| Jan 12, 2006 @ 11:30 PM |
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LuckyFrog
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I don't want to sound like a snot or anything but...
It's a turn off when you just start talking to someone, and he tries to sound all romantic... I'm sorry, but when I haven't even met someone yet, I really don't want to talk about candlelights and violins with him. Seriously, that's what one guy said: "Tell me where we can meet...By candlelight...With violins..." Yuck. I don't want to meet a guy who's just trying to kiss my butt. Be yourself. Be real. Don't be mushy. It just sounds creepy. How do you know you want to be "romantic" with someone if you've never met her? If you just wanna get laid, just say THAT. Don't say things just because you think that's what she wants to hear.
Thank you.
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| Jan 12, 2006 @ 11:50 PM |
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exiled131
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i think she meant to say to be respectful but mostly honest. or maybe she wants guys to say they want in her pants. who knows?
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| Jan 13, 2006 @ 1:45 AM |
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ash_is_unforgetable
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If guys were completely honest from the beginning they'd be single forever! 
*AsH
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| Jan 13, 2006 @ 3:16 AM |
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walkingman
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It is just the people you have met . It take's time to get to know a person. I like a nice quiet dinner so we can talk. I am not one for candlelight dinner's. I like to see the person that I am talking to. It should be easy to spot the guy's who are not real. I guess some guy's have their own way of talking to ladie's. I like to talk about anything. We are not all to impress a lady or want one thing. I have never been dis honest with a lady. You are right Ash I may be single the rest of my life.
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| Jan 13, 2006 @ 7:17 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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I`d take it as a compliment Lucky and not complain..at least you know he has a romantic side..and why shoot a fella down when maybe thats just the way he is..if it were me I`d give him a chance..ya never know until you take a chance on someone..after all hes not asking you to marry him..and he did ask you where you wanted to meet him..if you don`t like his suggestion then make one of your own. 
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| Jan 13, 2006 @ 7:55 AM |
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Graystar
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THIS is why men have no idea what women want.
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| Jan 13, 2006 @ 8:03 AM |
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waiting41
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@Graystar cause I know he's right.
You poor guys really have a tough time figuring out what to do to please women these days I can imagine.
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| Jan 13, 2006 @ 8:52 AM |
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Mischief484
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You poor guys really have a tough time figuring out what to do to please women these days I can imagine.
A little perceptiveness goes a long way. Nowhere in LuckyFrog's profile does she state an affinity for candlelight, violins and mushiness.
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| Jan 13, 2006 @ 8:59 AM |
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Graystar
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nor a dislike of those things. "Perceptiveness" goes both ways.
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| Jan 13, 2006 @ 10:21 AM |
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definitelydi
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I totally agree with Lucky Frog. It's like a kind of "forced intimacy." If you want to get laid, it is best to just say so. If you want to "romance" me, candle light and violins aren't going to do it...no more than flowers and candy! These are totally cliche and totally uninspired! Try getting to know me instead. Be spontaneous. Be observant. You may just get lucky in the end! 
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| Jan 13, 2006 @ 11:48 AM |
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kattsmeow
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Ah, a romantic man. I still have all the poems that were e-mailed to me by a certain some one.....
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| Jan 13, 2006 @ 11:57 AM |
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Lee_Danger
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Hi Lucky,
I know what you mean. I think alot of men tend to say things they think a woman wants to hear only... they seem to be clueless as to what that really is... lol.
Yes... please guys... just be yourself.
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| Jan 13, 2006 @ 1:18 PM |
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johnw_6
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It's interesting that between you ladies there isn't a clear consensus here.
I thought I could give up my mind reading days and have the simple life but here we are again.
It still amuses me that some women complain about this or that in reference to the men that contact them yet they take no responsibility for not being specific enough in stating what they do/ don't want in their profiles.
Look, "deal breakers" should be in your profile otherwise your wasting our time and yours.
Tiz Tiz, no romance ------> your not on my list then, a world without passion is depressing!
If you just wanna get laid, just say THAT.
ye, that works? I've been doing it all wrong 
[Edited on 1/13/2006 1:19 PM]
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| Jan 13, 2006 @ 1:26 PM |
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Mischief484
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ye, that works? I've been doing it all wrong
These have gotten some interesting results:
"I have an 8-inch tongue and breathe through my ears."
"I'm hung, rich, charming and intelligent. Pick two and let's get it on!"
In person, if I sneeze and a smokin' hot woman says "gesundheit," I say:
"My doctor was supposed to give me Allegra for these allergies. But the blind bastard gave me Viagra instead. Now every time I sneeze, this happens!"
If she looks down, she's mine.
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| Jan 13, 2006 @ 1:30 PM |
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johnw_6
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| Jan 13, 2006 @ 2:25 PM |
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littleross
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Mischief is right on track... that's what we're looking for.
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| Jan 13, 2006 @ 3:10 PM |
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mangolover60
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Okay!
I just want to get laid!
There, I said it.  But I'm going to do it with a hot oil body rub, candlelight, incense, and violins in the background.
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| Jan 13, 2006 @ 5:39 PM |
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exiled131
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If guys were completely honest from the beginning they'd be single forever!
so that is why i am single. honesty does work!
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| Jan 13, 2006 @ 5:50 PM |
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LuckyFrog
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Tink... I didn't WANT to meet him. He said this when we'd shared about four sentences. The good thing about online dating is you get to know someone by talking with them before you actually have to meet them. Don't you think he was rushing things just a bit? I don't know. It's the same with a lot of the guys I talk to. The ones I find more interesting are the ones who tell me about their jobs and their hobbies, etc, before they jump right into heavy duty romance.
And yes, saying up front that you're just looking to get laid DOES work with some women... I'm not one of them.
I hope I didn't offend any guys out there. Just saying what makes me frustrated. I know it's hard to figure women out... but men are not easy to figure out either!
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| Jan 13, 2006 @ 5:56 PM |
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spongebob777
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I didn't WANT to meet him. He said this when we'd shared about four sentences.
Women do similar things. Granted in my case it wasn't 4 sentences but don't talk about being incredibly attracted if you intend to retreat if I say it back.
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