| Oct 29, 2008 @ 11:19 PM |
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Angel178
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So helplessly in love, but it's over.....
How do you move on......
Even worse....How do you get over someone when you caused the break-up 
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| Oct 29, 2008 @ 11:39 PM |
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madamegeek
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If there is a chance to fix it, don't let pride stand in your way.
If you are certain that you cannot straighten the path between you two, only the passage of time will lead your feet to a new place.
Throw yourself into your work, your family, invest in plenty of Puffs Plus tissues, and know that, one day, you will breathe again. You will.
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| Oct 30, 2008 @ 12:12 AM |
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willowy1
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madame gives good advice but she forgot about self medicating! 
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| Oct 30, 2008 @ 12:42 AM |
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madamegeek
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Gin!! (or rummy!) Both or either will do!
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| Oct 30, 2008 @ 12:59 AM |
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1stsignofspring
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If you must move on and there is no hope of reconcilliation, then you must learn to forgive yourself.....you have to come to terms with your part in it in order to move on.....
and eat chocolate....lots and lots of chocolate!! Have a lots of friends who will let you have a pity party on their shoulder while you go through the healing process.....  and know that this too shall pass.... 
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| Oct 30, 2008 @ 1:33 AM |
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kattsmeow
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 You cry a lot, that I know. Then slowly, your life comes together again. You learn to look forward, because you can't change the past, but you can make plans for the future.
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| Oct 30, 2008 @ 1:44 AM |
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Say_Yes
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As Madame said, first you try all that you are able to repair the relationship. If it is a true love, don't give up too easily. Admit your mistakes, ask forgiveness and let him know, just how much you love him. If he loves you, then perhaps, things can be worked out. Hopefully that will be the outcome.
If, in the end that is not a possibility, then it simply takes time. From an emotional perspective, a love lost from the end of relationship, is no different from the sudden loss of a loved one from death. You need to grieve, allow yourself to get through the heart ache and then move forward with your life. It won't happen over night. If it took place that quickly, then the love was not real in the first place.
So, give yourself time. Don't hold things in, but rather let the pain out. Best wishes to you.
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| Oct 30, 2008 @ 6:32 AM |
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drs297
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find somebody who looks like that person and hook up with them?
I'm joking with ya.. can't really say much more, just takes time
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| Oct 30, 2008 @ 6:58 AM |
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Angel178
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Not about anyone specific...
Just notice a lot of relationships here where one or the other have a hard time moving on.....
Thanks for responding....more of a "what would you do if......" thread 
you are all so sweet
[Edited on 10/30/2008 8:28 AM]
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| Oct 30, 2008 @ 8:33 AM |
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Loreli
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Some people deal with it ok and others become whiney or mean. It's really dependent on individual's personalities.
It seems some NEVER stop....
So, I agree with Madame-it takes time, and it WILL happen.
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| Oct 30, 2008 @ 8:35 AM |
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catman602
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I have tried to move forward BUT no woman wants to take me by the hand and lead me to the land of milk and honey .
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| Oct 30, 2008 @ 8:42 AM |
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SaintBacon
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The adage "Time heals all wounds" is pretty true. Unfortunately, time is subjective and getting through that time can be very difficult. I still think about a woman I was in love with 32 years ago. It took at least 3 years to really get over that love. Fortunately there was plenty of pot around to smoke...that helped! 
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| Oct 30, 2008 @ 10:07 AM |
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custis
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Unless it is possible to repair the damage, you just have a good drunk and move on. There is nothing else you can do. Now you know what not to do next time.
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| Oct 30, 2008 @ 10:09 AM |
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custis
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If all else fails, come see me for some physical therapy. It works wonders.
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| Oct 30, 2008 @ 10:49 AM |
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Loreli
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Catman-
You must get comfortable with yourself before a woman can be expected to care for your emotions.
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| Oct 30, 2008 @ 11:00 AM |
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kjac
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Some will say you get back on that horse and start riding again. That's the last thing you should do. Take some time to yourself. Figure things out. Most of all, figure out what it's going to take to make you happy and focus on that. Before you know it, you're not trying to be happy, you're just happy.
That's what I did.
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| Oct 30, 2008 @ 11:16 AM |
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madamegeek
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Very true, kjac.
I also discovered that, before finding that I was unexpectedly "happy", there was a phase of the journey where I realized that I was no longer in pain.
Coasting in "neutral" was a joy after months of feeling aching loss.
We are all programmed to the seasons of life; it all comes round.
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| Oct 30, 2008 @ 12:25 PM |
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willowy1
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^^
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| Oct 30, 2008 @ 1:48 PM |
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sweet5red
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maybe you really didnt Cause the breakup.. maybe HE did.. after all or maybe he didnt say but he wanted that.. maybe he really wasnt THE one.. just things to consider.. Sweet N Louisiana but time does heal and you just start over..
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| Oct 30, 2008 @ 1:58 PM |
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marylou
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*.....After a breakup....I would let them go.....whether they cause it or I caused it..*...If one is willing to work it out and the other isnt willling to listen......well......there is no more to say.....or do but to move on. I wouldnt beg.....LOL. If there is mutual like and attraction on both sides......even if there are tiffs.......and feelings of being peed off.........if the liking or loving is REAL ....they will make every excuse to work things out.........and patch things up......until they cant be patched up any longer. If the liking and loving cant do that..........then no use banging ones head on a brick wall.......or frettting or grieving. Grieve for a time......and then leave the buggers behind......thats what I say.......heheheh......  
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