| Dec 28, 2008 @ 1:47 PM |
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luneib
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What is up with that? I meet so many women who are looking for Mr. Gorgeous and if he's not, they say they are going to keep looking until they find him. They are not gorgeous themself, geeez.
Whatever happened to just meeting someone and getting to know them, why does it always have to be about looks? I've met alot of great guys who were not great looking but guys I fell for because they were very kind hearted and had alot of love to give.
Ladies, you shouldn't be looking for Mr. America, you should be looking for a guy who will treat you well, give you respect, be there for you in good or bad times, someone who will love you for you despite how you look on the outside if you're not that Perfect 10. The same goes for men, you mean to tell me that if they are not a 10 you won't date them? You could be missing out on the love of your life. One of my last bfs is no George Clooney or Brad Pitt but he is one of the sweetest guys I know, he would do anything for you, he is funny, he makes you feel good inside being around him. Isn't that what every woman wants in her life, to feel happy like that every time they are with a guy?
I have two friends on here who women pass by, I think it is a real shame, they both live in Wisconsin and I'm not sure if that is part of the problem being in a more remote area, but geeez, they are both really nice guys. One is in his 30s and the other in his 40s. I just hope they can find someone to love them. Personally if I wasn't in a long term relationship I would have considered dating either one of them, but...that's just me, I can overlook the outside to see the beauty on the inside. I wish more women could do that because they are missing out on some wonderful guys out there.
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| Dec 28, 2008 @ 1:56 PM |
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thor22
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well, I'm a nice guy AND good looking, so yeah, its gotta be the remote area...like ND 
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| Dec 28, 2008 @ 2:01 PM |
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jdc67
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Good question I wish I knew. I think of myself as a decent man. Offline I have many female and male friends who would testify to all my claim..
For whatever reason which goes beyond logic I have gotten zero reasonable responses in over 7 yrs that I have been on this site as jdc67 and jdctx..
I think the attention that woman get here is the biggest reason why this happens.. I think it just makes things so complicated.
There has never been woman age 18-40 of around average weight and looks that has not got an email from a man who ON PAPER that meet the criteria that she listed.
In fact she has gotten quite a few and there lays the problem..
ON PAPER matches are rarely accurate.. So whats left is the superfical that can be seen
so at least he is attractive or at least he has whatever listed superfical quality
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| Dec 28, 2008 @ 2:02 PM |
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robodad
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Ladies, you shouldn't be looking for Mr. America Maybe they should look for Mr Canada
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| Dec 28, 2008 @ 2:06 PM |
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luneib
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Very funny Robodad!
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| Dec 28, 2008 @ 2:06 PM |
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kattsmeow
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Maybe they should look for Mr Canada 
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| Dec 28, 2008 @ 2:12 PM |
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Loreli
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But-if they are just friends to you-are you not passing them by also? 
I've met 5 guys from here...each attractive in their own way, but no Mr America.
I bet there are a whole lot of other women out there that are fine with average looks...
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| Dec 28, 2008 @ 2:13 PM |
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scorpiogirl36
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I wouldn't stir the pot with everyone in it....but say, each person has their "own" yard stick to measure who appeals to them, which is different for each one of us.
I've known men that are great to look at, but inside they're arrogant, disrespectful, and vain. Often times the center of attention at a party but could never be the center of your heart.
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| Dec 28, 2008 @ 2:19 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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I've met 5 guys from here...each attractive in their own way, but no Mr America we've havent met yet.
lol
Ok I don't fit in.
Im ok to look at and nice to the touch.
But Im stuborn, and can tend to be a prick with little care. So I have come to a resolve of not finding the Mrs. Right for me. Why does anyone settle for what they do is beyond me. I don't even know why I'm posting in this thread. I'm just here for the free beer.
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| Dec 28, 2008 @ 2:26 PM |
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thor22
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I'm here hoping to try "stir the pot" with scorpiogirl!   
[Edited on 12/28/2008 2:43 PM]
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| Dec 28, 2008 @ 2:26 PM |
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Loreli
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Well, when ya move- we will!
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| Dec 28, 2008 @ 2:39 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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Well, when ya move- we will! Defiantly.
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| Dec 28, 2008 @ 2:53 PM |
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capitalview
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The most likely reason those guys are out of luck - they are overlooking nice girls themselves  If they are aiming out of their league , they are doomed to be ignored, isn't it natural? I've met quite a few guys with "shallow Hal" syndrom - i.e. the ones who don't seem to mind their own repelling appearance but somehow complain that hot females don't seem to flock to them ( Surprise, surprise! ). My advice to your friends would be - get off your couch and to the gym ! Being nice to girls means to show respect by doing your best to look hot for them.
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| Dec 28, 2008 @ 3:08 PM |
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luneib
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Yes, they are friends, and if I was not in a serious relationship, yes, I would fly to Wisconsin to meet these guys. One of these guys does go to the gym.
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| Dec 28, 2008 @ 3:33 PM |
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signme
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Looks are just the first eye-catcher in my opinion. After that, the more we communicate, it's based more on personality. And I don't mean I only look at Mr. America! Whatever catches my eye may be different than what catches someone else's eye. I have some great looking guys on my friends list and some average looking guys--but they all have great and caring personalities. That's what counts more to me.
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| Dec 28, 2008 @ 3:48 PM |
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jdc67
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REALISM IS LACKING
My failure has zero to do with realism..
So far I have never pretended or allowed the delusion of dating the hot girl in her 20's.
Who the person is ranks at number ONE for me.
I believe it is a balance. I look at my life and what it is I have to offer even at the superfical level and match it to her.
What I get is the unrealistic
usually a woman who is older.. and or a women who has many kids and or a woman who lives in another country and or is still married and or is large ( more then 40lbs over) and or has other major issues.
NEVER I got the following of my ideal
27-40 (best in IMHO 32-38 or am I being too unrealistic)
slender-few extra pound (15-20 lbs over0
single not just seperated
0-2 kids ( open to maybe more but not a must 0
no drama
lives within 100 miles ( oh heck lets say the continetal US)
finacially stable ( not a number just that she can do ok on her own )
and is looking to really get a to know a person. ( not to go from guy to guy like sex in the city episodes)
Now what in my profiles makes what I am seeking unrealistic
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| Dec 28, 2008 @ 3:49 PM |
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blueyes101
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I got an email from a woman from a different site, she has been online for 2 weeks, and has received over 450 emails. She is ready to cancel, due to all the jerks.
Now, I wonder is she really going to pick an average looking guy in the first round of her daft picks ?
Maybe, but not likely.
She will probably go for looks, only to find he is trying to get in her pants, along with every other ( attractive ) woman on the site.
I tried to explain, the only way most guys get mail, is to write, and hope for a reply.
And the ones who jump off the page, have found something that works, and use it on all the women, just running the odds.
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| Dec 28, 2008 @ 3:53 PM |
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pamdemonium
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She will probably go for looks, only to find he is trying to get in her pants, along with every other ( attractive ) woman on the site.
Yeah...it's only the attractive men who are trying to get in women's pants.
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| Dec 28, 2008 @ 3:58 PM |
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thor22
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the only pants I wanna get in are the pants-see-hosieries! 
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| Dec 28, 2008 @ 4:14 PM |
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blueyes101
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Yeah...it's only the attractive men who are trying to get in women's pants.
The attractive guy has a better chance of getting in her pants, because he has a better chance of getting the date in the first place.
And, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out most women will give it up easier to an attractive guy, and hope the personality matches.
And that goes for any female who is 13-80. Granted, the looks matter a lot more the younger she is.
Edited to add...... Most men are pigs, and will sleep with everyone they can. Most women are not pigs, but ( if they decide to have sex ) prefer attractive men.
[Edited on 12/28/2008 4:25 PM]
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