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Merchitown
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Congratulations! 
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| Jun 27 @ 5:23 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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Thanks, I'm sooooo looking forward to some consummations,
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| Jun 27 @ 5:27 PM |
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artcat7
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Congrats Burns!
Oh and DOH! What a Homer Simpson moment.............I guess I didn't have enough coffee this morning when I first responded to the OP. Either that or I didn't read it right. I guess I was just looking at the "marry up" term as a colloquial one! 
I don't "get" marrying up...... people should marry because they're in love and want to share their lives, not because of money. I guess I look down on anyone, male or female, who does this.
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| Jun 27 @ 6:57 PM |
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SpiritOrnery
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Hm, I don't really like the idea of marriage myself. I prefer living together. SO much easier to get rid of failures. On the job training? The ones don't make the cut, we just split.
Cool, Burns. 
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| Jun 27 @ 7:01 PM |
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katydid438
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Congratulations Burns  
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| Jun 27 @ 11:34 PM |
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newlife2006
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SensualGemini
...For many thousands of years, it was a normality for the man to be the provider, so it does make some sense.
That , indeed, ...and , besides, this is the only way to make sure the guy is not after her fortune . Since men are traditionally supposed to propose marriage , for a guy to "marry up" sure would sound like : " take my last name and put on your bank account" ...  I.e. the one who is making the offer has to have something to offer, otherwise he's not "making and offer" , but rather "applying for a position" instead. In the other words, he would be giving up all respect and admiration which breadwinner/leader is entitled to.
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| Jul 3 @ 4:12 PM |
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dooney123
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Congratulations, Burns!!!
On topic- if you have nothing better to think about than who makes more money, I feel sorry for you. When I met my husband, I made more than him. Now he makes more than I do. Neither of us cares either way; we love each other for who we are, not how much money the other makes. Both of us married up, because we're both happier now than we were before we married.
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| Jul 3 @ 4:14 PM |
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SpiritOrnery
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| Jul 3 @ 4:19 PM |
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dooney123
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| Jul 3 @ 4:45 PM |
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SpiritOrnery
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| Jul 3 @ 4:59 PM |
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willowy1
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dooney
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| Jul 3 @ 10:03 PM |
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Gallows_Humor
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 ....Looking up at her here..... 
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| Jul 3 @ 10:05 PM |
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uab_5
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Bravo Zulu Burns!
BACHELOR PARTY for the both of us? 
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| Jul 4 @ 3:22 AM |
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lobo65
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It's true to some extent. I once had a woman stop returning my phone calls because she didn't think my house was expensive enough, or that I made enough money to suit her needs. I'm not a poor man either. Well, except in love. 
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| Jul 4 @ 4:23 AM |
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chubs
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I grew up a spoil't little rich kid, some thought I would be quite the catch, I sure fooled one poor gal though!
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| Jul 4 @ 5:30 AM |
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SensualGemini
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NewLife: That , indeed, ...and , besides, this is the only way to make sure the guy is not after her fortune . Since men are traditionally supposed to propose marriage , for a guy to "marry up" sure would sound like : " take my last name and put on your bank account" ... I.e. the one who is making the offer has to have something to offer, otherwise he's not "making and offer" , but rather "applying for a position" instead. In the other words, he would be giving up all respect and admiration which breadwinner/leader is entitled to.
...I have to agree, as traditionally and I am to presume you are European, for her to marry sideways or up, is the way it was and is in most of the world for at least first time marriages. Seldom if ever, does anyone hear of the poor man marrying the rich princess.
...The US has less than 5% of the total world population and by comparison of our divorce rate, our crime rate and incarcerations, we are not doing something right. As well, most of the US does not concern itself with respect and admiration, as society has been attempting to emasculate men from traditional rolls for the past 50 years and the results are showing.
...That said and done, since my asking to marry last time did noy evolve into the forever plus one day, I am thinking maybe she should ask me next time and see if that works. I am still traditional, but simply covering all bases here.
PS: Congratulations Burns!
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| Jul 4 @ 8:31 AM |
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eyesofastranger
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I like this thread and congrats Burns.
I suppose before I got married I had money. I have money cuz I had a PHD (papa had doe) And yes there have been enough shallowites over the years.
When I met the one the subject of money never came up. She blindly believed all Canadians where well off and could fly around the world any time they liked and from hollywood she knew we where all very attractive people. So I was a nice guy but not one of the 99% beautiful people with perfect shapes that live here.
This didn't matter to her. It was important who I was. She did find it strange that I lived in a villa and drove a car but maybe ordinary for a Canadian.
Then she moved here with me. We get a big laugh about it all now. And now I'm in the 1% somewhat attractive people that live here. Married up too 
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| Jul 4 @ 9:10 AM |
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SpiritOrnery
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Well, it is highly unlikely I will marry at all. My career is so extreme it makes it almost impossible for me to find a man that can deal with my career and accept it much less support it wholeheartedly.
If I married, my husband would HAVE to honor and respect what I do for a living. I am still waiting to find a man that can actually believe in it and me AND love me that I am attracted to. I can find either or but not all. Until then, I know NO relationship I have will make it. If he can't be with the flow there, he will be a block to my flow.
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| Jul 4 @ 8:08 PM |
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DwainP50
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Not in the cards! But then no reason to give up!
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