| Nov 15, 2008 @ 9:28 AM |
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Skydognc
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The best part of a great foundation in a relationship is trust. To be so comfortable with someone, that you can be yourself without fear of your significant other, reacting.
Jealosy is such a wasted emotion. It sparks anger to rage, rage to reaction, reaction to fighting, and leaves holes, emptiness, mistrust, hurt, and the beginnings of a total meltdown in a relationship.
If jealosy is present, I would think one needs to really look deep into the relationship itself and evaluate if in fact they should continue on.
I have been critisized many tmes for my behavior here. That I do nothing be show disrespect for the one I am involved with, by my actions in these yarns. I truly laugh at such comments and thoughts. Those who know me, also know this media is translatesd 0's and 1's ..... and the one who truly knows me, also knows that our time alone is quite different.
I am very fortunate to be developing a deep friendship with someone who views this concept the same way. We can run all around in here, have fun and play, yet we both know there is no fear or reason to be concerned in any way.
To me, that is the beginning of something really special!
what is your take on jealosy?
do you really want to be involved with someone, when your inner thoughts make you very unomfortable towards the one you love?
one of my favorite sayings .......
" You can look at the menu, as long as you eat at home!" 
and I want a feast!
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| Nov 15, 2008 @ 9:53 AM |
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Aeromuse
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I only flirt with men, women, children, old people, and the animal kingdom.
Much like yourself 
People are who they are. If you want to change somebody's basic nature - maybe you're with the wrong person to begin with.
Jealousy says more about the person experiencing the emotion than it does about their partner's actions in many instances. If a person is confident, and trusting of who they're with, it doesn't pop up as often 
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| Nov 15, 2008 @ 10:00 AM |
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Skydognc
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and when jealosy doesnt pop up........
it leaves more room for other things to pop up!
....jus sayin!
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| Nov 15, 2008 @ 10:01 AM |
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Brass_Wolf
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Things popping often has more to do with lust rather than jealousy.
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| Nov 15, 2008 @ 10:04 AM |
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drs297
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A little Jealousy can be a good thing, not the kind where if you look at someone they tear your eyes out.. But when you do that little harmless flirting knowing it is driving your partner to a point where he just wants to drag you out and fuk your brains out type
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| Nov 15, 2008 @ 10:07 AM |
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Angel178
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If the things that attracted you to the person start to bother you, it's really you that has changed. Examine yourself and stop throwing stones if you live in a glass house...JMO 
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| Nov 15, 2008 @ 10:13 AM |
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Skydognc
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yes,
playful jealousy is a great thing, as long as it is non destructive!
fuk your brains out
That says it all !..........
written proof of where our brain is located!
but hey........ at least some of us proudly admit it!
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| Nov 15, 2008 @ 10:20 AM |
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Loreli
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Many years ago, when I was married and pregnant, I had a hard time not being jealous.
I would be at home puking and my ex would go dancing after bowling leagues. I told him how I felt...he continued doing it. So....I know the feeling.
But, as I have gotten older, I have developed the theory that all the jealousy in the world won't stop a person from doing things behind the backs of the one they care about.
It's better to keep sanity.
Having fun, out in the open (here) when an SO doesn't care-no biggie
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| Nov 15, 2008 @ 10:21 AM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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Jealosy is such a wasted emotion. It sparks anger to rage, rage to reaction, reaction to fighting, and leaves holes, emptiness, mistrust, hurt, and the beginnings of a total meltdown in a relationship. Jealousy says more about the person experiencing the emotion than it does about their partner's actions in many instances. If a person is confident, and trusting of who they're with, it doesn't pop up as often 
But when you do that little harmless flirting knowing it is driving your partner to a point where he just wants to drag you out and fuk your brains out type That's not jealousy....that's teasing your partner (and knowing he likes it and that you're going to like what he gives you!!!!!) 
I truly feel anyone critisizing someone else of their "flirting" behavior is jealous because they don't have the confidence in their relationship or, more importantly, in themselves.
A healthy relationship between two adults should be exactly that - between two adults! As long as they are happy, who the hell cares what others think?!?!?! In my book, someone nibbing their nose where it doesn't belong deserves no acknowledgement!!!!!! Let them take their bitterness and pettiness elsewhere!!!!
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| Nov 15, 2008 @ 10:51 AM |
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drs297
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well fine.. I retract my statement since it is flirting and not making him jealous.. Happy now? 
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| Nov 15, 2008 @ 11:35 AM |
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Aeromuse
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But when you do that little harmless flirting knowing it is driving your partner to a point where he just wants to drag you out and fuk your brains out type
Now now D. There are MUCH more effective ways of bringing about that response. A can of Redi-Whip and an evil smile gets the same results without all the head fvcking
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| Nov 15, 2008 @ 11:41 AM |
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Merchitown
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Head fuking? I'm not so sure it is... I know I'm a flirt in or out of a relationship, I be the way I be. When the tables are turned, and my partner is flirting all over the place...it's not jealousy that arises...it's pure and simple heat, as I'm watching my partner strut his sexuality. And Lord...that's hot. Cuz I know who he actually brings that heat home to. 
A healthy relationship between two adults should be exactly that - between two adults! As long as they are happy, who the hell cares what others think?!?!?! In my book, someone nibbing their nose where it doesn't belong deserves no acknowledgement!!!!!! Let them take their bitterness and pettiness elsewhere!!!!
Eyes...did I tell you that you're one smart woman?
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| Nov 15, 2008 @ 12:07 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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Happy now? DRS..........you always make me happy!!
Merchi......  Now, if we can just get the rest of the world to recognize that fact!!!!!!
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| Nov 15, 2008 @ 12:10 PM |
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Merchitown
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LOL honey, you got your own corner of the world right here.
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| Nov 15, 2008 @ 12:20 PM |
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Aeromuse
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I disagree Merch. If you're flirting to spark a jealous reaction in your partner that's head fvcking on my book. If it's just your nature to be flirtatious that's another thing all together.
I'm not going to go out of my way to incur a jealous reaction in my man because I wouldn't like it done to me. That smacks of game playing to me, and I'm too damn old and tired for that shit
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| Nov 15, 2008 @ 12:23 PM |
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Merchitown
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Ahh...yes, I guess the intent is everything.
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| Nov 15, 2008 @ 12:25 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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But there's a difference between harmless flirting and intentional flirting to make someone jealous.
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| Nov 15, 2008 @ 12:25 PM |
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Gallows_Humor
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[Edited on 11/15/2008 12:26 PM]
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| Nov 15, 2008 @ 12:26 PM |
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ColdinWisconsin
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1. This isn't real.
2. This isn't real.
3. This isn't real.
This site is fun. It is an outlet. But it in no way is real. You can not smell or touch. There is no fresh air. Words without facial expressions or voice inflection can and will be misconstrued. It is what you do outside of his site that matters.
I run around here flirting with the woman. Not because I'm gay, just because I'm not interested in dealing with men making raunchy comments to me. The women...they all know it's in good fun.
But the sun doesn't come up here. And like Vegas, there is no clock. I show you what I want you to see. The real me, flaws, snorting laughter, tears and anger are reserved for those I love and who love me back. Strangers are not woth that. Hense...they have no right to judge me. But...they will, they will judge all and never look in the mirror.
As for jealousy...it is an evil emotion. A wastful emotion. If there is reason for that emotion...run. Run away fast. If there is not, get your wayward self in check fast.
As for purposly making my partner jealous, to me, that would not turn me on in the least. In or out baby...if your looking for a new mantle piece, donate the old one to Goodwill first and then move on. But if my lover pulled something like that on a night out, I would not be attracted to him in the least. In fact, it could take quite a while to get my juices flowling for that person again. I think I would find that to be a very desperate and juvinile act for a man (or woman) to behave that way.
Yeah, serious Meem...who would have thought it? 
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| Nov 15, 2008 @ 12:27 PM |
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Aeromuse
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Totally Merch!
Motive is key
[Edited on 11/15/2008 12:28 PM]
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