| May 9 @ 1:46 PM |
i sure wish i knew what i had to do to get a date.....
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darthcdrz
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i havent had one in 7 yrs. perhaps someone reading this will wonder what im all about and check out my profile and contact me and tell me that i found what im looking for. what am i looking for??? a woman who knows what she wants and takes a look at me and says i want him and thats all there is to it. im very easy to please but i have had nearly no intimate experiences with anyone. im going to be 49 yrs old in a week and i have never imagined loneliness could be this painful. i just want someone who is as tired of being alone as i am. my ex wife is now 64 yrs old. shes never had sex. not even once in her life. i was married to her for over 8 yrs. before she came into my life i had sex once. after her ive had it 3x. there was a 14 yr break in there and now theres been another 7 yr break. im not only looking for sex dont get me wrong. but sex is like air. its no big deal til youre not getting any. ya know? {email address removed} ({email address removed})
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| May 9 @ 4:15 PM |
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DiamondRain
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I have to be honest and say that I am not sure whether or not to take your post seriously. Either you are a very brave soul to put yourself out there like this, and deserve a lot of respect and admiration, or you are running a hoax.
Having your e-mail address in your post didn't help make it any more believable though because that's a no no. Normally only scammers do that, but I'll assume you just aren't familiar with that rule.
I'm gonna take you seriously because you sound like you could use the help. And if you are for real, you deserve it.
My first impression is that you are a good looking guy who needs to clean up your grooming. I don't know how you look now, if your hair is still long, if you have a beard or whatever. But you've got to know that women like a well groomed man.
I know some guys who have an attitude that "This is who I am and I'm not going to change it," when it comes to their looks. It works great as long as you don't mind spending every night with the guys and never getting any attention from women. But it's not so good for a guy with goals like yours.
So my first piece of advice would be to get some professional help getting yourself well groomed and taking advantage of the good physical qualities you have. Doesn't take a lot of money ... go see one of those gay hair stylists in the local haircutteries ... they can give you all kinds of advice (don't go TOO far ... some of it you may want to ignore).
Next thing I see is about confidence. Woman like a man who is confident in himself. I know that is a really hard thing to be when you are feeling so down and out, but getting confidence is something you MUST do if you want to be attractive to women. And it doesn't cost a dime.
I started with cleaning up yur grooming because after you do that, it will give you more confidence. It's a good start.
The rest of confidence comes from within... and from making an effort.
If you don't make an effort with women, you don't stand a chance of attracting one. You have to get to the point where you have enough confidence to ASK a woman for a date. They aren't going to come to you, you have to go to them.
The important thing is being able to handle rejection. You have to have the confidence to know that just because one woman says no, or even 10 women in a row say no, it doesn't mean there is something wrong with you and that no woman will ever say yes.
Women can sense confidence. You could ask the same woman for a date in one way and she will say no, but in another way and she will say yes. If she sees you are confident, it will make her more comfortable and more likey to accept. If she senses you are not confident, it's usually going to be no no matter what.
Confidence is the most important factor for you in my opinion.
As far as the sex. OK, it's unusual for a guy your age to have so little experience. But that doesn't mean it is a deal breaker at all. When you ask a woman for a date, you don't walk up and say "Hi, my name is Bob and I've only had sex 4 times." You don't even want to talk about sex on your first date... and maybe not even on your second or third date either... which brings up another point.
If you give off a vibe that you are so horny that you need to have sex as soon as you show up at her door for the date, forget about it. Women don't want a sex maniac. Drain the one eyed weasel if you have to before you go to a social setting looking for a potential date and before you go on a date. Do whatever it takes not to feel so horny that you give off vibes. Women hate that. Their engines take longer to get warmed up and they don't want a sprinter.
Last for now. when you're feeling down, it's hard to get out there and meet people. But you have to get out of your room if you want it to happen. They won't come to you. Are you involved is social situation where there are single women such as religious gatherings, clubs, singles events, etc? If not, consider it.
You are a good looking guy, and it sounds like you have a huge heart that women would love if they got a chance to know you. And you've got to admire your guts! Now you need to do the things it takes to help them WANT to get to know you.
One last comment ... you might also try using paragraph breaks in your writing. I don't know if it would turn any more women on, but it might prevent them from getting headaches. (and the last thing you want to hear is they have a headache!) 
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| May 9 @ 4:18 PM |
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wiccked
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Not tonight, DR I have a headache   and what DR said is the truth 
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| May 9 @ 5:32 PM |
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BandTMom
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I agree with DR and would like to add:
Take the text type out of your profile. For some, text type is a big turn off and it makes you look less intelligent.
And like DR said, take the sex talk out of your profile and don't post about. That's private and should only be reveled after you get to know someone...if at all. And for Pete's sake, never, ever tell anyone about your ex wife's lack of a sexlife. 
Sorry, dude, but you come off looking needy and desperate. Just be yourself and have fun. When you start relaxing and having fun, I'm sure you'll attact just the right one.
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| May 9 @ 5:47 PM |
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willowy1
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Those that can do! Those that can't... teach. 
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| May 9 @ 6:41 PM |
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DiamondRain
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And those that are young enough to spank get spanked.
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| May 9 @ 11:17 PM |
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willowy1
Posts: 9,192
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that perked my ears up
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| May 9 @ 11:20 PM |
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Laidback742
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We wanted to see something else perked up on Willowy ..... 
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| May 9 @ 11:31 PM |
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capobeachguy
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The turkey is done?  
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| May 9 @ 11:34 PM |
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willowy1
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I didn't come with the popup timer. I am a cheap turkey!
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| May 10 @ 12:10 AM |
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wiccked
Posts: 12,300
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no ButterBall here
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| May 10 @ 12:12 AM |
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MrPaul
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Butter balls  Oh wiccked 
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| May 10 @ 12:13 AM |
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wiccked
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thank God you are here  keep talking, Mr Paul
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| May 10 @ 12:15 AM |
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MrPaul
Posts: 1,633
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Let me guess  the food thing again after Im tied to the bed 
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| May 10 @ 12:17 AM |
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adrian555
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I didn't come with the popup timer. I am a cheap turkey!
You can tell when she's done when she starts getting angry
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| May 10 @ 12:18 AM |
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wiccked
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well, maybe-  no, only 5 more posts and i will be at 10,000
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| May 10 @ 12:19 AM |
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willowy1
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Shut up stoopid
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| May 10 @ 12:20 AM |
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wiccked
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you are sooooo mean to him
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| May 10 @ 12:23 AM |
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MrPaul
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He likes it like that No Willow not the whip 
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| May 10 @ 12:24 AM |
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willowy1
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