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luneib
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When I was dating about 4 years ago I was looking for Mr. Right, but of course I found a few Mr Wrongs.  One guy sounded really nice on the phone, like a gentleman, he said he wasn't doing anything that day, would I like to meet him and we would go to the beach, he lived by the water, he was 48 years old, had kids, a family type guy, or so I thought.  I thought, sounded good to me as I wasn't doing anything that day either. Well...I got to his house and it was over an hours drive to get there, he gave me a drink, I don't normally drink but I graciously accepted it. He was all over me, I could not keep this guys hands off of me.  I was thinking ok, maybe it was just his hormones talking here, so he decided we would go out to eat lunch, so he took me to a pizza restaurant, there was a dead deer head on the wall, talk about a Redneck date lol. After lunch we went back to the house, he said to me, "Ok, you came here to give me sex, I said "No, I did not come here to give you sex, what gave you that idea?". I told him I only agreed to the date as I was looking for an older man for a long term relationship, geeeeez. He apologized but what the heck are these men thinking asking ladies questions like that? 
Then there was another guy, this one was in his mid-late 40s, he seemed nice online and I thought ok, I would consider him for a long term relationship if things went well in person, so....I agreed to meet him at a restaurant that evening and being unfamiliar with the town, I stopped and asked directions at a funeral home, yes lol. Anyhoo, I made it to the restaurant, we went inside, he ordered drinks. I was not dressed provocatively at all, but this man was also all over me, his hand immediately went underneath my skirt. I was disgusted at that point. Needless to say that date ended very quickly.
Have any of you had bad dates like that? 
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| Jan 7 @ 6:41 PM |
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scorpiogirl36
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One that sticks out in my mind was a guy I had been mailing and talking to over a period of time. He was a business owner, had a teen daughter that lived with him, very well mannered and had a great sense of humor. Finally, I agreed to meet him at a coffee shop that was half way between us. He drove up in a jag and when he got out I thought MAN...this is one guy who's photo's did not do him justice. He was gorgeous!
I jumped out of my car and waited for him at the door of the coffee shop, where we spent almost three hours laughing and getting to know each other. He kept complimenting me on my outfit over and over...and how he liked my taste in fashion.
Guess you know where I'm going.....he walked me to my car and we continued to talk and he said to me flat out.."I like to dress in women's clothes"..complete with a matter of fact facial expression.
After picking myself up off the ground, I gave a half-hearted wave goodbye and off I went...he was soooooooo much bigger than me.... 
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| Jan 7 @ 8:40 PM |
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BandTMom
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Well, I don't think my date with the guy and that ate his steak and baked potato with his hands can top that one.
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| Jan 7 @ 8:47 PM |
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scorpiogirl36
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^^^^^Gosh mom...I don't know...a guy eating with his hands would have chased me right out the restaurant door. 
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| Jan 7 @ 9:05 PM |
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BandTMom
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It almost did. That was one of the grossest things I've ever seen and I'm a nurse.
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| Jan 7 @ 9:11 PM |
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scorpiogirl36
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One update about the guy I met....I later read where he was running for a political position in the town he lived in. 
I told one of my girlfrfiends the story and she said I was crazy..I could have had the greatest wardrobe going!
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| Jan 8 @ 3:18 PM |
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custis
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About 19 yrs ago I was working in a plywood mill near Cottage Grove when I became interested in this sweet young thing who worked with me. I asked her if she would like to go out with me the coming weekend. She gave me a big smile and said "Sure." Well, because of some complications or other, she preferred to meet me at a restaurant rather than have me pick her up. She was almost half an hour late and when she came in she did not sit down. She had had someone else drive her there so that she could tell me she had decided not to go out with me. I held on to my temper and politely said "No problem," and watched her leave. What I did not know at that time was that she had broke our date because she was stupid enough to suddenly fall for a married guy that we worked with. It was a real blow to my ego when I found out because the guy was a real pig, a fat and hairy slob who always sat in the breakroom discussing women in only the grossest of sexual terms.
The guy had not told her that he was married. I did not know or care because the fact that she had decided to do that to me when we had a date had forever erased her from my list of things that required attention. In my book, that is an instant and permanent three strikes out. I would not offer to take her out again if she crawled and groveled for a month of Sundays.
One night after work I was walking to my van when she suddenly comes running up and indignantly demands to know why I had not told her that Brian was married. I could have given a shit less about her problems with Brian, but I doubt it. I replied "You never asked." She stopped walking, staring at me in befuddled frustration. I kept walking. I have heard that karma will get you every time.
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| Jan 8 @ 9:20 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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In 2006 when I was still single my friend insisted upon introducing me to her ex boyfriend Gabe. She said he was "my type". So, I met him...and first of all, he wasn't. He was 6'4 (I'm fine with tall), lanky as hell (gross), had this nasty disgusting long hair down his back, was wearing a headband and a tie dyed shirt, and had these round glasses. He rode a Razor Scooter around campus. We talked for a little bit in the gazebo and then we hung out in the cafeteria for a bit and then he asked me if I wanted to go out somewhere. I said yeah it was fine and we walked to his car.
He said "ummm I'll give you a ride up to your car". I was like...wtf this guy is making me take my own car??? We're going in separate cars? How rude can he possibly be? He didn't even tell me where we were going: he just made me follow him there.
So we got to the diner, probably the sleaziest place he could've taken me, and we sat and ate, and we hit it off amazingly well. We had a lot in common. There were never any awkward silences, or anything.
Afterward, we hung out in front of the diner and talked for HOURS. I think it must've been about 5:00 when I left. And when I was leaving he said "Sooo ummm I think we should just be friends." No reason, or anything, just that. So it was like he had wasted a few hours of my time when it was obvious from the beginning he never really wanted anything but friendship.
It was okay, though, because he was and still is schkeevy looking, a skinny guy, and he was a total and complete liberal. Also...if I was dating him it's a possibility I wouldn't have met Marko.
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| Jan 8 @ 9:56 PM |
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redhairNfreckles
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When I was looking for someone for a LTR and dating guys I met online, I met this one in a restaurant that was half-way between us for our first date. It went nicely and we quickly made a second date for the next weekend. He talked so lovingly about his mother, said she lived right behind him and wanted me to meet her on our next date. So I drove the hour drive to SC, mainly so I could meet his mom, and as soon as I walked in the door he was all over me. I told him he sure was rushing things and that it wasn't giving him any points in the plus column. He backed off some but before long he was trying again. So I walked out his back door, over to his mom's house, introduced myself to her and she invited me in for coffee. I ended up spending the day visiting with her, laughing and sharing stories, and she even taught me how to make biscuits when I told her I couldn't make good ones. I spent the whole date, with her.....lol. What a delightful lady and I was so glad to meet such a person who had lived such a full life! Her son was a dud, but she sure wasn't. Never did hear from him again.... 
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| Jan 8 @ 10:41 PM |
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blueyes101
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I told him he sure was rushing things and that it wasn't giving him any points in the plus column.
Please transfer my points to your younger sister ..... ( rim shot )
( sorry, I borrowed that from a comedian )
I had someone travel a long distance to meet me, long story short, her appearance did not match her profile. And that in of itself I might have gotten over, but as the date wore on, she reminded me of a old girlfriend, and the only one I hope to God I never see again. ( I am still friends with practically every other one ).
Moral of the story, 100' and 100's of emails, 50+ phone calls and playing in the forums, cannot match being with someone in person.
Would I do it again ? Without a doubt.
My only regret, I know I hurt her very deeply, and there was nothing I could do about it. ( I was hurt too, but that I have some control over. )
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| Jan 8 @ 10:55 PM |
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BandTMom
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Moral of the story, 100' and 100's of emails, 50+ phone calls and playing in the forums, cannot match being with someone in person.
We should all realize this.
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| Jan 8 @ 11:01 PM |
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blueyes101
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One more thing
If at all possible............ Meet as soon as you can.
Trust me on this one.
If you are going to develop feelings, have them based on as much reality as possible.
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| Jan 8 @ 11:03 PM |
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pamdemonium
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And if they don't want to meet?
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| Jan 8 @ 11:05 PM |
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adrian555
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Next please
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| Jan 8 @ 11:09 PM |
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Mischief484
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Which one first? hmmm...
1. The Wino. I asked her to meet me in a nice jazz bar and restaurant on Duke St in Alexandria, VA. If you have been in the area, you know the place. She got there at least a half hour before me and had finished at least three glasses before I even walked in the door. Already slurring her words at "herlllo," it got worse as the night ground on. I'm a patient fellow, so when she said she wanted to go someplace "quiet," I didn't realize she meant an apartment where she could scream at me about how awful men were and how she knew I didn't care. As God is my witness, I never even touched her. Not even a handshake.
2. The Witchdoctor. Same jazz bar. Dr. Wanda told me within five minutes that she "did not meet men from the Internet to have casual sex." Five hours later, she's cumming like a Waukesha Diesel Locomotive and I'm driving. The opening comment should have told me something, because "Dr. Wanda" stalked me for the next six weeks. She called. She "stopped by." She even "stopped by the office" to see what I was up to. She called coworkers. That's not even half of the story, either.
3. The congressional staffer. Ok, I gave up on the jazz bar. This one met me for cocktails at an upscale hotel bar in Crystal City. Have you ever been in a room with a woman who wants EVERYONE to see and hear her? She was made up worse that Tammy Faye and laughed louder than Roseann Barr. I am hard to embarrass. But when you're sitting on a couch in a really nice place and a woman loudly climbs in your lap and says, "RIDE IT, BAMA BOY!" you've met your match.
I think that's gonna be my last visit to the Metro DC area. Those chicks is crazy.
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| Jan 8 @ 11:18 PM |
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pamdemonium
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That's not even half of the story, either 
"RIDE IT, BAMA BOY!" 
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| Jan 9 @ 3:32 AM |
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custis
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"he was a total and complete liberal."
Oh my gawd, please tell me you are not another one of those people who get all their news about the world from Rush Limbaugh. The guy is a paid propagandist.
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| Jan 9 @ 5:38 AM |
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SensualGemini
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Scorp: One update about the guy I met....I later read where he was running for a political position in the town he lived in.
... .... Rudy Giuliani?
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| Jan 9 @ 9:26 AM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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Oh my gawd, please tell me you are not another one of those people who get all their news about the world from Rush Limbaugh. The guy is a paid propagandist.
No. I'm an independent...leaning right. I used to listen to Rush, but I don't anymore.
However, I don't find men of the "liberal persuasion" attractive, and never did.
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| Jan 9 @ 4:14 PM |
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custis
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^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^Yep, even without the age difference that would pretty much make us incompatible. Eight years of the Bush idiot and the right-wing propaganda explosion on the radio has pretty much soured me on the conservative movement.
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