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DiamondRain
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1. One politician recently got in trouble for cheating on his wife with a prostitute. Another got in trouble for having an affair with another woman.
Which is worse from a woman's point of view? If I guy cheats on you with a prostitute, or if he has an "affair" with another woman?
(my ex gf would answer that it doesn't matter, either way she would cut my three piece set off!) Other answers?
2. We consider someone to be on the moral high ground when they want to cheat, but somehow fight it off.
Why is resisting the urge to cheat considered such a good and moral thing?
Why don't we consider the act of wanting to cheat just as bad as actually cheating?
And if it is so common that people want to cheat, does that mean that there is some good human basis for it? Why would that urge be so common if it is a bad thing?
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| Jun 29 @ 6:16 PM |
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BandTMom
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1. Cheating is cheating no matter who the partner is.
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Why is resisting the urge to cheat considered such a good and moral thing?
Because in cheating you are hurting your partner and children that may be involved. We face many temptations everyday and I think we all can admit that the thought crosses or minds that it easier to give in than cheat. Those who truly care about others will take the more difficult path simply because they DO care.
Why don't we consider the act of wanting to cheat just as bad as actually cheating?
See above.  We are human. Thoughts will always cross our minds. It's the act (or lack of) that makes us who we are.
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| Jun 29 @ 7:47 PM |
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Angel178
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It's the act (or lack of) that makes us who we are.
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| Jun 29 @ 8:13 PM |
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jdctx
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I never understood the idea of cheating or it's desire. I know my way of thinking is abnormal to the majority but I can not recall ever considering or been tempted to cheat on any woman that I loved.
It just never made sense. Since even as teenager when I had crushes my focus was on her. not her and her friend.
I am atracted to a lot of women but when it move to a serious relationship my focus goes to her. Heck I dont even like dating more one at time but and have never been intimate with more then one even at that level
Again that just me.
I dont think its far for me to judge others.. I do think that if you are in a relationship and do cheat or have had the desire but did not because of fear of being caught you should do the right thing and break the relationship.
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| Jun 29 @ 8:51 PM |
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DiamondRain
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OK, as a guy... if a good looking girl gets up in your grill and starts getting all kissy kissy, and then starts getting more than kissy kissy... you're telling me that you wouldn't even be tempted?
Don't let me down buddy! Don't let mankind down! Please tell us!
Hell, I think about cheatin' every time I see Angel's picture up there!
And I'm not even in a relationship for cryin' out loud!
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| Jun 29 @ 9:02 PM |
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Angel178
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 jd...don't cave!
Cheating is awful. It hurts everyone involved, even the person doing the cheating.
I believe that if you love someone...then life becomes all about making them happy and wanting to be a better person for them....which in turn should make you happy. There is no need to take a second glance if it is real between you and your SO.... 
DR...you added to your post 
And, thank you  I think.
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| Jun 29 @ 9:04 PM |
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Laidback742
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Why don't we consider the act of wanting to cheat just as bad as actually cheating?
Like George Carlin once said ( paraphrasing ), if you think about doing something sinful, you don't have to do it because you just did.
You could reason that the prostitute is not an emotional thing, just physical, while the affair is probably both .... but it's cheating either way ....
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| Jun 29 @ 9:06 PM |
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Merchitown
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OK, as a guy... if a good looking girl gets up in your grill and starts getting all kissy kissy, and then starts getting more than kissy kissy... you're telling me that you wouldn't even be tempted?
You best be smacking the shit out of her before I do and continue to do worse to you. Just saying.
There should be no "starting."
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| Jun 29 @ 9:11 PM |
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DiamondRain
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OK, what about this...
Adrianne Palicki, Picture Here walks up to you and starts giving you a lap dance.
You will be sitting there thinking about nothing but the sanctity of your relationship while you push her away and tell her to get lost?!
Oh the HUMANITY!
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| Jun 29 @ 9:15 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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LOL
honestly, I wont put myself in the position where she got the chance to in the first place.
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| Jun 29 @ 9:17 PM |
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Merchitown
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Did you pay her for a lap-dance, at a club with your SO's knowledge? Go to.
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| Jun 29 @ 9:25 PM |
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DiamondRain
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:D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D
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| Jun 29 @ 10:21 PM |
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Merchitown
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Nice DR!
Before I get strung up by my non-existent female balls, let me just clarify. A lap-dance at a club has very strict rules...no playing allowed...period. And honestly, I'd probably bug my other half to let me go along, just because I've never been. I swear it's not because I'm sitting there with the hack-saw in case something touches. 
However, if she initiates something more...than yeah, the FIRST thought better be of me. And if you guys were honestly, usually the first thought IS of us. Of course that thought is, "Oh SHIT she is SO gonna kill me dead!" The second thought is what really clinches it. It's usually one of three.
"Hell, the other half just does it better, more practice and all."
"Shit, how do I get away with this with my balls intact."
"Oh yeah, baby, that thing is just TIGHT!"
Come on guys, don't let me down! You know it's true!
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| Jun 29 @ 10:59 PM |
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DiamondRain
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Yeah, ahhhhh, ummmmm, yeah .... right ... that's what we think. 
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| Jun 29 @ 11:00 PM |
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Merchitown
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| Jun 30 @ 9:15 AM |
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Nightowl001
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Never been a problem for me. On the other hand, it's easy to be a holy man on top of a mountain.
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| Jun 30 @ 2:32 PM |
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artcat7
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Nah.....their first thought is probably, "Damn, I'm horny!"
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| Jun 30 @ 2:33 PM |
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Merchitown
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I'm not even sure it has that many words.
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| Jun 30 @ 2:35 PM |
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kjac
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It's easy to be faithful when you're single.
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| Jun 30 @ 6:17 PM |
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Fender
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Cheating is cheating...Being one who has been cheated on let me tell you all something...It scar's you...For then you doubt someone else who might honestly worship the ground you walk on...
...although I have yet to find that.
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