| Jul 18, 2008 @ 9:00 PM |
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gothicgirl2002
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there is this guy and he is so hot and me and him have been doing this cat and mouse game for 2 yrs now and he has made his presence known he is interested but has never actually approach me and said "hey lets talk" and because of who he is and his background i can see why.. im a nobody. and this is the kicker hes married but wanted my phone number...pfffttt
i am friends with a team mate of his and i know his team mate tells him everything.. wouldnt doubt it.. the guy does still have skills in the sport he played in professionally..
im at a point i go watch him play the sport and thats it..
good idea right?
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| Jul 18, 2008 @ 9:06 PM |
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1RockinDude
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I would leave the Vulture alone..He isnt the only guy out there..Too many warning signs ! Good luck
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| Jul 18, 2008 @ 9:15 PM |
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BandTMom
Posts: 38,059
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Run.
He's married.
Nuff said.
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| Jul 18, 2008 @ 9:17 PM |
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broomhilda
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why even waste your time and energy on someone who is with someone else. all you are doing is feeding his ego.
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| Jul 18, 2008 @ 9:40 PM |
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Jalon
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Umm...how old are you? Please tell me you've learned that you can do better than a married man by now! 
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| Jul 18, 2008 @ 9:46 PM |
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Loreli
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I'm sorry....you are old enough you should KNOW the answer to this question.
Ignore him....move on.
I feel sorry for his wife.....what an a-hole...
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| Jul 18, 2008 @ 9:49 PM |
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painter007
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I feel sorry for his wife also. Leave the married man alone. It takes more courage to work on a marriage or leave....then to cheat. Thats cowardly......jmo
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| Jul 18, 2008 @ 9:52 PM |
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daisy315
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if he's willing to mess around on his wife with you.. he's probably "doing" someone else too.. you sure you want to take the chance of catching something you can't get rid of?
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| Jul 18, 2008 @ 10:22 PM |
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LaughTillYaPuke
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How is this even an option?
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| Jul 18, 2008 @ 10:25 PM |
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BandTMom
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And at 47 she should know better.
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| Jul 18, 2008 @ 10:37 PM |
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Always_Striving
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His wife probably isn't giving him sex because she wants something like money for new shoes or something else along those lines. So he is just trying to fill the void in his life by filling your void. 
Do whatever you want, IMO
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| Jul 18, 2008 @ 10:43 PM |
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BandTMom
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Oh hell yes, do what you want....but don't expect to be more than a quick roll in the hay.
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| Jul 19, 2008 @ 12:55 AM |
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Gallows_Humor
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give the newbie a break.. ....imho the topic is valid.. but her example is flawed..and...she already came to the right conclusion...
im at a point i go watch him play the sport and thats it..
good idea right?
now then.. how do each of you deal with a profile/person that comes on strong...but then for no valid reason.. just backs down?
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| Jul 19, 2008 @ 1:00 AM |
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BandTMom
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Confused, Gallows.
I don't understand why someone shows interest and then backs down.
I guess it is fear.
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| Jul 19, 2008 @ 1:33 AM |
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Gallows_Humor
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don't understand why someone shows interest and then backs down.
I guess it is fear.
it could be.. or it could be any of several different reasons...
..in her example.. this "bantering" has been going on for two years...
 some of you state you want to "banter" here and via email and phonecalls...for a long time ...before actually taking it to the next level...
did it ever cross your minds.. that maybe..the reason someone only banters ( here on-line ) is usually because they are married? or afraid...or....
how would you react to "the situation" if that was the case here in this forum..? Is it ok to flirt with a married person just because it is "not real"?
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| Jul 19, 2008 @ 1:48 AM |
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BandTMom
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I guess there are many reasons people "banter".
In my experience, it is fear that keep s people apart, but this is not true for all.
Some just want friendships.
Some, as you stated Gallows, are married or hooked up.
We never really know who is behind the screen until we meet them in person.
And IMO only, it is not "OK" to flirt with a married (or committed) person unless that person is a friend and it is understood that it is all in fun.
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| Jul 19, 2008 @ 2:44 AM |
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Say_Yes
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I guess I just don't get it. Why on earth you would settle for a part lover, who is cheating on his spouse, is beyond me. Especially, when it says in your profile that you have been through a messy, ugly divorce yourself. Why on earth would you even be tempted to get involved with this guy.
There are a lot of single, decent, guys out there, who would be very interested in an attractive woman like you. If you want to be hurt again, then continue to play with fire. If you are ready to grow up and stop being a child, then get over the bum and walk away. At your age, don't you think it time that you grow up a bit?
BTW, you might want to rethink some of your "attributes". If you are considering messing around with someone elses husband, you are not trust worthy.
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| Jul 19, 2008 @ 8:52 AM |
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Jalon
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If you are considering messing around with someone elses husband, you are not trust worthy. 
give the newbie a break.. ....imho the topic is valid.. but her example is flawed I agree that the topic is valid, however, her *flawed* example may very well be an inside view of just whoshe is. In this medium, words are all we have to go by.
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| Jul 19, 2008 @ 9:24 AM |
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custis
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There is no point in any of this. He is married. He wants strange stuff but does not quite have the nerve to go get it. Either that or he is getting it and just keeping you on the backburner. Either way, he is off limits. Forget him and move on.
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| Jul 19, 2008 @ 12:12 PM |
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happygrlok
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His wife probably isn't giving him sex because
She probably already knows how he is.
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