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Laidback742
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Not me .... never.
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| Oct 28 @ 2:08 PM |
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RareQuestor
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These things are only matters of concern if you sit around worrying about them too much.
Indeed? I recall reading a report about women who had been forced to undergo mastectomies in order to treat breast cancer. Nearly every woman interviewed reported that her self-esteem was severely affected after one or both of her breasts were removed. It did not matter how confident or cheerful they had been or whether they were married to wonderful man and had children: They did not feel like a woman anymore after the operation. All reported that it took quite some time to learn to cope with this sense of loss. Ponder that for a moment: It did not affect their mind or character or heart and yet their self-esteem was still connected (at least to a certain extent) to the appearance of their body.
However much we wish to deny it, I think that we all have certain expectations of the opposite gender. (It is probably instinctive rather than a conscious choice.) Stories such as "Beauty and the Beast" or "The Hunchback of Notre Dame" appeal to us precisely because they speak to our inner fears. We all want to believe that character is more important than appearance. What we do not wish to admit is that character is influenced by appearance. (This does not mean that appearance determines character, of course.) If nothing else, a person who is deformed or disfigured learns how deceptive appearances can be and how shallow people can be and how first impressions are often unreliable.
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| Oct 28 @ 7:10 PM |
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1stsignofspring
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You know Rare....there is alot of real truth to that..... 
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| Oct 28 @ 7:18 PM |
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budo13
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Love an emotion reserved for poets and fools
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| Oct 28 @ 7:19 PM |
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1stsignofspring
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I must be a foolish poet then.....I will never give up....and you shouldn't either Budo! 
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| Oct 31 @ 3:48 PM |
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sthnhylander
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haven't given up........I'm just being patient
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| Oct 31 @ 3:49 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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Love an emotion reserved for poets and fools
How sad.
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| Oct 31 @ 3:51 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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They did not feel like a woman anymore after the operation
Rare...I can agree with this. I have not had breasts removed because of breast cancer, but as I have revealed on this forum before...my breasts are severely asymmetrical...to the point where I consider them deformed.
My boyfriend loves them, simply because they are mine. When he was here, he paid a lot of attention to them and when we engage in phone sex he doesn't leave them out, but it doesn't stop me from feeling like I don't want him to go near them at all or even see them.
I don't feel like a woman some of the time. I see women with what I consider to be "perfect", full breasts, and I look down at the monstrosities that I see on my chest and I feel like I'm a fraction of the woman I should be. It's a very hard thing for a woman to deal with.
Sorry for the double post.
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| Nov 1 @ 9:36 AM |
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tatiana329
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Giving up on ideas that are not realistic is a good thing. I see too much that so many people do not know what healthy love is. They would be better in not dating just to avoid the chaos and heartbreak. Their time would be better spent learning to love and depend on themselves, so that healthy and meangful love can find them, even if it's only in themselves and with their creator.
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| Nov 1 @ 10:26 AM |
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catman602
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I have given up on finding love . Sweetest day cam and went . on mail . so , I begged my ex to spend the day with me . IF , a woman was to ask me out . I would like that and NO , if , a woman takes me out to eat that DOES NOT MEAN I EXPECT SEX IN RETURN . I know , alot of woman at work tell me about guys who think that if they buy them a meal they want sex for it . one woman went with guy on a date 5mins into it he asked her sex . I told her  he is not after you . First date . we get to know each other . second date . a little more . 3rd date . we know each a little more . 4th date . ( IF I even get that far ) makes plans to meet . 5th date . go shopping . 6th date . and so on . what ever the woman says .
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| Nov 1 @ 11:56 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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I haven`t given up on Love..I just gave up on lookin` for it...
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| Nov 2 @ 12:41 AM |
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lobo65
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I am about ready to give up. Just had another woman who contacted me first, feigned serious interest, and has vanished apparently. Getting jerked around is getting old. 
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| Nov 2 @ 1:19 AM |
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KAOS2007
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| Nov 2 @ 1:20 AM |
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Daviator
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Getting jerked around is getting old. And vice versa...
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| Nov 2 @ 1:28 AM |
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kywonder
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Love is what makes the world go around. Wish I could find that "love (I mean merry) go around."
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| Nov 2 @ 1:11 PM |
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tatiana329
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I found love but I wasn't looking... funny how that works.
He just came out of nowhere and was everything a man should be, which I found was rare in the dating world.
so...
to me, love isn't something you look for.
I dont know of any healthy, strong realtionships where people went looking, the ones that look, seems all they get is surprises, bad ones.
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| Nov 2 @ 6:42 PM |
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dwg40
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Love is not something you can look for..... rather it is something that is EARNED....... It all begins with FRIENSDSHIP first and a mutual trust, respect, and admiration for one another. Real love just does not happen overnight it takes time and commitment to one another. It takes getting to know one another intimately as a person for both someones faults and qualities as well as having a mutual understanding for one another, but in order to fall in love one also has to be happy with oneself as a person and be willing to take the chance of letting another person inside which means letting go of the past and any bad experiences they might of had. if one dwells on the past then there can be no future. as far as physical true love love its not based on looks or how hot someone is. It's based on how much you care, respect and admire someone to the point that you want to show them physically how much they mean to you. True love does exsist although there are many that would say otherwise and when it does come along DO NOT LET IT SLIP away as i have loved and learned and eventually I will ove again when the right person comes along
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| Nov 2 @ 7:36 PM |
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grneyedlady1969
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How sad that people feel they should give up on love. That they are happier, more satisfied without it. Could it be that their last love was not true love? After all, when things were going right, there was not a better feeling in the world. But when things went wrong, people decided they can no longer deal with the hurt. If you have any age on you at all, you realize that being hurt is devastating, but also comes with the territory. When you hold nothing back from that special person in your life, you have given them the power to hurt you. But, doesn't that hurt eventually heal, hurting less and less? Doesn't that feeling diminish, to be replaced by other feelings? And should you really regret anyone that has crossed your path in life? After all, didn't you learn something from them? Though you felt as if your heart had been ripped from your chest, didn't it go on beating? Giving you another day of sunshine, another day of beauty and another day of feeling the wind on your face?
When you regret someone coming into your life because you have experienced pain, you sever loving feelings within yourself to be replaced by hatred and contempt. And you bring those bitter thoughts and feelings into another relationship... and IF that one goes bad, again, you are repeating the same emotional disturbance to yourself.
When you learn that being in love with someone and being in love with the IDEA of someone is completely different, then you can truly love again.
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| Nov 2 @ 8:08 PM |
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Laidback742
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If it happens, consider yourself lucky .... if it lasts, even better .... if not, no big deal .... I'm done worrying about it happening ....
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