the forums was the smartest thing I could have done. Not that people can't lie and bullshit on the boards - but you have a much better idea of what you're dealing with, as opposed to just getting an email from some random guy(or girl, as the case may be.)
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| Jul 1, 2008 @ 1:27 PM |
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ladymarshall
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Met a man once that profile said divorced. He kept talking in terms that led me to believe that he was still married. He said yes I am but I never tried to hide it. And he is still married and still labels himself divorced. 
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| Jul 1, 2008 @ 1:28 PM |
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Silver1961
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Oh baby ~ I got to be in the middle of two pretty girls  
Have Cat cut his nuts off 
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| Jul 1, 2008 @ 1:31 PM |
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CathyCRN
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Scalpel in hand...ready for action!!! Let me at em.. 
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| Jul 1, 2008 @ 1:31 PM |
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painter007
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If you listen carefully and read carfully.......then everything will eventually come out in the wash. I think most people online are pretty nice overall.....
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| Jul 1, 2008 @ 1:39 PM |
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willowy1
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 did someone mention nuts?
I agree pretty painter  the balanced folk outweigh the unbalanced on the MD scale.
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| Jul 1, 2008 @ 1:44 PM |
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Silver1961
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I hear voices  
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| Jul 1, 2008 @ 1:45 PM |
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willowy1
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That is just me telling you not to smoke in the house. 
[Edited on 7/1/2008 1:47 PM]
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| Jul 1, 2008 @ 1:47 PM |
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Silver1961
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Doobie count 
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| Jul 1, 2008 @ 1:49 PM |
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painter007
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I think we have enough smoke in our sky to not be lighting up anything. Willow , is it bad where you are?
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| Jul 1, 2008 @ 2:39 PM |
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marylou
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WILLOW..........whose balanced?   
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| Jul 1, 2008 @ 3:10 PM |
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DiamondRain
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Holy cow! This is OT but can’t help it...
Just had a preliminary screening interview for my dream job and it went really well.
It’s just the preliminary interview, but it’s a start!
Wish me luck.
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| Jul 1, 2008 @ 3:15 PM |
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pamdemonium
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Best of luck to you! 
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