| Dec 19, 2008 @ 8:21 PM |
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DiamondRain
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I’ve had my share of bizarre online dating experiences, but this one is right up there near the top!
There are two kinds of messages I don’t usually respond to immediately on a dating web site.
The first kind is from someone who doesn’t seem to be a good match for me.
The second kind is from someone who does seem to be a good match for me.
The second type needs a little explanation. It is so rare that I feel that someone seems like a good match for me that I am stunned when it happens. It takes me a little time to recover. And then I think carefully before writing back because I want to give it the best chance I can. I don’t want to blow the one in a million.
Here is one that happened on another dating site yesterday.
This woman writes two e-mails. The first one contains a virtual gift (a romantic picture). It’s all gushy about what an amazing, brilliant, fantastic, sexy hunk of a guy I am. The second one is a romantic video. This woman is a fairly well known TV personality. She says so in her profile, and I recognize her pictures. Normally I would think that was a fake profile, but I happen to know it is really her (I won’t get into how).
OK, to tell you the truth, I was kind of interested. She is extremely attractive, and to be honest I am curious about the fame and the TV scene. Maybe she is a good match!
So, following my own habits, I didn’t answer right away. Frankly, I was kind of excited and thinking about what it might be like. JEEZ I was nearly giddy! I was thinking about what to say.
Then it all ended. There was another e-mail from her.
It said that she wanted to clarify that she wasn’t hitting on me, she was only interested in researching dating profiles for a TV project she was working on and wanted to tell me that my profile was one of the best she had seen.
Instant turnoff. It was clear that she felt rejected just because I didn’t respond right away and wanted to save her ego by telling me her interest was purely business related anyway. I should clarify that you can see when someone has read your message so she must have noticed I read them hours earlier and didn’t respond.
I don’t know, I am probably too critical, but her insecurity turned a real interest into no interest.
I didn’t write back.
***FLASH UPDATE***
Today this woman writes me a third e-mail subject: “apologies.”
She writes that she wants to apologize because it was her assistant who wrote me the two previous e-mails and not her.  She claims that her assistant goes through the dating site and writes to men on her behalf! Can you believe this stuff?!
But in this case, she says, her assistant’s judgement was wrong, and she thinks just the opposite of what her “assistant” said (while making believe she was her ...with her permission). Yeah right!
She said she disagrees with her assistant and thinks that my profile is not appealing or well written but rather “reflects a man who is self centered, thinks he's amusing, and is just a little too impressed with himself -
perhaps a touch of narcissism. “
Not to say that I am not self centered and narcissistic  , but this woman is psychotic!
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| Dec 19, 2008 @ 8:39 PM |
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Loreli
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Ignore and forget.
I have just strange emails, no strange "experiences."
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| Dec 19, 2008 @ 8:45 PM |
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DiamondRain
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Trying to ignore & forget, but it’s not so easy. It’s the kind of thing that you wake up in the middle of the night thinking about and scratching your head.
I’ve been watching this series for the past couple of months, I think it’s on VH1 or one of those channels. It’s called “Celebrity Rehab.” It’s a reality show about celebrities who have serious substance abuse problems and follows them through their group treatment program (they are in a rehab facility with other celebrities).
I’m thinking I should recommend this chick for an audition for next season’s patient cast! 
[Edited on 12/19/2008 8:46 PM]
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| Dec 19, 2008 @ 8:45 PM |
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signme
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Awwwwwwwwwww DR, you just need to stick with me. I'm your perfect match and you know it! 
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| Dec 19, 2008 @ 9:09 PM |
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DiamondRain
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Now you’re Makin’ me blush sign! 
Well, the saga with this babe is over (I hope!). I blocked her.
It’s gonna be weird seeing her on TV and knowing she is a closet psycho!
She should audition for another remake of The Twilight Zone!  
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| Dec 19, 2008 @ 9:13 PM |
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signme
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Well my SO turned into a psycho so it can happen. Funny how people can present themselves in many different ways. 
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| Dec 19, 2008 @ 9:19 PM |
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DiamondRain
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This woman is just scary. It kind of sends a chill down my spine. It’s so stalkerish.
She signed her first e-mail, with all the gushy romantic stuff, with her name.
Then, in the third e-mail she wants me to believe that it was really not her but her assistant who wrote that message? She would let her assistant make online passes at guys and make believe they are her? Even if that is the truth it’s also bizarre! Who would do that?
This chick is scary! I honestly think she needs some serious psychological intervention.
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| Dec 19, 2008 @ 9:26 PM |
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signme
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Maybe we could set her up with my ex! She could stalk him and he could cuss her out in emails! 
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| Dec 22, 2008 @ 3:07 PM |
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ablessedlady
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I have on this site only had as far as bizarre,mail from obvious scammers,but from what I hear about all dating sites this is common not bizarre.On 2 other sites I had only 2 bad experiences.One was a man who came across as mentally stable,sincere,amusing and had many traits I look for.This I decided after about 8 long e-mails between us.Then I receive a mail from him asking if I would join him and his wife in a regular ongoing of sexual acts as well as live with them.This was nothing that I could have a clue from previous e-mails he would have been looking for.Like calling himself a one man woman etc.I was a bit sad I had spent time writing him.The other was a supposed gentleman from another state who after writing several times turned out to have a profile and different name,same picture and profile on another site .When I asked him about it,you got it no reply.
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| Dec 22, 2008 @ 3:11 PM |
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signme
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At least you found out before an actual meeting or before you got too emotionally involved.
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| Dec 22, 2008 @ 3:19 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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Merry Christmas Signs.
I have just strange emails, no strange "experiences." Want one? 
Only weird ones I get is the daughter trying to hook me up with her mother.
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| Dec 22, 2008 @ 7:57 PM |
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scorpiogirl36
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I've had a couple of experiences that have been bizzarre! But wouldn't talk about them publicly. 
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| Dec 22, 2008 @ 8:01 PM |
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willowy1
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I think she sized you up fairly well 
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| Dec 22, 2008 @ 8:50 PM |
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custis
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Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. I do not even know where to start. I could fill a good sized book. I will start with the beautiful lady I had been talking to for a while. The chatting online was great, her pictures looked great. We seemed to have real chemistry and after a while she began telling me what she would like to do to my body. We agreed to meet at a restaurant. She came walking in looking like a million bucks. We had a great time. Good conversation, good eye contact. A short while after we finished lunch she looked at me with an impish grin and said "Wanna go to my place?" I am thinking, gee, is this a trick question? I followed her home. As soon as we entered the door she grabbed a 16 oz can of Icehouse out of the fridge and guzzled it in one long swallow before reaching for another. She grabbed the rest of the sixpack out of a refrigerator that appeared to be full of sixpacks and went to sit on the couch. Her entire cheerful demeanour vanished into a pall of gloom and she began to mournfully talk about what a bad mother she was to her children. In less than half an hour she was on her sixth beer and was nearly hysterical. I do not think she noticed when I left.
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| Dec 22, 2008 @ 9:48 PM |
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scorpiogirl36
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^^^^^^^^^^ Now that's an experience and a half....sorry that happened to you Custis 
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| Dec 22, 2008 @ 11:41 PM |
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DiamondRain
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I think she sized you up fairly well
Assume the spanking position.
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| Dec 22, 2008 @ 11:49 PM |
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signme
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Appearances can be extemely deceiving, can't they??
Merry Christmas, Burns!
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| Dec 23, 2008 @ 12:00 AM |
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lobo65
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Those are some good stories. I've only had one. Years ago I almost moved in with a woman I had talked to regularly online, but never even met in person. I got there, decided I wasn't interested, and left. She followed me three states, and was in my parents' house when I got home. I was living with them at the time, and had just finished college.
That freaked me out of course, but luckily she was not a complete bunny boiler, and left the next day. Now I am a lot more careful with online meetings.I couldn't believe it when she found me on Myspace a month ago. I had to block her, as I had done from my email years ago.
Most of the rest of my online meetings have ended with me getting the "You're a nice guy, but...... I know you'll meet someone who is right for you, yadda yadda" email the next day. ...........
The majority of the emails I receive on this site are from Russian scammers, or Chinese women looking for a green card.
[Edited on 12/23/2008 12:05 AM]
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| Dec 23, 2008 @ 12:05 AM |
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DiamondRain
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In all the years I have been online I think I only blocked maybe 5 or 6 people. But about 3 of them have been in the past few months!
I think there is something in the air these days.
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| Dec 23, 2008 @ 12:06 AM |
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lobo65
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I know what you mean. 
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