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tatiana329
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You know when people come on these sites single, find someone who moves across the country to be with them... and they break up.. OVER AND OVER and keep coming back to these sites? I mean whats with that? I see so much of that its making me wonder if something is wrong with these people.
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whats your take on it?
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| Nov 1, 2008 @ 9:30 PM |
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Loreli
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I only know of a couple moving cases.
The rest split after a LDR and meeting.
I think people need to examine what they are REALLY willing to do, And not start something they aren't more willing to adapt to.
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| Nov 1, 2008 @ 9:34 PM |
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tatiana329
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Even if they just move across town... but I do know of several who moved across the country.. ( yow)
I see this so much.
I dont know what to make of it... are these people dating site lifers? unable to be in a relationship or something? I see some of them still on the sites since I used them 8 years ago to date ( I am no longer dating but do come on for the forums)
I just dont get it.
Do they have bad judgement? hidden baggage? ... undateable?
I mean whats up with that?
Some of them even come on and brag about finding someone on the site and in a few months or a year.. BAM... they are single again and they do this over and over and over. Some I know to be doing this for yearssssssssssss.
whats up with that?
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| Nov 1, 2008 @ 9:41 PM |
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drs297
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shit happens.... I like to call it life. Not everybody you meet is going to be the one and nowadays people are smarter and don't settle others are just to damn picky. either way, really don't care
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| Nov 1, 2008 @ 9:47 PM |
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tatiana329
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Maybe some see people they meet on dating sites as short term dates? like to go out and eat and drink?
maybe some are overly picky too... but I am talking about the ones who quickly enter into relationships, move in together and after a short time........
break up, just to do it over and over and over.
Maybe they have some kind of "I only like sex with new people" addiction
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That would drain me emotionally... and its too much drama but maybe some people like chaos and ok with it ;)
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| Nov 1, 2008 @ 9:50 PM |
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drs297
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I have that sex addiction but don't move in with them.. hit and run is the best way
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| Nov 1, 2008 @ 9:52 PM |
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Laidback742
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It's trial and error based on emotions and potential for some people ... sometimes it works, sometimes not ... generally you have to travel to figure it out when it's based in this type of setting, which is the drawback ... but you never know if you don't try ...
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| Nov 1, 2008 @ 10:25 PM |
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KatiefromStafford
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I suspect some of it is that when you meet someone on here, you get one view of them (what they are willing to portray), when you meet them, they are on their best behavior for a while, and you want to believe things could work out.. but eventually, they can't keep up the lies anymore, and you finally see them for the person they really are, and then it all falls apart. The ones that keep coming back keep hoping (and praying) that they will find a genuine person, not the fakes they keep meeting... hope springs eternal..
I just keep the old adage in mind, "Better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved at all".
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| Nov 1, 2008 @ 11:03 PM |
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robodad
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OVER AND OVER and keep coming back to these sites  Sooo, how many times did you come back?
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| Nov 2, 2008 @ 11:25 AM |
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Skydognc
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yanno,
I really like the responses to this post !
Twice, I have taken a chance on love from this site........ and twice, it didnt work out, and we said good bye. I loved both of these women, but in the end, it just wasnt right for ither of us, and yes . I am back.
I have no regrets, and I am a better person having known both of them, for they each have added to my life.
Would I do it again?
Yes........
but I have also learned to seperate emotion, from reality!
Emotion precipitates decisions, not based on common sense or logic.
I have learned to approach an LDR, as if she is just down the street, and treat it accordingly. We are together, yet we have seperate lives, and will remain so, until we both are ready to be wed. If that day comes, we can discuss living together, either in marriage or not.
I have never used this site for a dating site, but I have met some here, who have caught my attention so much, I am willing to forgo the convenience of local dating, just to get to know the one I have met here. I now feel very blessed to know someone who has the same ideals about LDR's as I do, and she is being very patient with me, allowing me to deal with "baggage" while at the same time, pulling me closer to her, with every single word she speaks....... she is truly an awesome woman, and I continue to look forward to know her better each and every day.
What I hate abut this site is when two people have enough courage to take a chance, and it doesnt work out, how some here, jump into it, and form their own opinions and gossip about it. It is wrong and unfair!
.jus my opinion, I could be wrong!
(  , Thumper)
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| Nov 2, 2008 @ 11:29 AM |
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Fender
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Sometimes you never know until you take a chance and that is what these people are doing...If it doesn't work out they are welcome to come back and try again. 
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| Nov 2, 2008 @ 11:35 AM |
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Skydognc
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fender-bender
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| Nov 2, 2008 @ 11:36 AM |
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Loreli
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Well Doggie....unfortunately when 2 people make their relationship very public here, it's as if within your circle of real friends and not-so-much friends.
People will interfere, state their opinion-and some will keep loving you.
I have met 3 guys in 5 years. I kept them all quiet for just that reason.
Soooo, my advice? Don't talk about it until it's a sure thing. Then you won't have 200 people complaining, judging, pointing fingers
JMHO
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| Nov 2, 2008 @ 11:56 AM |
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Laidback742
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I met 7 MD women this weekend ..... none of them worked out ..... still trying to figure out why ..... 
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| Nov 2, 2008 @ 12:20 PM |
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Loreli
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Only 6 poptarts to a box? 
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| Nov 2, 2008 @ 12:28 PM |
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Skydognc
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and 3 condoms!
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| Nov 2, 2008 @ 12:42 PM |
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tatiana329
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hey skydog thannks for your honest and personal reply...
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| Nov 2, 2008 @ 12:49 PM |
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Laidback742
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I ran out of strawberry, Loreli .....
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| Nov 2, 2008 @ 1:00 PM |
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Loreli
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Well whip out your
brown sugar 
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| Nov 2, 2008 @ 1:05 PM |
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BigSexy62
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I'm not moving to another State or Country for NO women, if they want some of my hot beefy love-stick, then they have to come to ME. 
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