| Mar 22 @ 9:44 AM |
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lonlyguy
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Hello this is my first time posting on macthdoctor. So here is the problem, I have some what a girlfriend out of state but not to far. She told me to move out cuase she couln't stand to be around me. So then I moved, while this is going on she moves in with a " friend". Now a few days later she tells me they are not toghter and she wnats to be with me but when I ask about seeing her or moving her up here she says " I have to wait till my duaghter in law gets out of school" cause she baby sits for her. And two she says " I have to get myself straightend out". Now I'm stuck here woundering why is this going on. What was sos bad? She tells me she loves me,and we are still toghter, but will not hardly talk to me twice aday. So am I to be hers or not to be hers.
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| Mar 22 @ 9:51 AM |
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Loreli
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In my opinion:
she couln't stand to be around me she already told you.....
Good luck.
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| Mar 22 @ 10:09 AM |
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robodad
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| Mar 22 @ 10:50 AM |
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wiccked
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| Mar 22 @ 5:10 PM |
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BandTMom
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Welcome to the forums, Lonly.
If she told you to move out because she couldn't stand being around you, I really don't think that's going to change. Oh sure, she might have started missing you once you were gone, but if you go back, it will be the same old, same old.
She's giving you excuses. Use the to get the hell away from her.
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| Mar 22 @ 7:13 PM |
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Laidback742
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Let me clarify this for you, son ....
You don't "have some what a girlfriend" if she "couln't stand to be around" you ....
While you were doing the "So then I moved" at the time "she moves in with a " friend" ", you were technically history ....
Then, since you feel wonderful because "she tells me they are not toghter and she wnats to be with me", you need to keep in mind that apparently she has no clue what, or who, she wants, proven by the statement that "I have to get myself straightend out" ....
The reason you wonder "why is this going on" is because the only thing going on is the game she's playing with you that you aren't figuring out ....
She doesn't love you ..... and you really aren't together if she still barely talks to you .... time to let the 2x4 of reality hit you in the face and forget her ....
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| Mar 22 @ 7:58 PM |
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Fender
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Listen to all of tehem^
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| Mar 22 @ 8:01 PM |
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Gallows_Humor
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To be or not to be
 ...seek professional help.... 
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| Mar 22 @ 8:19 PM |
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wiccked
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| Mar 24 @ 3:49 PM |
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carpediem48
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Hi Lonley Guy
I am sorry for your pain,,,but then again perhaps you might want to use this pain to learn one of your 'life lessons'
Would it be helpful to have a clear cut DEFINITION OF WHAT LOVE REALLY IS
Love is PATIENT Love is not 'fear'
Love is FREE
Love is KIND
Love is HONEST
If your friend or brother had started this thread,,,and
you read it
What's the first thing that would come to your mind to say to him?
Blessings on you,,,please know that you ARE loved
Perhaps if you can find and connect with the TRUE DIVINE love that surrounds you
every day,,,you'll be able to recognize it in us
Sending you a big hug
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| Mar 24 @ 5:38 PM |
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Empath
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Definitely 'not to be'.
Of course, you could allow her to play her little game out, and it would 'be' for a short while, but in the end, she won't be around.
My advice? Be self-respecting, don't allow anyone to play such games with your heart.
...I cannot express how thankful I am to have a mature partner!
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| Mar 26 @ 1:15 PM |
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sweetp_1983
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I have to agree with everyone else... not to be. You wouldn't have to ask otherwise.
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| Mar 26 @ 1:43 PM |
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willowy1
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Hello sweetp!
Hopping from house to house.. bed to bed? This chick is a real keeper isn't she now? Sounds to me like drugs,stupid and maybe a trailer park might be involved.
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| Mar 26 @ 2:18 PM |
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flcruiser
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Consider this to be your lucky break...use the time to find someone who will REALLY appreciate you...not just play games with you...
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| Mar 26 @ 2:21 PM |
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willowy1
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flcruiser great post! Welcome to the fora! 
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| Mar 26 @ 7:15 PM |
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thor22
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will everyone else on here give the guy a chance and be real enough to tell him the truth of it is that this woman is just playing hard to get...see lonelyguy, that is how they all work ya at first, next will come they will give you anything you want like even wear the kind of clothes you like...then, after they know your hooked its gonna be all about how much they can control you, and yes, they will even use your favorite clothes for that too...so, all in all, I'd say your about par for the course and it will be if you don't run...but if you do run, the faster the better, hey! 
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| Mar 26 @ 7:23 PM |
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wiccked
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and THIS is the way it should be 
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| Mar 26 @ 10:02 PM |
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thor22
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oh wow, let's redline that wiccked baby, hey! 
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| Mar 26 @ 10:03 PM |
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wiccked
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| Mar 26 @ 10:09 PM |
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thor22
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sshhh...I think she likes me in a wiccked sort of way, hey! 
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