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signme
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Never had that problem myself. After a few months, I just throw out the old boxes and buy new. I do however clean them daily before then! LOL
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| Apr 7 @ 12:13 AM |
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SensualGemini
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...Personally, I have learned that if I put the cats outside, the litter box stays remarkably clean. 
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Katy: Whatever,,all I know...
...Sorry Katy... I was just wondering... 
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| Apr 10 @ 8:50 PM |
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jdctx
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I've seen women throw all chances away based on nothing more then how they were feeling that moment.
The thing about chemistry is it shoud take time. How many time have you been soo wrong about that guy you first thought had the right chemistry. Most likely every single time because the your not with him and about to repeat the same pattern.
If your not about giving that guy a second chance because it was either a bad day for you him or both.
Please at least make the ones that caught you on a good moment earn their right
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| Apr 10 @ 9:38 PM |
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BandTMom
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I've seen women throw all chances away based on nothing more then how they were feeling that moment.
It works both ways.
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| Apr 11 @ 11:40 AM |
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texas_woman
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I agree Mom,
I've seen both sex's just give up based on a first date or meeting. Chemistry sometimes could happen immediately, but sometimes it also doesnt happen right away.
Look at the heart, whats inside.........you might be surprised.........and find more then you ever realized.
Ok i'm getting of the soap box now LOL  
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| Apr 11 @ 8:32 PM |
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GJay
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If a man/woman walks into a room and sees a man/woman at the far end; if immediately he/she knows that person is the one he/she wants to spend the rest of his/her life with (and it happens more often than we think), then answer me this:
Before touching, talking, smiling, speaking, being within each other's aura (space), etc..., what drew the person to the other? Chemistry?
If so, is it possible to see a person's picture on a profile and, by simply looking into the eyes of the person pictured, know and feel immediately that they are completely different from any other they have ever met. How do they know? What is the feeling they are experienceing at that moment. "Chemistry"?
What then, after hearing his/her voice there was no doubt he/she was where you wanted to end your search . All this without any form of meeting in the real world! This also happens more often than we think. Is that not a form of "Chemistry"?
Is there a distance measured by which one is suppose to feel this Chemistry? Say, from 2 feetaway; across a room; across Cyber Space. It seems to me that is all starts with a look; one person looking at another and, bam, you just feel it.
What exactly is "chemistry: anyway... besides what we read, hear, and think we have experienced?
Some people who found each other totally annoying, who did not feel the "chemistry" between them, end up together ... forever... Also, why is it one party may feel the "chemistry" and not the other?
"Chemistry" is nice, no question about that. "Chemistry" is sought after. "Chemistry" is necessary .. yes .. Yet, do we really need it all that bad? I say, forget about the "Chemistry"; go with the attraction; make the best of it and turn it into the "Best!" The "Chemistry" will follow. Make up your own concoction ... one that works. It only takes one to mix in with another; thus, the end result may be an extremely potent formula.. One that lasts a lifetime..
Correct me if I am wrong (and I KNOW you will..lol), is it not said that you should go out with a person at least three times before giving up the ghost?
As far as sex and chemistry go; heck, I highly doubt you need chemistry for that. I think that is where "passion" may kick in.. lol...
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| Apr 12 @ 2:44 PM |
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jdctx
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We are so fooled when we base what is best for us through chemisty.
I know if you subscribe to the idea that its about chemisty it will be hard for me to convience you of the dangers...
When you base it on chemisty more then often you put yourself in a high speed one track road to a BIG "?".
I'm not saying you should date men or women with no chemisty. BUT my challenge and ironically a way to help prove a true chemisty is if you think the chemisty is there, force yourself to slow the pace down to listen, observe and have patience. because if that chemistry is truely there for both then it will workout and if not you have saved yourself from a heartbreak
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| Apr 13 @ 4:55 AM |
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SensualGemini
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GJay: What exactly is "chemistry: anyway... besides what we read, hear, and think we have experienced?
...Chemistry is actually chemistry...
...It is when phenylethylamine, norepinephrine and dopamine are released by your body and how quickly they are released, is the measurement of emotional chemistry, or infatuation.
...Norepinephrine stimulates the production of adrenaline, which makes your heart race, while dopamine makes you feel good and both are cousins to amphetamines. Phenylethylamine greatly increases the speed to which your nerve cells communicate and thus, a feeling of energized.
...All three combined, give you a sense of euphoria, completely energized, while also floating on a cloud.
...Now, do you want to know what causes it?
PS: There are lots of books out there on the subject, but you might try one or two by Harville Hendrix.
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GJay: Correct me if I am wrong (and I KNOW you will..lol), is it not said that you should go out with a person at least three times before giving up the ghost?
...Depends on what you are searching for, want and need. Don't expect chemistry to surface at some later time, if it was not there initially, because and actually, just the opposite happens.
...Chemistry will never "follow."
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GJay: As far as sex and chemistry go; heck, I highly doubt you need chemistry for that. I think that is where "passion" may kick in.. lol...
...No, you don't need chemistry for sex, the act itself, but it certainly magnifies the intensiveness by the exponential of infatuation, or the chemical release of the above chemicals by your body.
...Chemistry is infatuation by actual chemicals to feel energized, euphoria and floating on air.
...Next is making love, or two people connecting with mind (love), body (sex) and chemistry (infatuation).
...And then the ultimate, which is the act of two people connecting with mind (love), body (sex), chemistry (infatuation) and spiritual (soul).
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...Spiritual, you can feel through space, a thousand miles apart, or when right next to each other and can easily be projected consciously, or subconsciously, such as pure light is retrieved and processed as pure love, which actually lowers the defenses to then feel, say projected sensuality, etc.
...The list is rather extensive and depends on the honesty or dishonesty of the person projecting, sending, but if they love you, are in love with you, then it is as honest as they believe it to be. If subconsciously, or they don't have a clue of what they are doing, which is most typical, it is honest at that time.
...That does not mean that people cannot fall out of love and still have sex... or not have sex, but still love... or not have a spiritual connection, but still love and have sex, etc., but chemistry always fades with time and that is where commitment to a choice for a way of life comes into play.
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...People cheat because of chemistry, the infatuation, the endorphin rush, because it has faded in their marriage, relationship, etc. As well, people move from partner to partner, because they have become addicted to chemistry, which from above, is truly an addictive drug.
...But there is one catch, because like any drug, the body builds up a resistance to and eventually, they will never be able to get enough and that is where you find the sex addicts, those that cannot maintain a relationship beyond the "new"... and now, with the virtual relationships, the constant search for the next one.
My 2 cents... 
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| Apr 13 @ 5:22 AM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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...Depends on what you are searching for, want and need. Don't expect chemistry to surface at some later time, if it was not there initially, because and actually, just the opposite happens.
...Chemistry will never "follow."
I don't believe this but I actually agree entirely bro! I've tried that 'developing chemistry' thing, and at least for me, it's always been no go. Rarely I'd run into somebody who was interesting, fun and honest enough to be able to agree there was no chemistry, but certainly grounds for friendship so rather than both being bored, we'd go out for awhile.
That's how I started on my fifty gazillion first date thing. No reaction on the first date, don't even bother with a second one.
Last time there was chemistry, I got lucky indeed. It's only supposed to last about 18 months I think? It's now a bit over two years, with that peaceful easy feeling but still....wow, just wow.
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| Jun 28 @ 4:56 PM |
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Angel178
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Ummm, sorry heaven...but, could SG keep talking a little more? 
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| Jun 30 @ 8:28 PM |
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soilikethisdoctor
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if there is chemistry don't hold back, embrace it!
i've always been in with a kiss 2nd/3rd date, it works.
BUT thought i'd try something different weeks back.
met this lovely girl earlier in the year, i recognised good potential in her, so i wanted to take my time - so i wouldn't stuff it up.
i met up with her 6 maybe 7 times before trying for 1st base - but it was too late  , the chemistry had 'faded' in her eyes
my lesson= if the chemistry if there do not deny its progress
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