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last_time
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Or a constant work in progress.
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| Aug 11 @ 12:07 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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constant work in progress.
if it didn't take any work what's it worth
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| Aug 11 @ 12:08 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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A good relationship with be both and neither..the ease of how you interact with a person should be effortless.. a constant strain to be *ON* or *Make it work* is a death sentence for sure.. and a work in progress just like a fine work of art ..ever adding to the beauty.. enhancing it and keeping the spark alive 
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| Aug 11 @ 12:09 PM |
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Jalon
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In the beginning, yes. If you're struggling to get along from the very first then you most likely not suited for one another. I think effort comes in when keeping a relationship going.
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| Aug 11 @ 12:12 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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I think effort comes in when keeping a relationship going.
Yeah, that's basically what I meant
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| Aug 11 @ 12:26 PM |
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SaintBacon
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Work in progress. People change, evolve, hopefully become more mature. So couples need to communicate constantly, and adapt to the changes that naturally take place in a relationship. I don't think a person should have to "work" at their relationship because that sort of sounds negative to me for some reason. You shouldn't have to work at it, but you do need to communicate and adapt so that you grow together instead of growing apart.
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| Aug 11 @ 12:58 PM |
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last_time
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need to communicate and adapt so that you grow together instead of growing apart. Communication seems to be the missing ingredient in most relationships nowadays.
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| Aug 11 @ 1:56 PM |
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sweet5red
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communication and compromise on both parts......Sweet N Louisiana  
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| Aug 11 @ 1:59 PM |
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last_time
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communication and compromise on both parts. You're right on that Sweetred. Now to find someone with a like thought process.
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| Aug 11 @ 2:29 PM |
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Loreli
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We are constantly changing, and running into obstacles in life.
We are a work in progress-but reaching resolutions and goals should be a bonding...not an effort.
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| Aug 11 @ 3:03 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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A good relationship with be both and neither..the ease of how you interact with a person should be effortless.. a constant strain to be *ON* or *Make it work* is a death sentence for sure.. and a work in progress just like a fine work of art ..ever adding to the beauty.. enhancing it and keeping the spark alive
That describes my take on it perfectly...when you work your way through a 'bump' and find it helped you understand and appreciate each other even more than before....
(I have to admit that he's got the evener keel of the two of us, and understands exactly how to calm me down while we work it through, but heck, three bumps in 18 months ain't half bad, plus the more time we spend together, the better it gets)
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| Aug 11 @ 3:14 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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Aww Heaven yeppers working THRU stuff.. and knowing HOW to is a big thing..
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| Aug 11 @ 3:23 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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Its a constant work in progress, as we grow ourselves, that should seem effortless, with trials to keep it interesting. 
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| Aug 11 @ 3:32 PM |
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tahoma
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A good relationship with be both and neither..the ease of how you interact with a person should be effortless.. a constant strain to be *ON* or *Make it work* is a death sentence for sure.. and a work in progress just like a fine work of art ..ever adding to the beauty.. enhancing it and keeping the spark alive
I couldn't have said that better myself
I hope my relationship is a continued work in progress... we continually work to better ourselves, and thus, each other... and our Love continues to progress into new directions, a constant learning experience. I mean, if we are going to be together when we are in our 70's and 80's, we may need to learn how to feed each other, right?   
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| Aug 11 @ 3:33 PM |
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fenderchick
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It should be a bit of both...The effort it might take to be together should balance out with how you feel about each other. Nothing just handed to you is usually worth having.
But you shouldn't have to work so hard at it that nothing ever get's better.
What do I know?
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| Aug 11 @ 7:23 PM |
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dooney123
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The more right the relationship is, the less work it requires. The more wrong the two of you are for each other, the more work the relationship requires. My relationship with my husband requires a little work, but give me so much more in return, that it doesn't feel at all like work. Previous relationships were a lot of work, and I got a lot less out of them. I smile a lot more now and complain a lot less.
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| Aug 11 @ 8:29 PM |
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michedkel
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A true relationship takes effort to maintain over a period of time. As couples get to know each other, they begin to see each others shortcomings. The true test begins when a person accepts the other's shortcomings and decides to love them in spite of them. There are always peaks and valleys and our willingness to understand this dynamic and to remember the committment we made to the other can make any relationship endure. I used to tell my wife that our relationship was never boring and we always tried to not go to bed angry. Some of the best sex I have ever had was after a major fight.
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| Aug 11 @ 8:38 PM |
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last_time
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The true test begins when a person accepts the other's shortcomings and decides to love them in spite of them. Well said.
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| Aug 11 @ 9:01 PM |
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katydid438
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| Aug 12 @ 2:54 AM |
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marylou
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Depends how short the shortcomings are.....LOL. Too long...and hard to put up with to the point where I am not comfy that often......then I dont want it. But small things are OK....you can learn to live with them over time.......as long as they are not a constant aggravation.
I agree with what Becky said mostly.....something that is as effortless as possible and comfortable sounds great to me.
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