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LonelySweetheart217
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If you’re dating a guy who has cheated on you and then dumped you for the girl he cheated on you with, then is it okay for him to hang out with that girl as long as he promises not to do anything, or do you have a right to ask him not to hang out with the girl?
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Didn't mean to post this twice. Sorry.
[Edited on 2/18/2009 3:36 AM]
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| Feb 18 @ 4:22 AM |
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SensualGemini
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LS217 If you’re dating a guy who has cheated on you and then dumped you for the girl he cheated on you with, then is it okay for him to hang out with that girl as long as he promises not to do anything, or do you have a right to ask him not to hang out with the girl?
...Personally, my advice is that you have the right to permanently dump his butt and find someone that is for you, that treats you the way you want to be treated.
...Why would you settle for someone like this?
...We are all treated by what we accept as treatment from another. And I can guarantee that you will feel a lot better in dumping his butt, than when he dumps yours again for the next one that comes along.
...People can change, but it is not like snapping your fingers. In about 20 years, he might look back and wish that he would have done things differently, but he still did it and you will never completely trust him again.
...You might forgive, but you are never going to forget.
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| Feb 18 @ 8:45 AM |
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Loreli
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I agree with SG...
Why would you take him back?
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| Feb 18 @ 9:26 AM |
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here4yoo
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Atta Boy, Gemini, and you too, Lor..
The message is always don't be a DOORMAT! 
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| Feb 18 @ 3:19 PM |
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LonelySweetheart217
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I appreciate all your replies, but the question was not whether or not I should dump him. Please answer the question. I'm trying to prove a point to him. If he still doesn't get it afterwards, then I will dump him.
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| Feb 18 @ 3:24 PM |
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Gallows_Humor
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as a condition of taking him back....certainly...
but every knows that if he is still wanting to hang out with her...
he is only playing... - you -
your keyword here was....
dating
afterall....
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| Feb 18 @ 3:54 PM |
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willowy1
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some enjoy going back in for another tasty bite of chit sandwich. 
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| Feb 18 @ 4:04 PM |
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pamdemonium
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...^^^ that's positively a disgusting thought  
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| Feb 18 @ 4:13 PM |
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willowy1
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Pam I am sure you will get over it. 
If you’re dating a guy who has cheated on you and then dumped you for the girl he cheated on you with, *see sandwich!
then is it okay for him to hang out with that girl as long as he promises not to do anything, I don't know he seems to be pretty trustworthy to me.
or do you have a right to ask him not to hang out with the girl? Do you think you have won a prize?
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| Feb 18 @ 4:52 PM |
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Loreli
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Why do you need to make any point to him?
You either won't put up with it, or he will know in the future he can steamroll right over you.
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| Feb 18 @ 4:58 PM |
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here4yoo
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Wanna make a point? Dump him. Don't take his calls, delete his email and texts without a peek. Those will be coming in great abundance when the new girlie he hooked up with (that surely knew he was cheating on you) moves on to someone else.
Your point will have been made. Only point that needs to be made in my estimation.
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| Feb 18 @ 5:02 PM |
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Merchitown
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Wait...I'm trying to figure out why on earth this is a question in the first place...
I'm just trying to follow the chronology here:
A. Man Dates Girl A
B. Man Cheats on Girl A with Girl B
C. Man Dumps Girl A for B.
Q. Girl A wants to demand that Man not hang out or "do anything" with Girl B.
A few steps seem to be missing, but as it appears how you laid it out...you can no longer ask him to do ANYTHING....he moved on!
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| Feb 18 @ 5:17 PM |
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SensualGemini
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LS217: I appreciate all your replies, but the question was not whether or not I should dump him. Please answer the question. I'm trying to prove a point to him. If he still doesn't get it afterwards, then I will dump him.
...It is not someone's responsibility to make us happy... yet, it is how someone makes us feel about our self, how much we like our self when we are around them, that actually determines our attraction to them.
...The point that is attempting to be made, is that you are trying to control someone by your own insecurities, to prove a point that should already be obvious, to then make you feel better about you.
...Your happiness, how you feel about you, is based upon conditions that creates this house of cards. If he agrees, you will feel better... for now, but a temporary prize at best.
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| Feb 18 @ 5:32 PM |
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SensualGemini
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Merch: A few steps seem to be missing, but as it appears how you laid it out...you can no longer ask him to do ANYTHING....he moved on!
...There is a "D" in there Merch, Girl A is dating him again after he either dumped Girl B, or she dumped him.
If you’re dating a guy who has cheated ...
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| Feb 18 @ 5:35 PM |
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Merchitown
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Seems a few steps are STILL missing.
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| Feb 18 @ 5:45 PM |
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SensualGemini
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Merch: Seems a few steps are STILL missing.
Oh, you had it right with your first sentence:
Wait...I'm trying to figure out why on earth this is a question in the first place...
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| Feb 18 @ 5:52 PM |
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Loreli
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You want your question answered?
Here goes....
It is MY opinion you were foolish to take him back.
Now, being that you did, YOU have a right to ask anything.
Just be aware it probably isn't going to happen....either to your face-or behind your back.
You don't have the right to control another.
It's up to HIM to control himself.
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| Feb 18 @ 6:10 PM |
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SensualGemini
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Loreli: You want your question answered?
...For some reason, that reminded me of Jack Nicholson in:
"You want answers? ... You can't handle the truth!"
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| Feb 18 @ 6:13 PM |
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Loreli
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| Feb 18 @ 6:17 PM |
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KAOS2007
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Stay with him, have kids, get divorced, become a statistic. 
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