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jdctx
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Ok as much as I fail online to find any sort of date it hasn't been so in real life.
Now I had not given it to much thought until someone I know pointed out that he had rarely seen me dating any woman were just pure caucasian.
Now the funny irony of it all is I'm half colombian where my mother was born and raised in Bogota. So grew up in a 2 cultured home and grew up speaking english and spanish about equally. but most unless they know me never figure that out on the surface. I look white and I have my father last name which is not hispanic.
For me its not that I would'nt date someone who is caucasian its just that for the most part I have found it more challenging to find the click or to be as openly accepted.
it can be a touchy subject I respect everyone personal preferences but was curious as to what your thoughts were on that subjects
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thor22
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tricky subjet, jd...I'm part american indian (notice I didn't say 'native american'), I was married to a white girl and when she divorced me the subject of my race reared its ugly head with some derogatory remarks she threw at me...kinda made me wonder if that was behind some of the problems we had in our marriage... 
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| Apr 19 @ 6:15 PM |
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willowy1
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You can't say native, can you? So you do admit to migrating across the bearing straights with the rest of those Ruskies? 
My ex was of Spanish decent. Good eyes,good hair, good teeth...crappy morals. 
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| Apr 19 @ 6:17 PM |
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thor22
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sorry, wills...I didn't walk, I rode in a canoe...I have excellent morals but no teeth! 
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| Apr 19 @ 6:19 PM |
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willowy1
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that's why I love you so ..Gummy! 
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| Apr 19 @ 6:21 PM |
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thor22
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| Apr 19 @ 6:32 PM |
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jdctx
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Well I find stereotyping of any kind even "good" regardless of what census is presented as silly and limiting to everyone.
Now as far as dating I will admit it can have its challenges. If I say that I dated someone hispanic that techically may not count even though to eyes of the others it does.
but going beyond that I have dated woman who are mideastern and muslim and a couple others who were hindu... None gave me any sort of bad experience. Obviously it wasnt a perfect match but it did not leave me with a I would never do that again.
Now that even pushes latin acceptance. But it all good to me so long as I felt respect in who I am that all that I would ask
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willowy1
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Well I find stereotyping of any kind even "good" regardless of what census is presented as silly and limiting to everyone well alrighty then!.
My Oma always said that ethnic humor started in Texas, as it was initiated by the University of Texas. 
[Edited on 4/19/2009 7:04 PM]
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| Apr 19 @ 7:04 PM |
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Fender
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Well...I've dated any man I liked. I'm part Indian. MicMac to be precise...Lived on a reservation before but I have moved away now. I had mostly dated men from there in the past...
However, I've also dated an Asian guy and a couple of Black men too. I never really notice ethnicity, I notice how they treat me...I've dated Caucasian men too. No difference. It's all about feelings and respect in the end.
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| Apr 19 @ 7:41 PM |
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thor22
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vine de loria jr., a noted am. indian scholar, professer and author, once wrote that white predjudice and discrimination against indians is at its worst in white communities that are the closest to a rez...growing up in a town that fits his critera taught me how correct he was...jmo
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| Apr 19 @ 8:00 PM |
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Fender
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I'd have to say he's right Thor.
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| Apr 19 @ 8:31 PM |
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signme
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I don't really see race when I date. I look for character and values. I've dated hispanic, pakistani, black and white. Who cares? They were all great guys but not "the one".
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| Apr 19 @ 9:37 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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I'm going to be one of the only ones, probably, to step up and admit that yes I do notice race and no I don't date outside of mine. Anymore.
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| Apr 19 @ 10:05 PM |
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signme
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Well of course I'm sure we all notice race. But to me, just like with appearances such as how great looking someone is, it's what's on the inside that counts more.
And it's interesting to date within different cultures. Since I live in south central Texas, of course there are many more hispanics to date than other races. But to me, they're just people and I spend time with those I feel comfortable with, not those whose skin coloring is the same as mine.
Edited for spelling typo.
[Edited on 4/19/2009 10:50 PM]
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| Apr 19 @ 10:34 PM |
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uab_5
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Some people like to date NASCAR, I prefer to date Formula ONE! 
Seriously, I'm from a cross nationality relationship, so I believe anyone can be color blind. 
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| Apr 19 @ 10:51 PM |
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signme
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| Apr 19 @ 11:17 PM |
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jdctx
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what about past just dating. In other words you are a couple NOT just someone you date. You would have to introduce them as to all your friends and your family
For me it would be easier because I have been on my own since I was 17 so I never had the need for my parents approval and very diverse group of friends where in an all out worse case scenerio I would at least have one that would support or care less either way.
I am looking for something serious so for all then women I have dated my hopes have been that thing would work out for something more then dating.
It is a completely different scenerio because your are hoping for dual family and friends acceptance..
For me if she is close to her family it would be important that I was accepted.
I have seen what can happen when familes dont.. Not from my own personal experience but from friend who's family pushed her consistantly away from her boyfriend.. He was a good man but her parents were were relentless. Neither had a lot of money to just get up and leave. After almost 2 yrs it was too much for fhem and they broke up.She left less then 3 months later to join the air force.
Parents hated that too interesting enough she married and had 2 kids with man of a race who's parents did not approve of
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signme
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I'd love to be able to bring a guy home to meet my family. Unfortunately both my parents are gone and the rest of my family is up in Minnesota. So that wouldn't likely happen unless we were together for over a year first. But I think meeting each others' friends is very important.
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| Apr 20 @ 1:44 AM |
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thor22
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when I was in high school there were a couple of girls I wanted to date that told me we would have to keep it a secret because their parents didn't like indians...I dumped them. 
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Fender
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OMG...Thor, are you from where I'm from?
I saw that happen so much where I grew up.
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