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luneib
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Have you ever noticed some women and men you meet online are always down on themselves? They complain that they are not pretty and no man wants them, and then there are guys who complain that they will never have a woman since they are unattractive. Geeez.  They say that people looking to date are looking for good looking people to date, but when it comes down to meeting and dating them, that it never happens because people are into looks. Now....from my personal experiences, I have dated men who were borderline homely and you know what? One of those men I fell for pretty hard and fast, we had only had 2 dates but there was just something really special about him. He made me laugh, we had so much in common, he was sweet, he was kind and so caring. The second date he brought me a long stemmed red rose. He did not ask for sex, both dates were platonic, yet they were wonderful dates that I will never forget. We would have dated longer had his ex gf not come back in the picture from out of state and he had promised her a few years back that if she ever came back, they would get back together. But....as you can see, he never thought it would happen, why he started to date again. But...as I was saying, some women and men are just so thick headed about things, they will believe what they want even if people tell them otherwise. Personally I like a guy NOT because of his looks, I could care less, but I like him because of his personality, someone with a caring attitude, someone who is not down on themselves just because they don't look like Brad Pitt or George Clooney. I really don't care. I know alot of other women out there probably feel the same way as me, it's not about looks, you fall in love with the person.  If the looks are there, so be it, but if they are not, you can still fall in love with that person.
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| Jan 11 @ 7:05 PM |
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blueyes101
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Baggage is never attractive or sexy. And it doesn't matter if it is the baggage of a past relationship, or the baggage if insecurity.
I don't mind a conversation explaining how they got to where they are now. But, I'm not here to hold your hand or be a shoulder to cry on, because of the decisions of your past. And don't ask me to hate your ex, I can figure all that out later all on my own. 
WE can't move forward if you are stuck in the past.
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| Jan 11 @ 7:14 PM |
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youbetcha
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Can we whine sometimes? 
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| Jan 11 @ 7:24 PM |
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BandTMom
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Blu! 
YB.....no!
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| Jan 11 @ 7:36 PM |
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Loreli
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It isn't attractive out of the single...or taken. 
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| Jan 11 @ 7:39 PM |
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Winnie4010
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Right on Loreli 
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| Jan 11 @ 7:43 PM |
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scorpiogirl36
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It's an inborn trait to pick and choose someone that appeals to us in different ways... with looks/appearance being a forerunner. That's the normal response of attraction and fortunately differs from one person to another. How we define that preference is based on our own set of values..be they wrong or not. 
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| Jan 13 @ 5:20 PM |
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thor22
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it really doesn't matter what a woman looks like, I've seen it time and again in many bars at closing time...a woman can get laid anytime she wants, no matter how homely she looks
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| Jan 13 @ 5:47 PM |
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Brass_Wolf
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I feel compelled to write something insightful and thought provoking, but I gotta pee real bad. Scuse me. .
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| Jan 13 @ 7:40 PM |
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Angel178
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Whining might not be the word I would use, but it's close. I love to come on here to have fun. I do this because my day is filled with people coming to me to solve there problems all day long...teachers, parents and my bosses. I like to come here to unwind.
I read other threads that are more serious too. Reading about someones sadness, loss or problems is what makes us all human. There are many threads for that. I go on them and read them, sometimes post on them. That is where we all realize that everyone is the same...we can't be "up" all of the time. But, there are really fun threads that people post negative things on over and over. That tends to make me want to hit my head on my desk. But that is just me. 
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| Jan 13 @ 7:42 PM |
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Loreli
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| Jan 13 @ 7:45 PM |
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Kenn159
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Whining might not be the word I would use, but it's close. I love to come on here to have fun. I do this because my day is filled with people coming to me to solve there problems all day long...teachers, parents and my bosses. I like to come here to unwind.
I read other threads that are more serious too. Reading about someones sadness, loss or problems is what makes us all human. There are many threads for that. I go on them and read them, sometimes post on them. That is where we all realize that everyone is the same...we can't be "up" all of the time. But, there are really fun threads that people post negative things on over and over. That tends to make me want to hit my head on my desk. But that is just me.
I was going to post, but Angel you pretty much said what I was going to say. 
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| Jan 13 @ 7:46 PM |
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Kenn159
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Except the bit about teachers.
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| Jan 13 @ 8:09 PM |
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Angel178
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Reading about someones sadness, loss or problems is what makes us all human
A very wise person told me this recently.
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| Jan 13 @ 8:16 PM |
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Loreli
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Not to argue, sweetie...but just reading about it doesn't make us human...Our true and honest reaction does...
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| Jan 13 @ 8:20 PM |
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Angel178
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You are all human to me. You are all the same as me, you just express it differently. I always feel humanity when I read the reactions to peoples posts Loreli. When people are hurting from a bad experience or a good one even....the way people respond makes me feel. I connect. I don't always post, but I do feel. That makes it real for me. It also makes them human and real to me. (I know it's cyberland....but after three years with the same people...more real to me)
I don't always word myself correctly...sorry.
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| Jan 13 @ 9:15 PM |
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signme
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Ok I confess, I'm one of those teachers who whine a lot! But we call it venting and we get together with other like-minded teachers every now and then to vent. Then we're good for a while!
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| Jan 13 @ 9:18 PM |
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uab_5
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I just ask them if they care for some cheese to go with the wine! 
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| Jan 13 @ 9:33 PM |
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meanjolene
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The very first post I ever did was on a whiney type thread....can I do it now?
Oh, boo hoo, pity me, pity me....... 
No one wants to hear it all the time, or even very much of the time.
One of the best people I ever met was bedfast and pretty much paralyzed by arthritis, and suddenly too. She had a pic of herself captioned "last picnic walking" when she was 24 or so, a young mother.
When I met her, she was, as I said, bedfast, horribly twisted joints, even her vocal cords affected and had been that way for years and years. Self-pity was not in her vocabulary, however.
I used to be someone who cried a good deal, whimpered, I did. It ruined my mascara, swelled my eyes, blotched my face and well, you get the picture.
Now, if I feel tears well up, I ask myself if it's self-pity. If it is, I QUIT IT then and there. Self-pity is something I don't allow me to indulge in.
I have no real reason to pity me, I can walk...I can work, I can dance, I have my kids and my immense good fortune.
Beautiful? Not me. Rich, nada. But I have everything that is really important and I don't approve of too much whining. I don't even like when children do it.
Oh Lord, another essay.... 
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| Jan 13 @ 10:16 PM |
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RareQuestor
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I just ask them if they care for some cheese to go with the wine!
What do you do if they DO want some cheese to go with the wine?
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