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How do you trust...I personally don't.
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Angel178
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I have been in the forums for a few years. So, there are many that I have known for a long time. But, there are new people on here all of the time. How are people supposed to meet anyone "real" if most of the people are repeats? 
I personally do not believe anything anyone tells me in e-mail. As far as I'm concerned, they could be, and more than likely are, people who have cancelled and come back from the dead.
If they tell you who they are, it's ok. But, what about the ones that don't? How is this site supposed to work if you can't believe people or trust what they say? You could be setting yourself up to be a big joke. I don't know about others on MD, but I myself would never date off of this site. I don't know who I'm talking to anymore. 
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| May 24 @ 4:25 PM |
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plowman
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| May 24 @ 4:26 PM |
How do you trust...I personally don't.
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Angel178
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You're not funny! 
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| May 24 @ 4:32 PM |
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BandTMom
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The truth is, Angel, you don't know who a lot of people are.
While not all new people are "repeats", it seems we have a freaking revolving door around here where some go out and circle back in with a new name. It's getting ridiculous.
The only thing I can say is if someone new pops up and they don't jump into the forums like they belong, then they are probably real. Posting style and knowing who's who around here is also a dead give away.
I wouldn't give up on MD, but if it's a new interest, I'd probably go to the phone right away. A number is pretty hard to disguise and if they don't want to give it to you.... 
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| May 24 @ 4:33 PM |
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plowman
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when people get to the phone call stage and have talked I think that is time to at least give 'em the benefit of doubt and try trust them a little bit...pom trusted me with her pictures and I didn't share them, and yes, the woman was attractive!
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| May 24 @ 4:37 PM |
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BandTMom
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See, that's the thing. Pics can be of anybody. You never know through a pic.
Since a few of my pics were taken by actual MD members I have witnesses that mine are real. 
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| May 24 @ 4:37 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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After my "I am a 350 pound basement dweller pretending to be an Asian chick" ordeal....
I swore off MD as a date-finder forever...I'm kinda glad I did though because I found Marko on Facebook. I took a risk with that though, a major risk, and it has paid off in a huge way.
No, you can't trust anybody at first, on the web or in real life. But sometimes some people are just worth taking the risk.
I'll admit that sometimes it's weird when certain people just "show up", though....
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| May 24 @ 4:44 PM |
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BandTMom
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But sometimes some people are just worth taking the risk.
I'll admit that sometimes it's weird when certain people just "show up", though....
It is wierd and is totally out of line IF you are trying to fool someone.
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| May 24 @ 4:46 PM |
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plowman
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poms pics looked real enough wills sent me a pic and it matched her profile and looked real enough, (that woman is totally photogenic!  ) but when she reads that I told you she will probably kill me for telling!  she thinks I shared her pic too and I really wouldn't give out anyones personal info they ever shared with me to other people and I respect ppl's privacy. I'm not a scammer or a prevert or a stalker...just horny, alone, and lonely!
the only way anyone will get her picture from me is thru my cold dead fingerboard!
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| May 24 @ 4:55 PM |
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BandTMom
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But we aren't talking about pics whether fake or real. I believe Angel is talking about people who cancel and then come back under a different name and think they are fooling us all.
Some have a valid reason but there are those who do it just to see who they can fool and who they can hurt. Other do it to get away with posting things that they never would under their regular screen name.
And some of us have really good BS detectors too. 
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| May 24 @ 4:56 PM |
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Angel178
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Well, I agree with some of this. But, mom is right. Pics can be fixed, stolen or whatever. I could post pics of my sister or Lynn and you all would not know it. Some of us have developed a trust over time. We have done that through posts and e-mails. But, mostly consistant posts.
If I was to come back as someone else and type with....all of the time....people wiould know. I started doing it from the beginning. I just can't trust new men. They could be anyone, if you know what I mean
So...I agree with LGQ. I will never use MD to date. I will stick to the forums and laughts. But it will never be a serious place for me. 
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| May 24 @ 4:59 PM |
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JenRNinOhio
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People Say Believe 1/2 of What You See and None of What You Hear (read)
It is a known fact that several *Regulars* cancel their profiles & then stop back in under a different name ... Then there's the *new* people who jump right into the forums so comfortably, knowing names & profile info of several of us ....
It has made me cynical & suspicious ... There's a few *regular* posters who have been around for at least a year and I STILL wonder if she is he or if he is one of many profiles ... Longevity does not insure sincerity.
Meeting in person should confirm that the person is who he says he is ... but that does not prevent him from having an additional profile here and using it to whatever means.
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| May 24 @ 5:02 PM |
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Angel178
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Some have a valid reason
Yes mom, they do!
They will also e-mail us or respond to our e-mails and say who/why they are who they are.
Some people just play games. 
Jenn 
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| May 24 @ 5:05 PM |
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plowman
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I wonder if angel has finally figured out who I really am? I really haven't been trying to hide it and many figured it out right away. I tried to stay away after I had to leave, but you guys are too much fun, so I finally figured out how to come back! I had always thought gmail was some foreign gov't email service cause a lot of scammers seem to use it too.
now I know that its google-mail!
HI angel! 
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| May 24 @ 5:11 PM |
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JenRNinOhio
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Laughing at me 'cause I was distracted by Baseball while typing that /\ /\ /\
and it just repeats a lot of what had been said.
"Valid Reasons" for coming in under a different name & letting most of us know who & why ... That's completely different from the dillweed who does it to undermine friendships, spread false stories, stir the pot & start trouble.
dang ... I'm getting riled up about this subject.
and again typing slowly
additional thought:
Except in the case where identity is stolen!!! Like what happens to me & Angel sometimes, mostly on weekend nights ... and these fiends who steal our IDs just randomly post the most perverse things ... And then Angel & I lose our reputations of being prim & proper & innocent. Yes. That's right.
[Edited on 5/24/2009 5:18 PM]
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| May 24 @ 5:14 PM |
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Angel178
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I do know know who you are?
And, you don't even answer e-mail.
If you are who I think you are...that's cool...
But, the question really is...that person who you were? Who was that?
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| May 24 @ 5:17 PM |
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plowman
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what other person? no I'm not radioman too
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| May 24 @ 5:19 PM |
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wiccked
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split personality
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| May 24 @ 5:23 PM |
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JenRNinOhio
Posts: 4,161
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Manipulative
Mean
Low Self Esteem
.... Play games in an attempt to make others look foolish so you look better?
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| May 24 @ 5:26 PM |
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Angel178
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Except in the case where identity is stolen!!! Like what happens to me & Angel sometimes, mostly on weekend nights ... and these fiends who steal our IDs just randomly post the most perverse things ... And then Angel & I lose our reputations of being prim & proper & innocent. Yes. That's right.
Jenn...thank you for explaining it so clearly. They need to know this.
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