| Jul 14 @ 10:23 PM |
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Soprano24
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Question for the women, why do you insist we (us men) have a picture posted before you will consider talking to us? Because you think I may be a fat, ugly slob?? Should you not get to know the person inside before you judge outside?
I guess I just don't understand....What if I was just looking for a friend? Would I still need to look like Brad Pitt for you to talk to me? I've talked to women who did not have pics posted and as long as you don't direct me to another site, I'm cool with it..:)...My opinion is, the pictures will come eventually...I always believe you should get to know the person and if the first conversation is a good one, and it leads to a second, then a third etc., then pics should be exchanged.
I'm not fat and I don't consider myself ugly...To be honest, I don't have a good reason why I don't have my picture posted, I just don't...I just think it's kind of funny with some of the profiles I read that have the early rejection warning if my pic is not posted.... Maybe, I'm too laid back...:)....
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| Jul 14 @ 10:28 PM |
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willowy1
Posts: 9,181
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you are right we should not judge by looks.
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| Jul 14 @ 11:24 PM |
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signme
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I've talked to guys without pics--then found out they lied to me. Of course some guys' pics weren't them either. So who knows?? 
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| Jul 15 @ 12:56 AM |
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DiamondRain
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I think the more interesting question is why so many people make believe that physical attraction isn't important to them. It's as if it makes you seem more virtuous and enlightened if you tell everyone how unimportant it is to you.
But why? Honesty seems more virtuous and enlightened to me than this compulsory false pronouncement of thinking on a higher plane.
The fact is that almost everyone cares about looks, myself included. That is a normal, healthy fact of life. That's why, if I were in the market to meet a woman online, I would want to see a picture of her first, because I care about her appearance. It is one important element, not the only important element, that helps me decide if I am attracted to her or not. And I am sure most women feel the same way.
Why so many protest so loudly against having any interest in it is the real question if you ask me.
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| Jul 15 @ 10:08 AM |
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agustinge
Posts: 84
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Do you go on the street with a apper bag on your head? do you hide from people? if anybody in the steet and on your every day life can see you... why it should be any different online? why the need to hide?
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| Jul 15 @ 10:17 AM |
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Loreli
Posts: 25,398
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I agree mostly with DR.
There are frauds and fakes all over the net.
At least if there were a pic, and you chose to meet up, there would be one mystery out of the way.
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| Jul 15 @ 11:09 AM |
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AngelLight
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If you have a picture, seriously, why do you insist on not posting it? When "you" write a woman who has pics but you don't, you know you are attracted to her ~ she does not know the same about you.
Seriously, would you want to be with a woman who was not physically or sexually attracted to you in the least? Our sexuality is a huge part of who we are as human beings, and who we are attracted to in this realm is different from person to person. This may of course be different from, or overlap, ALL of the characteristics that make a guy attractive or sexy to a woman as a whole.
MUTUAL physical/sexual attraction is important to most people. I see your profile says you are interested in more than just the possibility of friendship. I do not believe for a moment that you would write a woman you were "interested in" if you had no sexual attraction to her whatsoever. In fact, I believe the reason you would decide to look at her profile to begin with is because you saw her pics FIRST. When I have no posted pics, I receive no e-mail or views. When I post pics, low and behold, my inbox lights up!
Obviously physical or sexual attraction is what may initially attract, but it won't stick (mean anything) if the person has nothing else to offer. Yes, INSIDE beauty is absolutely critical and essential, and if a person does not have that, forget it! But to deny that mutual attraction has any essential relevance is a lie.
Are you going to be with a woman you have absolutely no attraction to? I highly doubt it! You would not be "judging" her as a person per se. You would only be expressing true honesty, to her and to yourself, if the attraction were not there on your part.
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| Jul 15 @ 11:24 AM |
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burnslikethesun
Posts: 13,027
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I like AL pictures. As well as her thought.
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| Jul 15 @ 2:07 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
Posts: 10,951
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He said "what if I'm just looking for friends" though...
I dunno, I don't care what any of you look like cos I'm not looking for a partner. So if you don't want to post pics, I don't really care. OP, if you're not looking for a partner and you're just looking for friends then I don't see why posting a picture is important 
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| Jul 15 @ 2:21 PM |
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signme
Posts: 12,578
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The only reason I'm attracted to Burns and DR is because of their pics. It has absolutely nothing to do with their sharp wit, sense of humor, debating skills, varied interests or anything else! 
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| Jul 15 @ 2:54 PM |
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ColdinWisconsin
Posts: 9,987
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1. We would like to be sure your not just another duplicate profile.
2. When a picture is not posted, it leads one to believe there is a reason you don't want people to see your face on a dating site.
3. There is no truth in advertising. People need to see the product in order to be assured that it is all the manufacturer claims.
4. No. None of us want a buck toothed, crossed eyed wonder trying to slip us the tongue. No matter how well written they are.
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| Jul 15 @ 3:56 PM |
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beckyiv42000
Posts: 14,576
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  ^^^
and why WOULDNT you want to post one?/ that is the question .. some deep dark secret?? trying to hide your face cause OMG someone will recognize you? No reason NOT to .. yeah?? 
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| Jul 15 @ 3:59 PM |
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newlife2006
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Isn't it obvious? If the ladies you contacted didn't have their pictures posted in their profiles there wouldn't be any reason for you to ask your question. But since you obviously contacted the ones with pictures, it would be against common courtesy to hide your face. Therefore, their requirement that you post your picture the way they post theirs is quite proper and predictable.
The real question is - why didn't you stick to contacting picture-less profiles? It's ovbious you'd have at least something in common - i.e. BOTH of you would start getting to know EACH OTHER's personality first. By choosing UNFAIR approach ( expecting your contact to ignore your appearance while you base your choice on her appearance ) you , naturally, ruin your chances to succeed. 
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| Jul 15 @ 4:01 PM |
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Loreli
Posts: 25,398
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Ahhh, but LGQ.....
you have a guy NOW.
Most people not looking anymore, won't care about the pic....except it's nice to put a face to a name....
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| Jul 15 @ 4:11 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Different strokes, and I'm an oddball anyway.
I don't care if you're looking for friends or a partner and never did - I like pics but don't need them. I've dated 'faceless' guys and never yet fainted due to their ugliness. The ones I've gotten to know weren't married, we just didn't match up well as lovers but these became friends (or I wouldn't have been so sure they weren't married). Others were just ships that passed in the night, so no big deal to me anyway.
Of course I don't do LDR's, which could be another thing, but I'm guessing that photos are available once you've gotten to that stage anyway. Some people just don't like being public, others could be embarrassed for their co-workers to see them on a matchmaking site - my feeling on that's always been that the only way they know I'm there is if they are too so no harm, no foul.
My thing with the 'attractiveness' issue is that I can't tell a thing from a picture. Chemistry is just that - and you don't know if it's there until you meet in person. It's about so much more than a picture can ever tell you.
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| Jul 15 @ 5:05 PM |
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willowy1
Posts: 9,181
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excellent post Newlife~!
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| Jul 15 @ 7:19 PM |
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indecipherable
Posts: 546
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You sound insecure. If you are indeed just looking for a friend and not a serious relationship, you wouldn't care what people thought of your looks.
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| Jul 15 @ 8:21 PM |
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burnslikethesun
Posts: 13,027
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Im so hot, I dont need a pic.
My lady can feel my heat.
But you aint me.
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| Jul 15 @ 8:48 PM |
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Fender
Posts: 8,489
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I'm not even looking for a friend, and I have a pic up on here...snicker snicker...
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| Jul 15 @ 9:45 PM |
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gabrielle
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I'll drink to that Fender! 
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