| Oct 8, 2008 @ 5:20 PM |
If girls don't flirt with me, is that abnormal? Should I make the first move?
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LeChristophe
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I'm pretty new to this kind of thing, but I'm 23 and have never really been flirted with by girls yet...you know, never asked "Are you doing anything Saturday?" or been given an interested look or anything like that. When I look at girls politely and smile, they are cordial but quickly go on walking -- I've never had one look back. 
I had thought that most guys get flirted with by the time they're in their early twenties (unless it has something to do with that "playing hard-to-get" thing!), so I kinda feel like I'm missing out on a fun part of life and a way to get to know people! If most guys DO get interested looks and flirtations, could anyone suggest what I might be doing wrong...what the biggest "turn-off" might be? 
- It could be my looks. My earlier thread established that I'm probably not what most people consider good-looking these days.  Here's the link to my picture again though if anyone else wants to give an honest opinion, in case it takes a while for my photo to upload:
http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=viewImage&friendID=234628366&albumID=0&imageID=16524673
...But then again, I've seen some pretty UGLY guys get hit on! 
- It could be the way I dress. Even though I act like a screwball most of the time and would be most interested in girls who are also the more hyper, playful type, I just feel more comfortable dressing classy, in an admittedly old-fashioned kind of way; I just feel extremely awkward in trendy T-shirts and jeans, always have!  But, I can see where this might make me look "unreachable" to a lot of gals too, if I look more like a lawyer or something in his thirties than a student in his twenties! 
...BUT,should I really change my style to appeal to the current trends, or might a lot of girls like someone who simply feels comfortable being unique instead?
- It could be personality. I find this doubtful since people really don't see a lot of a person's personality just passing by, but I am nervous around girls...so oftentimes when I'm around them I tend to act more formal and not my usual self. 
Now, if it's that girls simply DON'T flirt as readily as the movies suggest, do most guys these days make the first move instead?  If so, how do I go about it...start a conversation with someone I find attractive or charming without scaring them off or looking like some kind of a predator or something? Is it really appropriate nowadays to just give someone a phone number or email address after chatting for a while?
Thanks everyone! Sorry, I got a little carried away with the emoticons... 
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| Oct 8, 2008 @ 5:38 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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If girls don't flirt with me, is that abnormal? It is if you're me.
But that aside, you have no photo here at md.
Women are lazy if you're lazy. If you don't care enough to post a photo here why would they care enough to follow a like to what you may or may not look like?
You said your shy, I get that, I really do. But I have learned that online you don't need to be.
Throw out your lines and see what bites. The more you show yourself, the more views received, the the greater chance you'll come across the aggressive woman you are seeking.
You have to turn them on to have the running well. 
Now I smelt something beautiful over in the next thread. Good luck
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| Oct 8, 2008 @ 5:50 PM |
If girls don't flirt with me, is that abnormal? Should I make the first move?
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LeChristophe
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I did post a picture, it's just pending approval!!! Actually, I don't want people to think I'm "looking" for someone here yet either; I'm really just trying to get pointers for now!
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| Oct 8, 2008 @ 5:52 PM |
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Merchitown
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Hey! Why not look here? 
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| Oct 8, 2008 @ 5:55 PM |
If girls don't flirt with me, is that abnormal? Should I make the first move?
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LeChristophe
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Well...er...I guess I want to work on my approaches before I actually start "looking", so that I don't come off as too aggressive -- or too nervous, on the other side of the coin! That's why I'm just gathering up advice for now.
Plus, I've probably already made too much of a fool of myself asking questions like these to score many points right now!!!
[Edited on 10/8/2008 5:57 PM]
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| Oct 8, 2008 @ 5:56 PM |
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Merchitown
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Read and learn, darlin. I will tell you, the key is believing in yourself. Know you can do it, and you'll find that you can.
Goodness, Christophe, you're a hop skip and a jump away from me!
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| Oct 8, 2008 @ 5:59 PM |
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KatiefromStafford
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Hey, there are some lovely ladies here who (I am sure!) will be willing to give you all the pointers you need! 
Katie
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| Oct 8, 2008 @ 6:06 PM |
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Laidback742
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Jeez ..... stop worrying so damn much .... lighten up .... if you're negative about yourself, or nervous around women, or question yourself and how you act, or anything else that doesn't feel positive, other people are going to sense it .... don't feel like you have to impress them to get a wink or whatever in return .... the harder you try to fit in or be cool or whatever, the more it seems that you're uncomfortable with yourself and/or your surroundings ..... chill out, relax and quit stressing it ... you'll get a lot farther.
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| Oct 8, 2008 @ 6:07 PM |
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JOY555
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I think you should shave your mustache and cut your hair shorter. It will make you look younger.
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| Oct 8, 2008 @ 6:20 PM |
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Jalon
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^^^She's 100% right! Loose the moustache and cut your hair shorter. You have nice eyes and a good smile so just LOOSEN up! Women can sense your "tenseness" which is what makes you unapproachable...not your looks.
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| Oct 8, 2008 @ 6:33 PM |
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LeChristophe
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So to clarify...you're saying that even though my looks are a bit out of style (and by a bit, I mean by about a century!), it's NOT the looks that are turning them off in your view...it's the tenseness that's more important?
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| Oct 8, 2008 @ 6:58 PM |
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Jalon
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Yep. I think the hair cut and shave would make you more appealing to women your age, but the real problem is that you're uptight!
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| Oct 8, 2008 @ 7:09 PM |
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Merchitown
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An updated look also goes along way to making the person feel more confident. Although I still know a couple guys who have mullets and hubba hubba! The important thing is, if you think you look good, then you probably do. 
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| Oct 8, 2008 @ 7:16 PM |
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JOY555
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I don't think your look is a century old. I just think it needs a little updating.
You did ask for opinions 
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| Oct 8, 2008 @ 7:18 PM |
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drs297
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what the hell.. sounds like your researching for a college paper or some shit.. pull your pants down, yank on your balls, if you yell your a man and act like it..
sheesh
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| Oct 8, 2008 @ 7:19 PM |
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Merchitown
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LOL Dammit DRS!! I snorted on water!
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| Oct 8, 2008 @ 7:41 PM |
If girls don't flirt with me, is that abnormal? Should I make the first move?
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Loreli
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 drs
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| Oct 8, 2008 @ 7:42 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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DRS does that intentionally, Merch............he likes giving mouth-to-mouth or the Heimlich!
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| Oct 8, 2008 @ 8:04 PM |
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Fender
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No one flirts with me either...I just make out with people when I'm drunk...It's a great hobby. You should try it.
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| Oct 9, 2008 @ 11:27 AM |
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warrior674
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Girls flirt with me...but not in real life.
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