| Jan 10, 2006 @ 1:38 AM |
Double standard....age?
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w_i_c_k_e_d
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I realize that girls mature faster and all that, but why is it cool for older men to date younger women (lets say, 6 years younger) but when a woman dated a younger man, she gets the raised eyebrow, cougar,cradle robber bull sh*t????
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 1:46 AM |
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Classy_Blonde
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I really haven't experienced that, and I usually date men younger than I am.
Are you talking about a huge age gap? That may be a different story.
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 2:22 AM |
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w_i_c_k_e_d
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I am 31 turning 32 in days, he is 25, 26 in June....
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 2:26 AM |
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Classy_Blonde
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Not a problem. When I married my husband, I was 25. He was 19. The reason we didn't work out had nothing to do with age--whatsoever.
Dating younger men is really not taboo. Times have changed. Even if people did talk, I wouldn't let what they say bother me.
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 2:52 AM |
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ash_is_unforgetable
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People will judge and raise there eyebrows to anything now adays. Don't let it bother you , as long as you are happy thats all that matters. Who cares whats cool and whats not cool anymore.
*AsH
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 2:56 AM |
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Always_Striving
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To me it doesn't matter I had a girlfriend that was 8 years older than me and that was pretty much o.k. with my friends and family.
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 2:59 AM |
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MoonBeamTag45
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I don't have a double standard about it, and a few years either way, even 10 doesn't mean much. But, I think it just looks a little silly when a man, or woman has someone half thier age hanging on thier arm. It makes me think cash flow !!!
When I have gotten winks, or e-mails from guys in thier 20's, I ignore them, or drop a short note, indicating that I'm not interested. Then I go call my children for a chat.
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 3:30 AM |
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lookingforfun147
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I have dated men younger and older than I. I perfer older but thats me. I would say that if you two have the connection then go for it. Love sees no age anyway its just a number.
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 4:34 AM |
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peaches_n_cream2002
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I don't find it to be a double standard with me. If someone wants to date younger (so long as both are adults) then that's fine by me.
Personally I don't go for younger guys. I dated one that was younger, and being a sugar momma got old fast. That preference might change as I get older, but as of now, I predominantly stick to guys in their 30's.
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 4:56 AM |
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chinabull2000
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Wicked, I dont thnik that I know many people who would raise their eyebrows at you for this... I have almost always dated women much older than me, some as much at 13 or 14 years older than me, and I've never seen any raised eyebrows..
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 5:36 AM |
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w_i_c_k_e_d
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Oh, I am getting the wicked 'he's youinger than you?' comments from co-workers.
They are just envious...... 
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 5:59 AM |
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CynCity
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My ex was five years younger than me (and looked even younger than that)...when people raised their eyebrows, I just smiled and said "Because I can". 
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 6:35 AM |
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RAKS37
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I'd say it's envy.
From the pic Wicked looks like she could be 25 or 26.
Consider the source though if the coworkers are actually friends I might wonder is if there is something else they have against him they are not saying.
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 7:36 AM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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I've dated younger men for most of my life, and I'd never even heard the term 'cougar' before. When I was 31, the guy I was seeing was 22 and, in fact we were introduced by his uncle, who was a coworker of mine, because he thought we'd be a good match...very insightful man, his uncle was. Times haven't changed that much, that was 31 years ago.
Obviously, I'd say that you and he are the only ones who can know if you're well matched or not, and my own experience has been that chronological age's only relevance is in physical attraction. If that exists, the ages will work out. Then you're left with the real issues - temperament, interests, values, etc.
As for what people think - you can't please everybody, so you may as well please yourself!
[Edited on 1/10/2006 7:39 AM]
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 8:42 AM |
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Porsha924s
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Very simple answer really.
We as a culture in the US have been conditioned to certain moral/social belief system. It has and always will be that in order to be a lady she must conduct herself in such a manner. For a woman to seek the affections of a young man is in the moral circle a non lady like thing to do. Over the decades this "mindset" is just that, a conditioning of the mind to base a decision/opinion based on values set in place.
Men were not placed in this same criteria. In order to be a gentleman we must be nice and do our part but in no way is there a "stigma" placed on men for their promiscuous behavior. We are just called names, not paid a minute of attention to. But a woman will get the 9th degree.
Why? Because we set that mindset that if a woman goes "outside the box" she will be labled a ho,etc.
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 9:31 AM |
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sureyacan125
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We touched on this recently in another thred. Age just is not an issue for me. I am 55 and I will go out with 25 to near dead. If I like someone it is noone else's business. Now having sex with someone younger than my daughter....that is an issue for me....didn't stop me, but an issue... 
By the way, men really get the cradle robber s*** from women their own age.... Things like: "Can't handle a real woman", and so on. It is all about the two people involved....  .....it is no one else's business, including the kids!
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 11:06 AM |
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AngelLight
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I think the double standard is really starting to change Wicked. Although it still exists, it's changing.
Most of the men I date, or who ask me out, are younger than I am, and I haven't experienced personal or public problems with it in relation to how others respond.
Now I'm certainly not going to date an 18 year old, but I think as women mature and men enter their 30's the gap in maturity diminishes.
I am very young at heart and in mind, body, and Spirit so I seem to do better with men in their 30's. Although, there is one person I have spoken with in his late 20's (almost 30) that I would date in a heart beat if we lived near each other. He has a maturity beyond his years and is an amazing man.
[Edited on 1/10/2006 11:07 AM]
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 11:06 AM |
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Mischief484
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It's all about the jealousy, baby.
If I were you, I'd milk it for all it's worth. Tell'em that he keeps it up better than a lead pencil and doesn't stop until you climax at least twice.
Sooner or later, the coworkers will grow up, but until they do, make'em green with envy.
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 2:55 PM |
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mangolover60
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And we wonder why you call yourself w_i_c_k_e_d?  Hmmm 
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| Jan 10, 2006 @ 3:06 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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Mischief,
Only TWO climaxes???? 
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