| Nov 22, 2008 @ 8:18 PM |
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Fender
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For you to let yourself go and be totally honest with someone you like? I mean show the real you...The manic slightly insane, morbid procrastinating moron that someone like myself might be at times...
...It's hard for me...I keep this front up at all times...Well not on MD...But other places.
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| Nov 22, 2008 @ 8:21 PM |
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Gallows_Humor
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not difficult for me at all......as I feel that it weeds out the ones who are hoping that I am someone I am not.... 
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| Nov 22, 2008 @ 8:29 PM |
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thor22
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well, I am too honest and earnest with the one's I like and I think it scares them away... 
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| Nov 22, 2008 @ 8:37 PM |
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Fender
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I usually don't care...However I notice if I am with my regular group of friends and either a new friend enters or someone who is attractive to me...I try to be on my best behaviour...
However I usually break this cycle by drinking 
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| Nov 22, 2008 @ 9:04 PM |
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BandTMom
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For you to let yourself go and be totally honest with someone you like? I mean show the real you.
It's not hard a bit. I am me where ever I go. It's easier that way. 
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| Nov 22, 2008 @ 10:05 PM |
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Kenn159
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I guess you have two choices
If you like the real you, then put the real you out there proudly.
Based on your best sense of right and wrong, if there are things in yourself that you don't like and you wouldn't like if you saw them in another person, then it is time for self introspection and time to make some changes.
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| Nov 22, 2008 @ 10:12 PM |
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KatiefromStafford
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I am never just me around anyone else, and it takes me a long time to get to the point where I trust someone enough to just be myself. I try to find out what they might like about me, and then put that foot forward.... I am not sure I even know who I am anymore, except someone who tries too hard to please everyone around me, and then being very unsatisfied with myself. (Which is why I am currently alone, and will probably stay that way, safer for me, and safer for anyone subjected to me. And I am all right with that, doesn't bother me a lick anymore. There are much worse things then being alone.. I know that very well indeed. 
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| Nov 23, 2008 @ 12:47 AM |
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signme
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Katie just be yourself and not worry about everyone else. Eventually you'll find someone who wants the real you.
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| Nov 23, 2008 @ 12:48 AM |
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pamdemonium
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That Mister Rodgers song is in my head...
It's You I Like
It's not the things you wear
It's not the way you do your hair,
but it's You, I like.
Not the things that hide you
Not your toys
They're just beside you....
So easy for children, but as adults we forget
that being ourselves is enough.
How much to share? That depends on how much
you trust that person with. In real life as well as
on the internet.
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| Nov 23, 2008 @ 1:28 AM |
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sensuouswoman
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How hard is it...
Dammmnn............I knew it was too good to be true..  .......thought I'd hear some confessions here 
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| Nov 23, 2008 @ 1:50 AM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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Being honest is easy, dealing with folks with screwed up pasts is the hard part. No matter what you do, you are lying to them. Sad, but true.
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| Nov 23, 2008 @ 2:01 AM |
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Chadcat
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"...well, I am too honest and earnest with the one's I like and I think it scares them away..."
I have to say ditto on that.
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| Nov 23, 2008 @ 2:04 AM |
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youbetcha
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I'm usually testing people with my weird self first and if they are still interested after that I go deeper 
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| Nov 23, 2008 @ 2:19 AM |
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SensualGemini
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...There remains a difference between being yourself and opening up your total inner self to just anyone, because they just think they deserve to be in there.
...If a potential, just like I do in business, I want to fail as fast as possible. In other words, I absolutely want them to see anything and everything, as quickly as possible, so it is not a year or more down the road and they find something that is a deal breaker.
...If reciprocated, then perfect and if after a reasonable period of time, there is still a sense of evasiveness, that in itself is a deal breaker for me.
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| Nov 23, 2008 @ 9:37 AM |
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Fender
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There remains a difference between being yourself and opening up your total inner self to just anyone, because they just think they deserve to be in there.
That is what I was trying to say but wasn't saying it right 
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| Nov 23, 2008 @ 10:19 AM |
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parrothead1234
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For me it's sort of a coin flip. Most of the time I'm just myself & to hell with the consequences. But I've found at times I do scale it back a little.
I don't think it's an intentional thing. More of a unconsicous, defenisve, reflex thing. I think that it comes from "who I am" being used to hurt me in the past.
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| Nov 23, 2008 @ 10:23 AM |
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Fender
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That makes lot's of sense Parrot
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| Nov 23, 2008 @ 10:27 AM |
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Gallows_Humor
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...There remains a difference between being yourself and opening up your total inner self to just anyone, because they just think they deserve to be in there.
what is a total inner self??
signed... a shallow guy... 
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| Nov 23, 2008 @ 10:34 AM |
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parrothead1234
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That makes lot's of sense Parrot
A birdbrain making sense?! 
You must've started drinking really early today Fender! 
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| Nov 23, 2008 @ 11:43 AM |
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youbetcha
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what is a total inner self??
signed... a shallow guy...
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