| Dec 30, 2008 @ 5:48 PM |
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Mischief484
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I don't cruise the dudes' profiles, so I can't comment on them. But most of the chick pics on this site need to hit the bit bucket.
You need to get a friend and go outside. Give your friend the camera, and let he/she take a few photos of you. No need to overdo it--a handful is just fine. But we need to see what you look like from head to toe. Don't forget to turn around and show the trunk. And one or two face pics is fine, too.
Men are all eyes, ladies. We need to see the whole package.
Get RID of the pet pics. Nice doggie, nice kittie. But if I can't see what you look like, I'm not coming over to pet bowzer or schmooze with fluffy. And the garden pics. And the sunset pics. And any pic that doesn't show what you consider to be a physical asset.
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| Dec 30, 2008 @ 6:51 PM |
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Loreli
Posts: 25,398
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I disagree....but the same goes for men, as far as believable and REAL pics of themselves.
To me, someone that doesn't post a pic is hiding something in many cases.
BUT
it did take me some time because I had no cam, scanner, or digital camera
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| Dec 30, 2008 @ 6:56 PM |
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Laidback742
Posts: 4,676
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Why the Hell do you need to see someone's "trunk" right away .... ? Is that what someone should use as a basis of being interested ..... ?
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| Dec 30, 2008 @ 7:04 PM |
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blueyes101
Posts: 12,031
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I have seen some bad ones lately, but I think they were on a different site.....
Just a few hints from me...... if you care....... 
I really feel uncomfortable seeing your kids. ( can we get to know each other first ? )
A pic with your 93 year grandmother ? come on now.......seriously.
And any picture that has 2-3 other women more attractive than you, will not get you a date. It makes it look like a bait and switch......
And cutting off your old boyfriend or husband ? Doesn't create attraction at all.
And, if all your pictures are glamor shots, we know something is up.
And please, please, do not post a sexy pic, and bitch about the attention you are getting. You know, you can always send them to the guys private email if you really like him !!! 
Edited to add------- I'm really very happy you are a proud grandma....... but as a man, looking at profiles on a singles dating site, a 40 + woman holding a baby is a bit intimidating, especially if there is no caption to explain it........
Jus sayin....... 
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| Dec 30, 2008 @ 7:16 PM |
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Merchitown
Posts: 6,129
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Stop looking at teh sexy!!! Oh wait...that's every pic. 
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| Dec 30, 2008 @ 7:32 PM |
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KatiefromStafford
Posts: 2,750
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Why does it sound like the OP is looking to purchase a horse, and wants to see all the angles to judge if she is acceptable to him.
Personally, I am not a piece of meat to be bought. If you like me, the person, but you can't get past the package that I am in, then too bad for you, because you missed out on a really great lady.
I would rather see a person's face, and their eyes and smile.. that tells me a lot more about the person, but then I am not a superficial type of person that thinks that looks are more important then what is inside.
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| Dec 30, 2008 @ 7:35 PM |
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Brass_Wolf
Posts: 1,551
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A picture of the trunk on a profile is very important. How else would the viewer know what kind of tree it was that you are hiding behind?
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| Dec 30, 2008 @ 7:47 PM |
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blueyes101
Posts: 12,031
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No offense Katie, but lets bring up the " no photo " profiles too.....
Now, I know there are folks who come just for the forums and/or the blogs, and you really don't need a picture posted for that.
But, if you really have one iota of interest in meeting others, isn't it fair to post a picture of yourself ? Let me ask you this...... If the phone rang right this minute, and someone said they saw you earlier in the day, and decided to look up your number and call and say hello, but all they gave you in return was a nickname, just how long would you continue the conversation ? How personal would you get ?
Too bad there isn't a way to allow all those who don't post a pic, to be unable to view others pics. And so on....
I know, I know, I have heard all the arguments some have for not posting one, and I still don't get it.
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| Dec 30, 2008 @ 7:52 PM |
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lj450
Posts: 9,550
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I dont think most people would strike up a conversation with a nameless, faceless, bodyless person sitting inside of a huge bag or box at the mall.
Why should it be any different on the internet? We are visual creatures. Give me some damn vision woman!!!!!
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| Dec 30, 2008 @ 7:55 PM |
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Merchitown
Posts: 6,129
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Ok, Spock, I'll get right on that. 
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| Dec 30, 2008 @ 7:55 PM |
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KatiefromStafford
Posts: 2,750
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I have had pictures up on this site, more then once, and left them up for a long time.
Mostly I don't bother looking at the pics, except the one by your posts anyway..
Sort of like an alcoholic looking at booze through the window of a closed store.. why bother to look when you can't have it anyway.
If there was a single guy here who had expressed any real interest in me, as a person, or much of anything besides me in my Faire Inne Wench costume, then I would be quite willing to send him pictures through another medium.. but I get way to much spam mail with a pic up.
And to be honest, Blue, when I first came here I had hopes of maybe meeting someone, but the past few months have taught me that no one here sees anyone else here as a real person with feelings that can be hurt. Everyone is an ego unto himself (I am not saying this about the ladies) and don't really care to meet anyone for a LTR, they look at MD as just another meat market, like a bar, where they can size up the prospects and pick the one they want to take home for the night.. or better yet, go to her place, then never have to see her again.
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| Dec 30, 2008 @ 8:04 PM |
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blueyes101
Posts: 12,031
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You may be able to count the number of spam emails you get, but you can never count the number of emails you didn't get without a picture.
Jus sayin.......
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| Dec 30, 2008 @ 8:09 PM |
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KatiefromStafford
Posts: 2,750
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I've been rejected enough by the men here.. I used to mail them first (when I had pics up) and always got the brush off.. only guys who wanted me were the spammers and the guys who wanted to get laid for a night then poof they are gone, like the morning mist. Unfortunately, that wasn't what I was looking for.. and the longer I am alone, the nicer it seems to be.. someday I may just pull inside my shell, with my big front claws blocking the way in.. and let the rest of the world take care of itself...
being alone isn't so bad afterall.. and who needs sex..
Didn't read this part, did you?
I have had pictures up on this site, more then once, and left them up for a long time.
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| Dec 30, 2008 @ 8:11 PM |
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Loreli
Posts: 25,398
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hey look at MD as just another meat market, like a bar, where they can size up the prospects and pick the one they want to take home for the night.. or better yet, go to her place, then never have to see her again Oh Katie.....
I haven't experienced that
And I think it's cheesy to hang your (not you!) stuff out, it belongs on the adult site-but just one nice pic can make all the diff...
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| Dec 30, 2008 @ 8:14 PM |
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KatiefromStafford
Posts: 2,750
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I guess.. but then I don't come here much anymore.. and will continue to wean myself off here.. didn't serve the purpose I came for.. and can't really find a good reason to hang around anymore.. cept for my bestest friends
Lor  and Myst
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| Dec 30, 2008 @ 8:17 PM |
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parrothead1234
Posts: 712
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I like to think I'm not a superficial guy. That said, the format being what is, I think anyone who is truely honest with themselve's can admit being guilty of "window" shopping from time to time.
I don't even have so much of a problem with pet pictures (or what ever "non-you" pictures.) To me that tells me something about the person.
Yeah, I'm a guy - so sexy pics get a 
But if I had to pick just one, I like a good head shot - something where you can see a persons eyes.
"Window to the soul" as they say.
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| Dec 30, 2008 @ 8:19 PM |
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KatiefromStafford
Posts: 2,750
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Well, Merry Christmas (late) and Happy New Year's (early). 
Not sure when (if) I will be back, but you are a great bunch of folks, and definitely someone I would have enjoyed meeting in person... take care,
Katie
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| Dec 30, 2008 @ 8:32 PM |
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blueyes101
Posts: 12,031
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Yes, I saw it katie, and my post was general one, not really directed at you.
It just came to mind after reading your post.
I just posted some general hints, do with em what you will.
Because no matter how well you think you know the person, some of the pics probably are not that recent, and giving you a false impression anyways... If I'm wrong GREAT !!!!!!!!! And if I'm right, then I am somewhat prepared.
What really confuses me is is when no two pics look like the same person.
Or when they say, this is me with long hair, with blond hair, 30 lbs ago...... ( up or down ? ). Maybe this is a little picky, but sometimes it bugs me.
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| Dec 30, 2008 @ 8:49 PM |
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Nightowl001
Posts: 7,492
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I dont think most people would strike up a conversation with a nameless, faceless, bodyless person sitting inside of a huge bag or box at the mall. Interesting concept. But it DOES reinforce the idea (fact?) that most of us are visual and our first criteria is whether or not we are attracted to a person's appearance. That being said, I've contacted or returned contacts from people with no-picture profiles.
I have had several friends over the years who were in the radio business. One in particular, Don, and I had several conversations about the problems with not being able to see someone and building up expectations about what someone might look like. He talked about how he would get calls on-air, etc., and then when he would leave the station he would go outside to find some young things (Don was older than I am) who had fallen in love with his voice and some idealized picture of him, only to discover that he was, indeed, older, larger, and just not the Adonis they had envisioned. (Think Orson Welleian.) These "groupies" (for lack of a better term) would see him exit the station and head for the parking lot, and they would ask him if he knew "Don," if he knew when he would be coming out. And he would tell them he WAS Don, and he said the feeling that he got when he saw that "look," was one of the reasons he actually considered getting out of radio. While not intentional, it was an all too frequent reinforcement that he wasn't considered particularly attractive. None of us needs that.
And we have all heard the stories about going to meet someone who does have pictures on their profile, and the pictures turn out to have been.. shall we say, from an earlier era? Or even photoshopped! If you were one of the ones to whom this happened, could you hide the fact that your expectations had been unfulfilled? Or are you one of those who truly (and there are a fair number of them) put so little emphasis on a partner's appearance that you could look past it? Most of us, rightly or wrongly, want a partner we LIKE to look at. That's called "physical attraction," and like it or not, it is part of the package.
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| Dec 30, 2008 @ 9:21 PM |
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custis
Posts: 1,890
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I replaced my pic with a celebrity because the guys who have pics of heroes and such instead of themselves seem to get more attention. 
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