| Oct 27, 2008 @ 2:21 AM |
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poeticcougar
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The deal at work is that I text my boss' husband every morning when I get to work so that they know I am there (he works earlier than I do so he's awake and it doesn't wake her up by calling her at home...no big deal). We text back and forth a bit about work. When I gave my notice he started texting to tell me not to quit and that he cares. Ok that's sweet...they've all tried to convince me not to quit.
Today he asked if I was dating anyone. none of his business but he says he has friends if I'm interested. which proceeded later to being "what about me?"  WTF!? then he asks if his wife knows we talk and not to tell her. WTF!?
My saving grace is that I have no more morning shifts and am done on Saturday. I WON'T tell his wife 'cause I respect the lady way too much. But geez louise....
do I have MARRIED MAN MAGNET written all over my forehead? 
it freaked me out.........and I don't freak out easily.
what do I do if he writes again like that? I don't know if he was kidding or serious.
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 5:01 AM |
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sthnhylander
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Text him back next time..
You have a mechnical mind...it's a shame you forgot to wind it up this morning. 
or
If I gave you a penny for your thoughts...I'd get change.
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If brains were dynamite you wouldn't have enough to sneeze. 
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 6:55 AM |
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drs297
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simply say yes, your wife knows we text..
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 7:56 AM |
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DJ1024
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if it happens again, just laugh at him & say i never play w/married men - there's plenty of single ones out there. if you weren't leaving the company you could also say you never date coworkers.
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 8:42 AM |
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BeachCrete
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It's always easier to just tell the truth.Tell him that you respect his wife and yourself too much to even go that route.That should get the point across and get you out of that situation.
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 9:55 AM |
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Loreli
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File sexual harassment against him.
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 10:10 AM |
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kjac
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See, and you said you were having trouble finding a date. I told you the men would come flocking to you when they realized you were single again. 
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 10:46 AM |
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willowy1
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tell him yes you are dating,,,you are dating his wife.
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 10:50 AM |
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tahoma
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I'm with Beach on this one... the truth is always the best solution. Filing sexual harassment is really harsh and can cause permanent damage to his business... which others count on as well... I'd say it would cause permanent damage to his relationship with his wife, but he's doing that on his own. He doesn't need your help with that one. You are under no obligation to return his text messages once you're job has ended... easy fix that one
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 11:01 AM |
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Loreli
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I guess I took
it freaked me out.........and I don't freak out easily. to mean it was a pretty direct hit against the OP.
Sexual harassment charges don't always cost a job or close a business, and sometimes people outside the 2 and their representatives, never hear about it.
Including wives.
Although in this case, he doesn't deserve a good woman. 
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 11:44 AM |
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poeticcougar
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His wife knows we text each other. This started 6 months ago when I got my cell phone. It was her idea to do that with work. Yesterday was the first time it was no longer work related.
When he asked who I wouldn't consider dating I said "old, bald, fat stinky men"
his response was "what about me?"
I replied " You're married...that is the number one deal breaker." to which he said "Damn"
He wanted to set me up with his son awhile back until he realized I was 37 (his son just turned 20). So when he first mentioned I wasn't dating I thought he knew someone he could set me up with. Am I really that naive?
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 11:46 AM |
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invisible1
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Your last day is Saturday, less than a week. Do your usual text when you arrive, but do no other texting. If he texts you about ANYTHING other than work, ignore & delete.
If he texts you after you're no longer an employee, ignore & delete.
Some people thrive just on the attention itself. He'll get the picture.
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 11:55 AM |
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Gallows_Humor
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you are making far to big a deal about this as you gave your notice...
he enjoyed the reparte... and does not want it to stop after you leave..so he is trying to find a way to keep it going...
what you decide to do is all that matters in the end...
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 12:04 PM |
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Silver1961
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When he asked who I wouldn't consider dating I said "old, bald, fat stinky men"
his response was "what about me?"
So does he really meet the criteria 
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 12:11 PM |
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kjac
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You could always show the text to his wife. That would at least make your day a little exciting. 
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 12:28 PM |
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Silver1961
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This thread reminds me of something I did .. After I discovered my ex was cheating on me, I moved out. Shortly after that I learned she was sneaking around with a separated man that was trying to get back with his wife, but was lying to her whether he was dating anyone.. I asked my ex if she thought that was wrong, and she said ~ yes.. I told her that I was going to call this guy's wife, and she begged me not too.... I didn't, but I didn't tell her any different... I knew it was just killing her and her man to know if I had or not ..
So about a week later, my ex gives me a card apologizing for all her cheating  .. But the last paragraph begs for me not to tell her boyfriend's wife... So I got out the phone book, found her address, added a stamp and mailed it to the wife
My ex said this woman was unstable and the usual BS, and she wouldn't be able to handle the news Guess what ~ this gal called me about a week later to thank me for sending the card... She said that was the best Xmas gift she ever got .. She said she owed me a lunch.. I met with her, and it turns out she makes twice as much as her ex hubby, and he's a cheating drunk.. Go figure She said she is was happy with to hear he had a woman, so she wouldn't have to feel sorry for him anymore..
I love nailing cheaters 
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 12:42 PM |
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Gallows_Humor
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no offense..... really.. none meant........
but.. it seems to be soooo much...drama.....
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 12:53 PM |
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willowy1
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When he asked who I wouldn't consider dating I said "old, bald, fat stinky men"
his response was "what about me?"
I replied " You're married...that is the number one deal breaker." to which he said "Damn"
Sounds like he was just kidding around with you? I wouldn't make too much out of it.
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 5:07 PM |
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custis
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You just say, sorry, but I do not mess around with married men and if you continue to hit on me I will tell your wife.
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 5:25 PM |
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katydid438
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If his behaviour persists,,,just let his wife know!,,,it will probably just reinforce what she already has figured out about her "loving hubby"
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