| Jan 14, 2006 @ 1:37 AM |
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AngelLight
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When you deeply care for someone or love them, what would you do to show the person you care for them or love them?
I think it can be easy to say we care for or love someone, but to me loving or caring for someone is a verb more then anything else.
For me it might mean doing something for the other when it is not particularly convenient. It means trying to listen even when I am tired. It means going out of my way to help someone complete a task even if I'm not in the mood. Things like that.
What kind of things do you or would you do to show you care for or love someone?
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| Jan 14, 2006 @ 1:56 AM |
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wandaful123
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All the above and get to know them as in individual, to know when comfort, acceptance, or space is needed to be given. Show confidence in them and our relationship by not taking things personally...
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| Jan 14, 2006 @ 6:54 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Touch! Touch can be so many things and bring so many emotions. It can bring comfort and a feeling of safety, it can arouse and excite, and it leaves a lingering feeling on everyone's skin..They may not remember every word you said,or everything you`ve done.. but they'll remember how they felt when you touched them. 
(probably not what you meant..lol..but its all I could think of at the moment..I`ll be back) 
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| Jan 14, 2006 @ 7:16 AM |
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sciurusniger
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There isn't much that I wouldn't do for someone I love. Love as a noun is certainly sweet, but as you note, AngelLight, Love as a verb is that sweetness made tangible. Within my means and within legal and moral limits, certainly, the true needs of those I love will be met to the best of my ability, whether that means a midnight run to the 24-hour drugstore or walking through the flames to hell and back. To "do" for Love is to harness the physical, intellectual, and emotional as necessary in any given moment; it is knowing when to act and knowing when to simply be still and be there. And it is not only what I do for them, but what I do about them - meaning what I show and tell the world, e.g. loyalty and respect.
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| Jan 14, 2006 @ 7:59 AM |
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spongebob777
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Some pretty weighty threads this morning. 
Ive done some pretty spectacular and stupid things for love. Heading out on a 30 mile hike in a northern Michigan blazzard because the highways were closed tops my stupid spectacular scale. A national guard truck picked me up about 10 miles short of my goal.
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| Jan 14, 2006 @ 10:53 AM |
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AngelLight
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..."it is knowing when to act and knowing when to simply be still and be there...."
How true, how true. So often when our loved one is having a hard time it can be difficult to not "rush in" to try to "fix" the problem or to take away (as opposed to alleviate) the suffering we witness our loved one experiencing.
Knowing when to be silent and simply be present is doing in a "nondoing" sense of the word if you will.
I learned the amazing power of presence and not trying to fix, but letting things be just as they are when I was a medical social worker providing care and tx to the dying and their families.
The experience is the other person's experience and is not for us, in my opinion, to try to take that away from them because it is theirs. The simple act of silence and presence can alleviate suffering in another and help them to bring about the solution to the problem that they are facing.
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| Jan 14, 2006 @ 10:59 AM |
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Snappygoddess
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Caring for him when he is sick
Bringing him breakfeast in bed
Watching the football game with him
Allowing him to be "himself"...
Those are the little things that make love flourish more.....
And yes, he does the same for me..
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| Jan 14, 2006 @ 11:08 AM |
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mangolover60
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I agree with Tink, touch is really so important. But, it is an interesting thread. Let me turn it around.
Do you think what you DO for love should be what they EXPECT for love?
My first ever girlfriend (okay, I was 21), wasn't happy with me, unless what I DID for her was related to something I SACRIFICED. For example, I played hockey EVERY Friday night, and I have an obligation to show up because I'm the goal tender. She wants see a movie, but even though she's free on Saturday, it has to be on Friday, knowing full well my commitment to the team/night.
This kind of thing was so rampant with her in all aspects. I kinda chalked it up to a strict Roman Catholic upbringing, where it seems, sacrifice/suffering is the only true way to show devotion.
I finally nailed her to a cross and left her in the backyard.
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| Jan 14, 2006 @ 11:11 AM |
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waiting41
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I believe love is about giving. Keep it simple 
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| Jan 14, 2006 @ 11:13 AM |
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AngelLight
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Mango
Love does not expect or demand anything of another
[Edited on 1/14/2006 11:14 AM]
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| Jan 14, 2006 @ 11:15 AM |
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sciurusniger
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Mango, Harvel Hendrix speaks of the "Platinum Rule": "Do unto others as they would have done unto them."
By definition, this means trying to show your love for them in ways that they can understand. Your first-ever-girlfriend was a rather extreme example and I certainly don't blame you for ending the relationship. But for another to feel loved, it is necessary that they receive the message on an emotional level, not just intellectually (e.g. "he's a great provider but is never there for our children's birthdays, etc.") Doing things to show you care isn't always about big sacrifices, hex, it is just as often simply being one's Self and therefore natural behaviors "speak" all the time and consistently - when it comes from both people I believe this is what is called "flow".
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| Jan 14, 2006 @ 11:24 AM |
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waiting41
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That's what my momma was trying to tell me about when she said "flow"  I told her I already knew all that stuff. 
j/k 
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| Jan 14, 2006 @ 1:15 PM |
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AngelLight
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Go with the flow yo 
I like that. 
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| Jan 14, 2006 @ 1:16 PM |
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mangolover60
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I believe love is about giving. Keep it simple
That's great Waiting, as long as [B]both[B] people are into that.
Unrequited.
For example, I could give you my love, my heart, my soul, and still you won't get in the friggin truck.
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| Jan 14, 2006 @ 1:23 PM |
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mangolover60
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sciurusniger,
Okay, back to being serious, Thanks for your insight. I am in total agreement with you. We obviously have to talk their language.
And that is of course, why sometimes our ships have entirely pass each other in the night.
[Edited on 1/14/2006 1:23 PM]
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| Jan 14, 2006 @ 1:52 PM |
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Angel54214
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why sometimes our ships have entirely pass each other in the night
But without the light house (light) guiding, we can collide and drown...
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| Jan 14, 2006 @ 6:02 PM |
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Roanin
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I believe that, in order to show another that you love them..all you need to do is to "accept" them, for who and what they are. To be there for them, whether to offer advice, or just a shoulder to lean on. I also believe that we should treat our mate as a KING/QUEEN. Wait on them hand and foot, give them bubble baths, whenever you get up for something, ask your mate if they need anything, I've found that a lot of men like it when you stroke/play with their hair. Backrubs are nice too, so is lightly scratching their back, absentmindedly, while you are both watching t.v. Anything to let your partner know that you love and cherish them, I also find that writing peotry to a guy works very well in some cases (not all but some..LOL) There's a million different ways to show a person how you feel. All it takes is the desire to do it and imagination/or books. 
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| Jan 14, 2006 @ 7:26 PM |
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AngelLight
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Well said Roanin, well said.....
"all it takes is the desire to do it and imagination..."
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| Jan 14, 2006 @ 7:36 PM |
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Roanin
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right back at ya Angel
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| Jan 14, 2006 @ 9:40 PM |
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Lee_Danger
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If I was truly in love with someone...
I'd take care of them, back them up, encourage them, go to them with all of my problems and worries and thoughts and dreams, I would do my best to keep a smile on their face and warm feelings in their heart. I would be their life partner, and we would face everything together.
** sigh **
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