| Dec 29, 2005 @ 1:17 PM |
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singlemom333
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hi, im new at posting here.......can anyone tell me why ppl have particular tastes when looking for their other half?....whats up with that?....doesnt the inside count more than whats on the outside?........ 
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 1:25 PM |
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chinabull2000
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In any good relationship there HAS to be a physical attraction!! It's all very well loving a person's character and personality, but if you do not find him or her attractive then the relationship will simply not last.
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 1:27 PM |
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chinabull2000
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and singlemom, in your profile you have stated that your partner has to be between 32-42(firm). This surely is the type of particular tastes you are objecting to,because you are saying that no matter how beautiful a person he might be, you do not want him if he does not meet your age criteria.
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 1:35 PM |
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Mischief484
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Beat me to it, ChinaBull.
Welcome to the forums, singlemom.
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 2:17 PM |
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walkingman
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thats just how it is. If no one had particular taste's then we would all be with someone. we all know that will never happen.
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 2:48 PM |
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someone_me
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doesnt the inside count more than whats on the outside?........
singlemom, no offence meant here, but I usually only hear this statement coming from women who are trying to overlook one of their own flaws (in their thinking or in what they think a guy would like that they don't have).
It's become such a cliche' that's it's almost sickening to hear. Of course the inside counts... duh... but you've got to have something on the outside too that makes me want to find out what's on the inside. And yes, even I have lowered my physical standards of what I like in a woman to go out with some who had such great personalities they made up for it. 
And please, don't expect us guys to think just like you women do. We never will, unless he's a guy who's become some feminized "metrosexual". We both are wired differently and it should be this way. I will never apologize for being male and thinking like one and won't expect you to apologize for being female (except when you change your mind, get overly emotional for no reason at all, or start acting fickle  ).
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 3:27 PM |
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sweet5red
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i am open on my age category.. but really do love my music its important to me........ sweet N louisiana
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 3:35 PM |
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swingpup
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A great pain of lungs coupled with a couple of kidneys, a liver.....and a loving caring heart. Add to that an incredible mind and a sexy body....WOWSA. It's covered both inside and out.  
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| Dec 29, 2005 @ 7:09 PM |
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singlemom333
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hi again.....you all made me think and i needed that to realize my own answer to my own question. by the way chinabull, i did not say i did not want them....but u made a good point...
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 2:22 AM |
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lola1921
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Looks matter,let's face it. BUT someone who you don't think it is very attractive can become attrative when you talk to them cuz their personality shones thru.The same thing goes for an extraordianarely attractive person..usually they can open their mouth,start talking & the more they talk they more I rather be w/the average looking guy w/the great set of jokes... 
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 8:32 AM |
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someone_me
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Did you ever hear the one about the guy who... 
singlemom, there's nothing wrong with having particular tastes at all. If someone says otherwise, they are lying. We all have likes and dislikes. Someone who knows what they want is ahead of the game in my book, unless their expectations are unrealistic.
For me, I like attractive, intelligent women who are fun. Dumb people are boring to me, so are those who are so serious about all this that they've forgotten how to relax and be themselves. It just won't lead to a healthy relationship.
Show me a woman who can help a guy relax and have fun around her and I'll show you a woman who's not lacking for dates.
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 9:29 AM |
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Silvertongue62
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My opinion is most people over think everything. Now to answer your question, It only counts when they are writing their profile. Me myself i like everyone until they give me a reason not to. But that isnt the case with most individuals. Most arrived armed with their prejustice in one arm and their unsubstantiated opinion in the other. But ! Dont expect them to admit this. Here's some deductive reasoning for ya. How many people listed in their profile that they were insensitive, stupid, lacked moral judgement, argumentative, unreliable, and last but not least lie? I thought so. But if you read the profiles, we are all saints. But on the other hand there are some people here that make an attempt at being who they say they are. My point is we all have our prejustice and we disguise them with words like preference, particular taste, I prefer, and one of my all time favorites is I only like. How do you know if you havent tried anything else? All of these words dont describe people. They describe a cup of coffee. ex: I like this brand of coffee because the other brands give me gas. That is called "cause and effect". There is no "cause and effect" when it come down to people. However when this happens we are actually discounting one type of human being over another. To answer your question in the real world it doesnt exist. It only exist in the image that we try to project to others. I myself am not without exception. The difference is, some arrive to the race displaying it as a hood ornament and deny that it's theirs. But thats just my opinion.
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 10:53 AM |
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Silvertongue62
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One more thing
Be resilient, and dont wear your emotions on your sleeve. There are alot of insensitive people out here. Brush it off and continue to the next hopeful. Thats just my opinion.
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 10:57 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Move on is right...take it as a lesson learned..perhaps if your too picky ..you may overlook the one thats meant for you 
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 11:23 AM |
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kinglouis2005
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I prefer strawberry
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 7:03 PM |
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ladyraindove74
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Silver...I tend to think as you do. I like everyone until, as you say, they give you a reaon. Even then, I can see their good qualities as well as their flaws. And, as to looks and outer coatings, hmm...there's a lot that I can overlook...but..what I can't overlook is lack of brains and honesty. So I guess in that respect I do have a preference...but...I also try to give everyone a chance to show their positive qualities.
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| Jan 3, 2006 @ 8:30 AM |
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samwedge
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unfortunately we live in a world where preferences tend to sway people to look for the attributes that appeal to them, me included. What is the point of loving someones inside, when you are not keen on the outside,,,,recipe for disaster!!!
With me it is my age i think that holds potential suitors back...so it is not just inside and outside, can we win?
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| Jan 3, 2006 @ 10:25 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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 Your age?..I tend to disagree with you on that one Sam..yer not at all old..
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| Jan 3, 2006 @ 10:35 AM |
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Technologic
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Singlemom, why the "ass shot" in your profile?
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| Jan 3, 2006 @ 10:43 AM |
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waiting41
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I'm so glad you asked that......I didn't look at the profile, but, it was on here the other day
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