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ILLLOOK
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Would you date someone who had roommates of the opposite sex? The last 3 ladies I have dated seem to change when they found out I have 2 female roommates. The first 2 I told on the first date. they had honesty as one of the things they were looking for in a man. So I thought it to be a good idea to tell them so there would be no surprises. As soon as they found out they changed and after the date wouldn’t even talk to me. With this last lady I dated I waited to the 3 date things were great and we got along awesome but before coming over to my house I thought I would tell her didn’t want to open the door and then say oh by the way this is Tarry and Janis my roommates she then made up a reason not to go to my house and I have not heard from her I'm really sad because I liked her allot and was hoping for something a little longer than a couple of dates. What can I do Janis is like a sister to me and tarry is staying here to hide from an abusive boyfriend. Any advise on this would sure help
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| Jan 11, 2006 @ 9:08 PM |
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spongebob777
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I doubt I could seriously date a woman who lived with two men. I'm not terribly jealous but that would certainly be a stretch.
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| Jan 11, 2006 @ 9:14 PM |
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ILLLOOK
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Hey spongebob can I ask why you wouldn't ? and please not because you live in a pineapple under the sea not a good enough reason.
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| Jan 11, 2006 @ 9:22 PM |
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spongebob777
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Maybe it's my country upbringing but dating a woman living with two men would really stretch my tolerance or jealousy or whatever. I don't want to think about the thoughts I would be having if I really cared about her. I'm not saying it's wrong or anything just a bit hard to take.
It could be just me but I suspect that most women who answer your question would struggle with it. In any case, good luck.
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| Jan 11, 2006 @ 9:28 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Theres always gonna be a thread of doubt in any womans mind ILLLOOK..well I`ll take that back and say most women...not sure about all..me I`m stayin` neutral...because to be perfectly honest...I`m not sure how I`d feel if the fella I`m dating has women roommates...I might not like it or I might not...
I guess it depends on how much i trusted the guy... 
[Edited on 1/11/2006 9:29 PM]
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| Jan 11, 2006 @ 9:46 PM |
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ILLLOOK
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Wow I must be really wierd. I dated a girl from another site that 1 male roomate who I became good friends with. Well now I see why I'm having such problems. I guess I'm going to have to stick to one night stands at thier house LOL
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| Jan 11, 2006 @ 9:51 PM |
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Rinimer2003
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Guess I am the strange one here.. I would give it a chance and want to meet them. I have male friends that I could live with or even take a trip with - and it would stay totally platonic. If I felt comfortable that they were just friends - then it wouldn't be any stranger to me then if they lived with some family member.
Sara
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| Jan 11, 2006 @ 10:03 PM |
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ILLLOOK
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thanks sara new hope. I promised both that it would stay roomates one is like a sister eww and the other is hiding from an abusive boyfriend doesn't need that kind of sh@t in her life plus I can get a date beyond my house well I use to be able to. LOL 
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| Jan 11, 2006 @ 10:14 PM |
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sureyacan125
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One of the nicest ladies I ever dated had 2 male roommates. She said they were gay, but it didn't matter. What I do know is that she had breast cancer before I met her and those two guys were there for her. For that alone, I wasn't going to make an issue of it. Besides, I trusted her. That's the real issue, isn't it? 
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| Jan 11, 2006 @ 10:32 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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There used to be a time that I would have had a problem with it.....but maturity, self-confidence and learning to trust my instincts about my level of trust in the other person, has taught me that I would at least be open to meeting the "roomies" and taking a look at the situation.
Of course, I'm one of those few people that truly believe a male and female can be platonic friends! I wish you the best Illlook.......and don't make the mistake of thinking that your living situation is in the wrong---it sounds to me like the last three ladies you've gone out with may have some other issues that they saved you the trouble of having to experience later on!!!!
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| Jan 11, 2006 @ 10:39 PM |
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Aselune
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I guess it would depend on the situation..and if the roommates were around..lol I'd probably talk with them when you weren't around..just to make sure...lol
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| Jan 12, 2006 @ 8:11 AM |
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MischeviousAngel
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I wouldn't have a problem with it...
Then again I have 18 brothers and we have a total of 8 different last names between us so I may just be a tad strange.
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| Jan 12, 2006 @ 9:26 AM |
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chinabull2000
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I can't see why it should be a problem. I wouldn't date anyone I didn't trust (or trust as much as possible after knowing them for a short period), and if she was happy taking me home and introducing me to her 2 male room-mates I really wouldn't be fazed by it at all. Most of my close friends are women, and I wouldn't hesitate to introduce my "date" to any of them, and if my date had a problem with this, or if I had female room-mates, then she simply isn't the woman I am looking for.
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| Jan 12, 2006 @ 9:48 AM |
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Mischief484
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Let me get this straight. A single male lives with two women. And he's never gotten either one of them nekkid? EVAR?
This falls under the category of things that make her go "hmmmm...."
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| Jan 12, 2006 @ 9:53 AM |
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chinabull2000
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uh hellooooo everyone?? Believe it or not, men and women CAN be friends without shagging each other... I wonder why people find this so hard to believe.
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| Jan 12, 2006 @ 10:10 AM |
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MischeviousAngel
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I don't know China... most of my friends are male. I have a few female friends that I call "sis" but the vast majority of my friends are male. Some of them I have dated in the past and when we got to that goodnight kiss we decided it was like kissing a sibling so dating was out. Some of them I have never dated and never will. Some have just always been friends and we have no desire to be anything else.
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| Jan 12, 2006 @ 10:43 AM |
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kattsmeow
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uh hellooooo everyone?? Believe it or not, men and women CAN be friends without shagging each other... I wonder why people find this so hard to believe.
 
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| Jan 12, 2006 @ 10:52 AM |
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Angel54214
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I not opposed to it, I had a male room mate for about 5 years. It had to end due to trying to control my life. So I rather live alone. Dating and living with other gender can put a damper on a relationship. The choices made to have room mates, comes with limited privacy. It could lead to one night stands with the dating mode and most older people are wanting all the privacy they can get to establish a good foundation for a partnership.
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| Jan 12, 2006 @ 12:11 PM |
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swingpup
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Polyamorous relationships are alive and well. 
You're lucky, it doesn't sound as if this is your situation.
Would I "date" a woman that lived with a man or two? Sure, if she was intellectual, gainfully employed, fun, exciting, adventurous as well as attractive. Why not? I fail to see the down side.
I can relate as two women lived with me once-upon-a-time....long story...it lasted almost 7 years. Would I ever do it again?...NO!
Every mans dream? For a few weeks maybe. How difficult is it to cut off a "relationship" with one live-in....Imagine two. We most certainly learn for our mistakes.  
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| Jan 12, 2006 @ 12:20 PM |
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Mischief484
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Ok, first of all he's not just friends with the two women. He's living under the same roof with them. If nothing else, it is very unusual.
Secondly, most people want to meet and date what they consider normal people. That is, people living in what they consider the usual situations.
A man who lives platonically with two women is just not your average, run of the mill situation. A lot of women may be able to handle a situation where the guy is living platonically with one female. But two? And he's never porked either one? Come on, folks... It's odd. Who'd want to deal with that kind of uncertainty, on top of all the other uncertainties that dating has?
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