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neb121
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I love this site. it has been a lot of help. I find myself struggling with finding mr right. When I was 12 I started dating a guy for the first time. He was 13. We dated for 3 years and he started getting controling and abusive. I was with him for 2 more years and he abused me. totured me etc. I won't get into it but I been through a lot with guys but after that it has been so hard for me to find someone. I dated a few more guys but they all cheated so I gave up and now I been single for 3 years and I just want to find mr right. I decided to join dating sites and came to this one and I love it. All the people on here are really great. People tell me im attractive but im just being to picky. Well im picky because of what I been through. I don't want to go through what I went through again. I just want to meet someone,get married and start a family.Has anyone found mr right on here? Am i wasting my time looking on dating sites?
thanks for your help!
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| Jun 25 @ 5:34 PM |
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Loreli
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Ok, here goes...
you started dating at 12? Way too young...maybe you have some fleeting youth concerns?
But, definitely get counseling about the torture/abuse.
People often think they're over it...and they aren't.
Good luck....and welcome!
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| Jun 25 @ 5:46 PM |
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Fender
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Um...There are many great guys here...Some are right for some, others are right for none.
I hate to sound judgemental, but maybe you need some counselling for what you've been through before you start dating again.
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| Jun 25 @ 6:01 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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I m going to agree with Lor and Fendi here .. please seek some counseling...if for nothing else but for yourself...there are places everywhere that offer free counseling too...Sometimes you just need that little extra support ..even though you might think you don't. Matchdoctor is a great place to meet people and the support system here within the membership is amazing...just one more word of advice.. DO NOT RUSH.. please ... Im speaking from too many years of picking Mr Wrong.. sometimes we just have to wait for that Mr. Right...and thankfully from the support of good friends here ..a form of peer counseling... and not rushing I have found my Mr Right...no rushing... learning about each other and taking time to make sure... good luck and welcome 
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| Jun 27 @ 11:46 PM |
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neb121
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i have done counsling, iv done it all. i been single for 3 yrs and just want to find mr right.
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| Jun 27 @ 11:55 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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Well then, good luck.
3 years?
the worst you can do is rush it over a want.
I been looking for 12 years, and I just found my Miss Right. I wish up a speedier find.
And this is gonna sound horrible, but you still have time.
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| Jun 28 @ 10:15 AM |
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Fender
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Well I hope it works out for you...3 yrs isn't that long and your still young...You need to find someone who will be good for you
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| Jun 28 @ 3:36 PM |
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jdctx
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At 41 I am still searching I have spent an honest all out leave no stone unturned effort since 26.. I mean I have given it my all.
I thought I found my Miss Right and in thinking back at first I dont think I could have changed how I felt but in the end I was soooooooo wrong WOW what a hard thing to go through.
I gave up so much of what could have been me I put up with so much because above everything I wanted the family.. For that chance I would have give everything I could.
But where and I now. 41 never married and not kids and based on past experience and facts of life less likely that it will ever happen.
Yes it is sad and in knowing what I know now and where my life is probable to become. I would have put more focus on me.
So much goes through my thoughts my past and hearing people say oh one day it will happen to knowing that non other of those ever offered anything more.
I wont say that it would never happen to me or to anyone else for that matter but really how common is it for anyone to have found the ONE. So far very few even on this board have.
I no longer make the effort because I cant think of anything else I can do I have done it all if something new comes to mind I will try it.
DON"T give up on finding the "ONE" but DON:T let it define your life or change you into to something you dont like.
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| Jun 28 @ 4:47 PM |
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artcat7
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I find myself struggling with finding mr right.
What's the struggle? There's no way to force it to happen. When both you and he are ready, it will happen as naturally as taking a breath. No struggle there. In the meantime, just enjoy yourself. Find something that fulfills you, follow your interests, engage your passions and by all means, listen to what JD said:
DON'T give up on finding the "ONE" but DON'T let it define your life or change you into to something you don't like.
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| Jun 29 @ 12:57 AM |
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neb121
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i got guys that want me but not for a relationship if you know what i mean. it just seems all the guys are jerks around me thats why i joined here. but no luck yet. but thanks for all your advice!
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| Jun 29 @ 9:50 PM |
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uab_5
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He be there in HIS time, not yours.
Don't force the issue.
Who knows? He maybe sitting in the pew next to you waiting for you to feed him "triple dog dare you" haberno salsa like my fiancee was! 
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| Jun 30 @ 7:35 PM |
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soilikethisdoctor
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your only 22 babe!
the 20's are so great - really - so enjoy them and find mr right in a few years
xx
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| Jul 3 @ 1:36 PM |
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neb121
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yeah i know but i'd atleast like to date around and i haven't even been doing that. i see all my friends and stuff happy with there man and i get all depressed.
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| Jul 3 @ 9:59 PM |
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uab_5
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neb,
get your house in order first before committing to another prerson.
It sounds like you need someone in your lfe to make you happy.
Happiness comes from within.
Once I found happiness, my fiancee came to me.
If you're miserable and et into a relationship, all that's gonna happy is that you're gonna make the both of your miserable which is no good. 
All in God's time. In the mean time, be patient and clean your side of the street.
God bless.
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| Jul 4 @ 1:19 AM |
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DiamondRain
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No... you're not wasting your time...
Hell, I've been looking for someone online for about 13 years so it must be great right? 
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| Jul 4 @ 1:29 AM |
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signme
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Now DR you know we have plans in a few years! It will be wonderful, me in the wheelchair and you on the walker! What more could you want?? 
Neb--you have time, sweetie. Don't try to rush it. It will happen when it happens.
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