| Jan 5 @ 7:15 PM |
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violette1967
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Ok, so I am seeing someone.
Overall he is a great guy, not something long term, but worth dating....
The only gripe I have is that he talkes to much. So much that at times my eyes glaze over. I hardly get a word in edgewise, and when I do, I get the feeling he is not really listening unless it is something he wants to hear.
Don't get me wrong, I like a good conversation, but it has to be a conversation.....not one person talking for hours on end.
What does he talk about? Anything that comes to his mind. From TV shows, work or past relationships. ......Hello......can I say something??????
I know he likes me, I know he cares, I know he is intelligent enough to understand that women need to be heard as well. I just don't know how to put it politely and in a way that will not hurt his feelings.
Ideas anyone?????
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| Jan 5 @ 7:17 PM |
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Winnie4010
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Just tell him to STFU already  
Oh, you said polite 
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| Jan 5 @ 7:17 PM |
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willowy1
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stuff something in his mouth  
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| Jan 5 @ 7:21 PM |
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violette1967
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LOL.....
I did try stuffing something in his mouth, but he talkes while chewing..... 
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| Jan 5 @ 7:21 PM |
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ColdinWisconsin
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Oh Lordy girl...I hear ya. Sweet, wonderful, good men who not only talk non-stop, but repeat themselves over and over. I honestly (in my situation) have decided it comes with nerves. He wants to make sure I'm entertained, be assured he is interesting. I don't think with most men it's a selfish thing.
What did I do? Rapped my fork on my glass an said "Times up....My turn." He was so stunned that his eyes got huge and he talked all the faster. All you can do at that point is get the giggles.
It takes patience, and a great deal of it. If you are close enough, lean over and thoroughly kiss him and then start talking yourself. Do that a few times and he will sit there with a huge grin and listen attentively. I think men appriciate kindness.
Or...you will just train him to talk all the more because he liokes the way you kiss. But hey...what have you gt to lose?  
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| Jan 5 @ 7:22 PM |
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Laidback742
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Duct tape ....
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| Jan 5 @ 7:25 PM |
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BeachCrete
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Buy him a subscription to Playboy  
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| Jan 5 @ 7:28 PM |
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scorpiogirl36
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I'd guess he's just nervous and will quiet down after awhile...if he doesn't, ditch him or medicate him
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| Jan 5 @ 7:30 PM |
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Laidback742
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Also ... if it isn't long term .... say what you want to him about it and don't worry about pissing him off .... he'll be gone eventually anyway, right?
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| Jan 5 @ 7:31 PM |
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thor22
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try putting something in your mouth next time...go down on him. that'll shut him up, jhey! 
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| Jan 5 @ 7:31 PM |
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violette1967
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Scorpiogirl...
Yeah I thought about slipping him a mickey.....but am afraid he would talk even in his comatose state.......
Yeah Laidback......but thing is.......who knows where it may lead, obviously I like him enough to date......plus he would make an awesome friend....and is...and you don't wanna be rude to friends.....right?
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| Jan 5 @ 7:36 PM |
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Jalon
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...but what kinda friend doesn't ever let you talk? If you can't ever get a word in, how are you really even building a friendship? Seems kinda one sided.
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| Jan 5 @ 7:41 PM |
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violette1967
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Well, from what I have heard him talk about...he would make a good friend....and I've heard alot....lol
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| Jan 5 @ 7:47 PM |
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Loreli
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And you did say NOT long term.
Thor-that's rude....every thread isn't a sex thread. 
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| Jan 5 @ 7:52 PM |
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BandTMom
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Take him to a movie. That might shut him up for a few hours.
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| Jan 5 @ 8:00 PM |
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Peabianjay
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Long term or not...honesty is the best policy.
Just tell 'm. If he can't handle the truth, the shorter term, the better.
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| Jan 5 @ 8:05 PM |
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Winnie4010
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^^^^ Yeah, what he said
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| Jan 5 @ 8:06 PM |
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ABetterMan
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Slowly raise your arm, then like film director say: "....aaaaaaaand.... CUT!"
Or, if you're more of a theater type person: "....aaaaaaand... SCENE!"
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| Jan 5 @ 8:06 PM |
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blueyes101
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I think CiW has hit the nail on the head. And besides, it is a little better than the awkward silence.
Always finding something to say is better than repeating himself too.
And nobody likes the one word answers either.
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| Jan 5 @ 11:00 PM |
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lobo65
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He either has a big mouth or, like me, is shy around women. Thus maybe he rambles out of nervousness?
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