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Your ex threatens to come online and reveal all of your dirty or private secrets
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Always_Striving
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He or she is mad and/ or jealous of you and hasn't got over you. Your ex wants to embarrass you or wants to make sure that you are off the market permanently on the dating website you joined. They might even reveal your real name online.
Has this ever happen to you?
Are you terrified of such a scenario? (Especially if you think that you've finally got Mr. or Ms. Right?)
Maybe they might destroy your reputation somehow by contacting everyone on your friends list, or in a personally dedicated blog?
Would you sue them? Find someone to give them a long overdue @$$ kicking?
Would you and your partner just laugh it off and forget about the creep?
What would you do if your ex threanten to reveal your most private-personal secrets about your past?
The things that he or she may or may not have promised never to reveal about you.
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| Jul 1 @ 4:12 AM |
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SensualGemini
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...Hell hath no fury like that of a scorned woman... or one that just thinks she has been scorned.
...Yes and they don't have to even be an "ex" to experience their self serving vindication, which contrary to their intentions, simply reinforces my prior decision to discontinue any format of communication with someone that has no purpose but to cause another as much pain as possible, while lacking class or dignity.
...Does anyone really believe that self serving meanness, jealousy and desperation are attractive to anyone?
...We have all tried, do try and if it does not work out after each knows a little, or a lot about the other, which then defined a deal breaker, then wish them the best and move on and find someone that is for them.
...Personally, I don't do anything but ignore the perpetrator, as feeding their BS is exactly what they want; any communication seems to be better than none at all. Eventually, they seem to find another victim, or another emotional substitution and feel very fortunate that you did not make the mistake of entering into a long term relationship with that type of character flaw.
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| Jul 1 @ 10:46 AM |
Your ex threatens to come online and reveal all of your dirty or private secrets
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Loreli
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I had one that followed me around being a smart azz about and to me.
Report/block.
Tell dirty secrets? Are we in junior high? 
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| Jul 1 @ 11:05 AM |
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Carol386
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I think thats younger than jr high Loreli - 2nd grade maybe
I don't have any secrets and if he decided he wanted to start rumors - he is the one with little secrets but I would never air them in public - I would just send my information to the proper authorities and let them handle it 
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| Jul 1 @ 4:37 PM |
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chubs
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its a good thing mean marion from mpls doesn't know Im online here, she would do that in a heartbeat...she STILL calls me up and reads me the riot act like our breaking up was all my fault...what really broke us up was her jealousy 
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| Jul 1 @ 4:49 PM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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there is nothing embarrassing or threatening from your past unless you have not yet grown or matured from then. it's the past. learn from it and move forward instead of harping on it. it something still affects you it is because you have yet to move on from that instance, therefore it's seen as ammo, fuel, an issue. learn from it so you can move on to more productive things. worrying about what someone else does only let's them know that they have control over you. gain it back by moving forward....
that will be $2,000 bucks please 
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| Jul 1 @ 5:39 PM |
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coalingagirl94
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Everyone already knows my dirty secrets so oh well if he does.
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| Jul 1 @ 5:39 PM |
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chubs
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if it weren't for her stoopid jealousy, I wouldn't be here on MD and instead would be happily shacked up in Mpls being ruin't every night by her again! 
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| Jul 1 @ 5:41 PM |
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Loreli
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So shut the jealousy out and go back...
least she cares...and you'd get some 
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| Jul 1 @ 5:46 PM |
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chubs
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I tried, her jealousy has no limits, I couldn't even talk to innocent bystanders, espically if they was a blonde wimmenz because my x-whiff was blonde and mean marion would say I still have a "thing" for my x...which was so untrue! 
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| Jul 1 @ 6:38 PM |
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suzzieq356
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He already did...He showed the pics that bastid! 
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| Jul 1 @ 6:42 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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I have had that happen already not a big deal Im not too awfully private about my life anyways...what was funny is that they ( yes more than a few .. silly men ) actually thought that they had something to blackmail me with
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| Jul 1 @ 6:48 PM |
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kjac
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For me it would be an irrelevant exercise in futility. I don't have any shame, and therefore don't have any secrets.
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| Jul 1 @ 7:19 PM |
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signme
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Reporting on here would not do much good. There is a guy on here who lied and stalked another member. Several of us reported him and he's still here. I don't think the Mods care anymore.
As for me, no dirty secrets here so nothing to worry about. What you see is what you get.
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| Jul 1 @ 10:32 PM |
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Always_Striving
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So based on what I have read so far I am wondering if people are really being honest with themselves. I guess that there should be absolutely no reason whatsoever that you (the reader) should have any fear about your ex talking about the reasons why he or she left you.
Of course, It would be solely be their version of the story... Not yours, and if there is nothing to be worried about then you'd be ok with it, or would you?
This isn't about Jr. High school behavior, this is about the secrets adults have and they never ever want those secrets to surface. I believe that many have deep secrets they fear but they aren't willing to admit it.
I would think if you did have a problem then you are just trying to convince someone in particular that you may in fact have something to hide, that you might be trying to bury the worst of your past life somehow believing that you were a different person back then at that time of your life, but that isn't the person you really are today.
My point is, do you feel that you need to bury and dispose of your past or are those memories skeletons looming in your closet?
If your dream prince or princess (or potential mate) found out about you, might that ruin your reationship/ life? Does it really matter?
If it is nothing to worry about.... then cool  , but what if it is?  
[Edited on 7/2/2009 12:02 AM]
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| Jul 1 @ 11:00 PM |
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redhairNfreckles
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Hope he does....maybe I'll get a date then.
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| Jul 1 @ 11:05 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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I guess that there should be absolutely no reason whatsoever that you (the reader) should have any fear about your ex talking about the reasons why he or she left you.
None here really... too many people were witness to the whys of me leaving or them leaving ....no real questions yanno?? and I have found my Prince and we have talked about damn near everything.. and both of us realize that is the past.. and our relationship is the now and future.. besides if he ever has any questions he can just ask me what he wants to know about yeah?? Ill tell him
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| Jul 1 @ 11:15 PM |
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MotownManiax
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If the scenario is having a bitter ex follow you around dating sites making your life miserable there's not much you can do except expose them for what they are and go about your life. The worse thing you can do is indulge in playing their game, a game that's stacked against you. He/she is probably much more vicious, unfeeling, immature, unscrupulous and better at it than you'll "ever" be, so why be a willing partner? Sooner or later the ex will be revealed so everyone can see without much sweat and toil from you.
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