| Oct 26, 2008 @ 8:45 PM |
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Here's the scenario:
You see someone attractive on a dating site and decide to send them a message. You say hello, make a little small talk and are careful to end with a few thoughtful questions so that they will not have to struggle to think of what to write back about. You spice it up with some clever introductory humor.
Next day, great! they wrote back! The message has 2 sentences -- both declarative with not a question in return in site -- and responds to *your* thoughtful questions with a single word: yes or no.
Lovely! That helps you a lot. NOT.
Okay you figure, maybe they are just a little shy. Being an adroit conversationalist, you are slightly shaken, but not yet defeated.
So you construct an even more careful response this time making sure that even the most timid and elusive of conversational partners feels safe and secure telling you something useful that you can use as the raw material to salvage this one sided repartee before it goes bust. You pitch this response right into their mitt so there is no way the runner is going to steal any more bases.
Next day ahhhh, there it is! the fresh response you have been waiting for!
“Yes, no, yes, yes.“
Now you are starting to feel dejected. “I’m doing all the work,” you think. “Can’t you give me SOMETHING, ANYTHING to work with here?”
You’ve experienced this too many times before, so you decide this time not to wait for the third strike.
You get right to it and write back “I can’t tell if you want to continue our conversation. Are you sure you are interested in getting to know each other?”
Next day you get the response “Yes!”
UUUUUUUUURRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 8:50 PM |
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 8:52 PM |
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lj450
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Perhaps you should stop asking yes or no questions.
Are you sure you are interested in getting to know each other?”
Other than that, all I can offer is......hmm. 
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 8:52 PM |
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warrior674
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yes 
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 8:55 PM |
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1RockinDude
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haha..So true ! funny stuff.
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 8:57 PM |
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lj450
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You see someone attractive on a dating site and decide to send them a message
That was your first mistake.
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 9:02 PM |
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DiamondRain
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I need a beer. 
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 9:08 PM |
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signme
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Been there, done that, DR. I finally told the guy, if you want to hold my interest you really need to write more in your emails. He answered, "ok". Needless to say, my interest went south!
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 9:10 PM |
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DiamondRain
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Uh buoy! 
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 9:16 PM |
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CathyCRN
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I don't even bother communicating with that type of person as he/she obviously lacks the intellect to communicate adequately. Why waste your time with someone that will probably be boring as hell on a date!!! Take it for what it is and look elsewhere...
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 9:18 PM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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Ok!
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 9:18 PM |
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 9:19 PM |
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lj450
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You can determine how much fun a person would be on a real life date, by how much they like to type online?  Amazing.
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 9:21 PM |
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CathyCRN
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yes
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 9:21 PM |
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 9:30 PM |
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DiamondRain
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Let’s put it this way. If she’s hot looking enough, you keep hoping against hope.
But after a while even a horny bastard like me has to quit. There’s only so much a mind can take! 
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 9:33 PM |
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lj450
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Well, if online correspondence is something that is high on your list of importance, then I guess you should find someone with similar interests.
Personally, I would be more impressed with someone who does not place much stock in cyber life.
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 9:36 PM |
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CathyCRN
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There's a direct corelation between online conversation and real conversation. If someone answers questions with simple yes/no answers, will they do the same on the phone? In person? Do they have nothing to say for goodness sakes!!! How annoying is that!!! Personally, if I can't effectively communicate with another person online, it is doubtful that communication in any other venue will be worth a crap...
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 9:42 PM |
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DiamondRain
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There’s more to it than that too.
When I write, I am concerned with making the conversation comfortable for the other person. I want to make it easy for them to respond.
When someone responds like this it makes me feel they don’t have the same concern for me. I don’t expect them to necessarily be as glib a communicator as I am  but could they at least make SOME effort?
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 9:45 PM |
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drs297
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next letter just write man your a bitch..
you might get a few more words in a response
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