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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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yay or nay?
and why?
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| Sep 16, 2008 @ 5:22 PM |
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Jalon
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Is this more of a "Dating and Sex" topic?
Umm...YAY! I'd like to say until you've become monogomous,both checked out "clean" and made a mutual decision about birth control would be as long as condoms would be necessary. In the real world though, there are no guarantees that both parties will remain monogomous...so technically, you'd never get to stop using them.
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| Sep 16, 2008 @ 5:24 PM |
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SamIam43
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Definitely Yes! Everyone has a past. Don't expose yourself to God knows what. Besides, STDs are the gift that keeps on giving!
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| Sep 16, 2008 @ 5:26 PM |
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painter007
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If Im going to be doing the sexy...........I would go with him....and.get all the tests done......I dig the natural...way....and feel....jmo 
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| Sep 16, 2008 @ 5:28 PM |
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Jalon
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^^^I have to agree that "natural" is best!! 
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| Sep 16, 2008 @ 5:59 PM |
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Carol386
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yep - natural - only when we both know its safe
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| Sep 16, 2008 @ 6:19 PM |
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Fender
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I have to say I hate condoms...I prefer it natural all the way...I don't prefer diseases though. I've never had one and never want to...So I'll take it wrapped to go please!
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| Sep 16, 2008 @ 7:35 PM |
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DiamondRain
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Problem is that you can NEVER know if your partner has cheated or not. People get STDs even in supposedly monogamous relationships including in marriage.
One of my EX gf's best friends got HIV the very first time she had sex.
So when would it NOT be a good idea to use a condom? Even if the idea is to intentionally try to induce pregnancy, so you therefore use no condom, you are exposing yourself.
Condoms reduce the chance of contracting some life threatening diseases. No matter what your circumstances, every time you do not use one, you are playing Russian Roulette.
Yep, topic belongs in Dating & Sex ...
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| Sep 16, 2008 @ 7:38 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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If you both know you're clean...for sure...and the girl is on the pill to prevent pregnancy if pregnancy is unwanted...
I don't see why a couple should still use condoms.
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| Sep 16, 2008 @ 7:42 PM |
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DiamondRain
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Because the problem is that you cannot know if the other person is “clean.” Even if they got an HIV test at one point, they could be infected the next day and you wouldn’t know it.
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| Sep 16, 2008 @ 7:44 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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While you're right, not everybody cheats and if you can't trust your partner...to the point where you're wearing condoms late into a relationship after you've both been tested....maybe you shouldn't be with that person
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| Sep 16, 2008 @ 7:49 PM |
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Jalon
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^^^Yes, not everyone cheats, however some viruses may not "show up" for years. To my knowledge, there is no test for men for HPV...and is frequently without symptoms for men (and some women). So, any man (or woman) could be a carrier and not even know it.
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| Sep 16, 2008 @ 7:54 PM |
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DiamondRain
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The problem is that you cannot know if the person you are with will cheat or not.
Just about everybody believes “My partner would never cheat. That would never happen to me” Yet cheating goes on all the time and is extremely common.
The whole point about cheating is that it is a deception, it is always a surprise to the one who is cheated on. That is what makes it cheating. Most of the time it is completely unexpected and the partner is shocked to find out about it.
Everyone thinks they are the exception, yet many who think they are, are not.
So logically, when is it safe not to use a condom?
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| Sep 16, 2008 @ 7:59 PM |
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Carol386
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[Logically] it would never be safe to go without a condom - I personally just couldn't imagine after being with someone long term, still using a condom - just my preference
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| Sep 16, 2008 @ 8:00 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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I agree...my last ex and I stopped using them after a few months....
And I'm completely clean
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| Sep 16, 2008 @ 8:04 PM |
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DiamondRain
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I agree that most people don’t use condoms when in a long term relationship.
I’m just making the point that they are (consciously or subconsciously) making a decision to take a chance that increases their chances of contracting a sexually transmitted disease.
It doesn’t only happen to people having casual sex. It happens to people engaged in long term relationships too. That is my point.
[Edited on 9/16/2008 8:06 PM]
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| Sep 16, 2008 @ 8:06 PM |
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Skydognc
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absolutely YAY!
then you dont have to clean the mess off your hand!
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| Sep 16, 2008 @ 8:06 PM |
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painter007
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And when Im in a long term.....I will take the chance....We will take what ever tests are available......but other than that. I dig the natural way....jmo
I dont do casual.....never have.....
[Edited on 9/16/2008 8:08 PM]
[Edited on 9/16/2008 8:10 PM]
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| Sep 16, 2008 @ 8:07 PM |
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CathyCRN
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And a great point you make, DR  HIV may not show up on a blood test for 6 months to a year. So, even if you get tested together, if either party has been with another person within a year, it is still possible that they are infected. As for HPV...most strains of HPV have no symptoms for females or males. The symptom-free strains are the ones that cause cervical cancer...so, unless you've had Gardisil (and nobody here is young enough to have had it), you may be at risk. Just my two cents...
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| Sep 16, 2008 @ 8:13 PM |
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Carol386
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DR that is very true - sadly I know people who's SO cheated and then brought bad things home. Its certainly taking a chance by not using a condom but every day when you get up, you are taking a chance that something bad might happen to you. Its just a personal choice/chance
I would say that no one that has had sex can say they are completly "clean & safe" - maybe they've tested negative but not clean. Things can linger for many years before showing itself
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