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Peachie23
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Hi,
I wrote a thread in here before.. Im new to dating so Im just getting use to all this. The guy I have been seeing he has his own place he lives about 30 minutes away from me. I dont mind going to where he lives because I still live at home with my mom and sisters. So I'd rather go see him then him coming here. I dont see him that much it depends on if the weather is bad and on weekends he has his kid. I dont think he is ready to introduce me to his son yet. We only hung out a couple times but we talk everyday. My question is.. Is it alright that Im the one that does the traveling all the time? Everyone tells me he should come up my way. But right now he doesnt have alot of money to come up here and go out all the time. He cooks dinner when I go see him or we just hangout at his house and watch a movie. The only thing I may pay for is a movie because I will go and rent one before i go there. He is a nice guy I like him but Im just getting use to all of this and I dont know where my feelings are if that makes any sense.
thanks to all who reads this.
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| Feb 1 @ 10:21 AM |
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Loreli
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Is there a question?
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| Feb 1 @ 10:31 AM |
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robodad
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Yes, there is a question.
My question is.. Is it alright that Im the one that does the traveling all the time? 
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| Feb 1 @ 10:33 AM |
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burnslikethesun
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My question is.. Is it alright that I'm the one that does the traveling all the time? It was well hidden in the middle, obscured by non reliance or partial thoughts. Almost missed it myself.
But to answer the proposed question, maybe. But if you are having a problem with it, you need to bring it up with him. Together you should be able to come to a mutual satisfying arrangement. Giving it over to this group of animals, is just setting yourself up. LOL
I love these fury creatures. The hole lot of.
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| Feb 1 @ 10:39 AM |
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Loreli
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Thanks, just went back....I couldn't stay on task with the story....I figured the question would be at the end 
Carry on....
(personally, it's bs- unless it's a fly by night relationship)
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| Feb 1 @ 10:54 AM |
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BandTMom
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If the two of you are happy with the arrangement, why listen to what others say. Besides, you don't live alone so going to his place sounds like the better idea to me.
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| Feb 1 @ 11:42 AM |
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Loreli
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The only thing I may pay for is a movie because I will go and rent one before i go there.
Does he pay you half for gas?
Is there a problem with him driving where you live and sleeping on the couch-will he meet your parents someday?Where does your family think you are going now? 
He is only 30 minutes away from you....that's across town to me. Yet you do it all?
There isn't anything wrong with what you're doing if you're both happy......the whole thing is just odd. To ME....my boyfriends split LD trips.... 
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| Feb 1 @ 11:49 AM |
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burnslikethesun
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Excellent Miss Lors. 
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| Feb 1 @ 11:54 AM |
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wiccked
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she states she is new to dating- does she mean dating sites or at age 28 she is just now experiencing the joy of dating for the first time?????? a long time ago this would be considered (dare I say it??).........................Use your imagination
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| Feb 1 @ 6:53 PM |
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Peachie23
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sorry I even asked for advice. Didnt think I would be criticized.
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| Feb 1 @ 6:58 PM |
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BandTMom
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Some of us weren't criticizing.
I think you need to do what works for the two of you. 
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| Feb 1 @ 6:58 PM |
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Loreli
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You got answers....nobody called you names.
sheesh
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| Feb 2 @ 8:31 AM |
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thor22
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to my dearest peachie: 
burns tried to warn ya's 
thiis qestion is preeety heavy 
I'm trying to think...butt, nothing's happening! 
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| Feb 2 @ 10:11 PM |
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Mischief484
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Stop listening to your "friends."
If the arrangement works for both of you, then you should both be thankful for the opportunity to be with each other. If the arrangement stops working for one reason or another, either get the boy to work with you on a new arrangement, or find a new boy.
Your friends have no skin in the game, dear. When they have nothing at risk, their advice comes cheap and you get what you pay for.
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| Feb 7 @ 3:38 PM |
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Loreli
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new to dating
28 years old
incomplete profile
hasn't been back for a week
comes to a singles site and asks something like this out of the blue? ok
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| Feb 7 @ 3:39 PM |
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BandTMom
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So why bump it up. Why not let it die?
She probably hasn't been back because she was welcomed a little rudely here.
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| Feb 7 @ 3:54 PM |
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Loreli
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I'd rather bump discussion than yes i'd kiss, yes i'd kiss, yes i'd kiss
Get off my butt
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| Feb 7 @ 3:58 PM |
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Gallows_Humor
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She probably hasn't been back because
she didn't get the answer she was looking for...
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| Feb 7 @ 4:56 PM |
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indigorose351
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I read a little between the lines here so forgive me in advance....sounds like you want to go out on the town and he doesn't have the bucks to squire you around. He seems like he is a good Daddy. You don't introduce your kids to someone unless they are going to be around awhile. Money is tight when you are raising little ones.
If you are happy with the way the relatioship is progressing then who cares what other people think?
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| Feb 7 @ 5:02 PM |
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wiccked
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28 years old
incomplete profile
hasn't been back for a week
comes to a singles site and asks something like this out of the blue? ok must have been ME that so rudely critized her oh,woe is me just calling it as I saw it-
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