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LipGlossQueen9
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Yes =D He is hopefully going to buy his ticket on Tuesday and get here sometime this coming week. It hasn't been so long since I saw him last, but he's staying for 3 weeks this time.
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| Jun 20 @ 1:34 PM |
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Loreli
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That's great!! 
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| Jun 20 @ 2:55 PM |
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plowman
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it didn't matter how long I ever stayed with mean marion from mpls, a week or 2 months, 2 nights before I left for home I could see the change overcoming her and the night before I left she would give me the silent treatment...she would ask why I wanted to go home and I would tell her "because home is home"...she started 'cusing me of having not just one, but "girlfriends" back at home (probably because I'm so exciting and irresistalbly handsome!), and it got to be too much...you just gots to have trust in a long distance relationship thingy! 
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| Jun 20 @ 2:59 PM |
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willowy1
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finding a trust worthy man...priceless! 
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| Jun 20 @ 3:01 PM |
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plowman
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just wanted to go home and see me kids...geez, give me a break! 
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| Jun 20 @ 3:03 PM |
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willowy1
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| Jun 20 @ 3:10 PM |
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plowman
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not you...I meant that towards mean marion from mpls...we had a mutual friend who used to put it into her head that I was out running around, and I tellz marion that julie was only saying that crud for one reason...she wanted to try break us up because she thought then she could swop in and snag this ol' geezer for herself, (which just wasn't going to happen)...and in time, everything I told her revealed itself to be the true motivation behind julie's backstabbing machinations!
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| Jun 20 @ 3:12 PM |
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willowy1
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| Jun 20 @ 9:06 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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Trust is definitely important...it's important not to violate that trust, too. If somebody takes advantage of the distance in an LDR it's kind of stupid. It's kind of like...well what are you going to do when we live together? You're kind of not going to be able to take advantage then.
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| Jun 22 @ 11:26 PM |
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lobo65
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I couldn't do the long distance thing again.
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| Jun 22 @ 11:32 PM |
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signme
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It does take a lot of work and is really hard on some people.
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| Jun 23 @ 6:22 PM |
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alaskenmike
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Ever heard the expression ? ... buying a cat in the bag.
It applies to dating on the internet and long distance relationship vere well.
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| Jun 23 @ 6:40 PM |
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signme
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Considering all the cats I've had over the years, I guess that saying refers to me! LOL 
Anyone want an 8 week old kitten with teething problems??? (jk--wouldn't get rid of her for any amount of money)
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| Jun 23 @ 7:39 PM |
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luvmycats
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Meeting someone on the internet is scary...Moving to be with them is even more terrifying...I'd have to say it is worth it in the end though if you have someone you love and want to be with forever.
...It works out great for some people, not so great for others. It's all about how you feel and how the other person feels. Plus it is a good way to get to know someone because you have to talk more than be physical with each other. How right you are Fender.  For Duvvy & I it was so worth it, even if there were times I'd cry about how much I missed him, he was always so encouraging about how soon we would see each other again, then how soon I would be able to move down here. (yes there was a little problem when I got here, but I was understanding enough to work through it) As for the talking and getting to know each other, ABSOLUTELY! When you date someone local, you sure don't talk to each other nearly as much as a long distance relationship, because you have other interruptions on dates. Not so, on the phone, you have to keep that conversation going. (just ask anyone that was at our shower how well we know each other) I only missed one question out of 20. 
I think most would agree that a long distance or internet relationship can work but it takes a lot of comittment from both sides. The best scenario is to try to meet asap and see if the chemistry is there in person. If so, then it's easier to handle the distance until both can be together.
There are many couples here at MD that made the long-distance thing work and now are together. So we know it's do-able! Yes Sign, you have been witness to that haven't you. 
I think it's rare that it works out for the long term. It's easy being interested in someone when you maybe get to spend a few days with them every few months, and the rest of the time you talk by phone, email, IM, etc.
But when the two move in together or get married/are living together & see each other constantly . . . the anticipation of being with the other lessens. Pretty soon, instead of looking forward to spending time with the other person, you look forward to having time by yourself.
So yeah, long distance relationships work, but make them into no distance relationships & I think they go south. Sorry, I have to disagree. For us it sure isn't that way. I look forward to him coming home from work everyday, and love it that he has 3 day week ends every week. I have been down here for nearly 11 months now, and still get excited when I know we are going to have time together.  I contribute a lot of that to the hours long phone calls nearly everyday/night. We knew we had so much in common that we would work so well together. Don't get me wrong, we have disagreements just like every couple. As for time alone? I have that while he is at work everyday, and when I go shopping. (we even do that together sometimes) I never have been the kind of person that has that need. 
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| Jun 23 @ 9:00 PM |
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lisa46
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Luvy I must admit you two are special! And yes you did manage to keep your wits about you before you moved to Florida and wow look at you now! Your just as happy as to bees in a bonnet  Watching you guys make me believe that someday my feller will find me.
ps luvy you have mail been there awhile
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| Jun 23 @ 9:28 PM |
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lucy8
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Love destroys distance, and if love is total, it destroys distance totally.
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| Jun 24 @ 7:56 AM |
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Angel178
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Or.....
distance destroys love 
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| Jun 24 @ 12:48 PM |
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luvmycats
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Luvy I must admit you two are special! And yes you did manage to keep your wits about you before you moved to Florida and wow look at you now! Your just as happy as to bees in a bonnet Watching you guys make me believe that someday my feller will find me. Special? Awe, thanks Lisa. It just takes hard work, dedication, and trust. When you know its the real thing, nothing will stop you. However, if you aren't willing to make sacrifices... then that says a lot about you as a future partner. JMHO
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| Jun 24 @ 1:05 PM |
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ou29
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I met a lady on the internet that was long distance and it lasted for 4 years, I even moved to minnesota, Then got laid off my job and with her on disability we just couldnt make it work. SO i came back, but it was wonderful while it lasted
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| Jun 24 @ 1:23 PM |
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signme
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At least you know it can work ...why didn't she come back with you? Just curious.
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