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LipGlossQueen9
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Alright....so you all know about my boyfriend who's coming to visit, I would guess.
Well today he called from his friend's bachelor party. I had expected that he would be gone all day and I didn't really care...we've gone weekends without talking before...I know he's with his friends (99% male) ....doesn't bother me.
So I get a phone call. It's him. I pick it up, and there's a f***ing crowd of rowdy, loud-ass men in the background. I'm used to that; he's called me from parties and such before and I don't really mind but they kind of freak me out. He asks me if I'll talk to his friend, the one that's about to get married.
The noise of all those guys yelling and screaming REALLY freaked me out. Whenever I have been around a crowd of noisy guys, I have always ended up being insulted, and I kind of flipped out and said "NO. No, I'm not doing that. No." So he said it was okay, and called me back a second later from I guess a back room or something where no one else was. We talked and this is where it got weird.
He started going on and on and on about how he was so, so sorry I was mad at him and wished that I wasn't mad. I assured him I wasn't mad, but that it was a knee-jerk reaction to a crowd of noisy guys. He didn't seem to get it. He started apologising profusely and talking about how much he loved me and how he hoped everything was alright because I am the most important thing in the world to him and all this whatever. Then he started to cry. Like...I heard him crying.
I am very aware that he could be drunk, but does this signify some deeper seated insecurity issue? I told him about 20 times that I wasn't angry with him and he kept begging me to give him forgiveness that didn't need to be given.
I don't know. Maybe I'm overreacting, but it just seems a little weird.
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| Jun 28 @ 1:48 PM |
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BandTMom
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Contrary to popular belief, I don't think alcohol brings out a person's "true" personality.
I think drinking causes us to act in ways we wouldn't otherwise. If he were drinking and got it in his head you were mad at him, the alcohol was probably causing him to focus on this and not letting reason come in.
I wouldn't worry about it unless it became a habitual thing.
Talk to him about it when he is sober.
He could also have been sad that his friend was getting married and you're so far away. 
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| Jun 28 @ 1:49 PM |
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Silver1961
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I would hope it was drug induced, otherwise sounds like some deeper issues that might be worth digging into. JMO I had some early indications that my ex had some deep rooted emotional problems, and I tried to ignore them.. and I payed for it in the end 
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| Jun 28 @ 3:05 PM |
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1RockinDude
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Long ago from past expirence, I had a GF that would do so on ocassion, I hope not in your case..but hers used to be because she felt guilty about something. It could be a number of things. Maybe he just missed you, if he was drinking..emotions comes from different forms..that is hard to tell the real reason , and the real person
Wish you all the best on the outcome  And like I said it could be diferent things.
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| Jun 28 @ 3:15 PM |
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Queenofcups
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I think drinking affects us all differently. But I have to say my experience with people who get drunk either get really pissy (not a good thing) or really soft and sweet. Kinda like the old beer commercials " I love you man "
He is probably the latter and I doubt there is a hidden issue. 
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| Jun 28 @ 3:24 PM |
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Loreli
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I would first think he just missed you and didn't want you to worry/be jealous/etc.
But-I have had that happen and just say Look sweetie-go have fun and call tomorrow.
People drinking tend to be less inhibited.
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| Jun 28 @ 3:29 PM |
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Angel178
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Don't give it a second thought...he is young and with friends drinking...
He thinks you are mad at him cause he is out having fun and you are not together...talk to him tomorrow... 
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| Jun 29 @ 9:58 AM |
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Angel178
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How's it going today? 
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| Jun 29 @ 10:00 AM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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I haven't heard from him yet. I don't know whether to call him or not.
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| Jun 29 @ 10:01 AM |
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Angel178
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He's prob asleep....
Give him a little time, he'll call you when he's ready
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| Jun 29 @ 10:13 AM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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I dunno, it's 5 PM where he is. I mean he could be asleep but still...
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| Jun 29 @ 10:17 AM |
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Angel178
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Maybe "text" him?
Everyone likes to get a text, right? 
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| Jun 29 @ 10:25 AM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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I can't text him, for some reason they never go through. I did try to call him and he didn't pick up. So either he's out with his friends or he's asleep. I don't know. But I'm just really worried about him now.
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| Jun 29 @ 10:27 AM |
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Angel178
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Don't worry, I'm sure it will all be ok 
That was meant to make you smile!
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| Jun 29 @ 10:32 AM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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thanks angel =)
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| Jun 29 @ 10:36 AM |
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Angel178
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You are welcome my friend! Keep me posted...I'm thinking about you!
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| Jun 29 @ 10:41 AM |
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1RockinDude
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Wishing all the best LipGloss
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| Jun 29 @ 10:46 AM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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lol Marko is alright. he just signed on MSN. he's hung over because he drank way too much last night (I could definitely hear that in his voice....he called me another time after I posted this to let me know he was okay and tell me not to worry - I wasn't worrying - and his speech was most definitely slurred). I'll make him go to sleep soon, probably.
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| Jun 29 @ 10:48 AM |
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Angel178
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 See...I knew it would be ok!
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| Jun 29 @ 10:50 AM |
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1RockinDude
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Good news! I am glad I rarely drink...such a quitter I am 
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