| Sep 12 @ 5:31 PM |
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Sexymamainfl
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I've been seeing a guy for almost 3 months now. We don't get a whole lot of time together because of conflicting work schedules, but make time for one another as much as possible. We've basically been "dating", and haven't slept together. Neither one of us are wanting to move too fast, because the feelings are mutual...and we're really happy...but how do we move to the next level without it seeming TOO forward? I'm crazy about this guy, and kinda scared to out all my feelings about him , but I'm afraid that if I do, it'll scare him away. What do you guys think?
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| Sep 12 @ 5:35 PM |
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Loreli
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I think it sounds pretty good!
The next step will happen when it's right for both of you.
Good luck
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| Sep 12 @ 6:41 PM |
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notsoplain
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He maybe shy, keep going slow but keep going forward! Wait until the time is right .
Good luck.
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| Sep 12 @ 7:05 PM |
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Sexymamainfl
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He is shy...and I'm afraid of making a fool out of myself by just spilling my heart out to him. So what to do?? I keep putting the brakes on, thinking maybe it's what he wants, but it's hard to tell. He's not one to talk about his feelings and such, and I'm not either unless I've had a few drinks. Do I just suck it up and tell him how I feel? 
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| Sep 12 @ 8:16 PM |
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Merchitown
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It really sounds like you really want to. After 3 months, I think that would only be natural. Take the plunge.  Oh and maybe it's just me, but I don't think that would be forward at all. Just tell him.
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| Sep 12 @ 8:22 PM |
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Loreli
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I agree with Mer.
It may drive him away....but he may just be very glad you said something.
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| Sep 12 @ 10:08 PM |
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safaristars
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On a day you're talking about something that has gone well ~ suggest you celebrate with a romantic dinner at your house. Let him know you deserve candles and your favorite food and maybe a massage. Give him the idea that things may get romantic so mentally he can be ready if he's ready. Then, hopefully, the evening will go just as you hope. Good luck!
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| Sep 13 @ 8:14 AM |
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Sexymamainfl
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Ok, so I took some ideas into consideration...he's coming over to my house for steak and shrimp tonight. Not sure how romantic it'll get because it's a school night, and the kids will be around, but at least we'll have the opportunity to talk for a change. So, wish me luck...I'm hoping for the best!
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| Sep 13 @ 8:17 AM |
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uab_5
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Bon chance!
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| Sep 13 @ 12:00 PM |
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Always_Striving
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We've basically been "dating", and haven't slept together..........but how do we move to the next level without it seeming TOO forward?
Sexymamainfl, I just read your profile and it says that you have 3 children.
Obviously you did something in the past that made a man (or men) horny enough to have sex and impregnate you at least 3 times.
Why don't you do the same thing again....it seems to work for you?
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| Sep 13 @ 1:31 PM |
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Sexymamainfl
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It's not the sex I'm worried about, I don't want just sex. I want to be closer to him.
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| Sep 13 @ 1:47 PM |
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spacecowboy1966
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Sex is the next step....Men don't get closer to a woman until there is some kinda sexual interaction....Besides, eventually sex is gonna happen, might as well be now...
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| Sep 13 @ 2:31 PM |
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Sexymamainfl
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Let me just back up a step...it's not that I'm AVOIDING sex or anything like that...I just don't want it to be ALL about sex. Does that make sense?
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| Sep 13 @ 4:13 PM |
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Merchitown
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Of course it does, Sexy.
I'm rather surprised that the next step to a few folks is sex...and yes, Space, men do. Maybe YOU don't. I do believe that sexymama is attempting to develop a long-lasting relationship. I know it may burn some guys' keister to have to undo those hard knots that are binding the wrapping on the emotional love muscle, but men do it. At least the ones that have some priorities in order do. Granted, that would not be the majority.
Sexy, when you talk to your guy tonight, it might be helpful for you to tell him what you think the next step is. At least have it clear in your mind what you hope to achieve when you speak with him. Good luck, I'm sure things will go just fine.
Oh, and it's ok to be nervous, just also be sure to relax!!
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| Sep 13 @ 4:21 PM |
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Always_Striving
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Let me just back up a step...it's not that I'm AVOIDING sex or anything like that...I just don't want it to be ALL about sex. Does that make sense?
No, It looks like confusing double talk or coded female talk..... men's brains aren't wired like a woman's brain so what is this coded talk?
Sex is the next step....Men don't get closer to a woman until there is some kinda sexual interaction....Besides, eventually sex is gonna happen, might as well be now...
spacecowboy is right.
What the heck does "closer" mean to you? Men generally aren't emotional types unless they are gay or French.
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| Sep 13 @ 5:40 PM |
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Merchitown
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The next step is supposed to be dating exclusively. Lord when did things get so jacked?
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| Sep 13 @ 5:43 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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You keep telling me, how much you want me.
And I need you so bad, I could die.
How long, will you, keep me waitin, yeah.
Oh I cant it be tonight. ..............
Oh why not tonight.
I die.
Oh why not to I die.
Dont push me away, when you know Im right.
You know, you want me, so why not tonight?
Your soft lips reveal, all your feeling yeah.
I feel them tremble, when they're pressed under mine.
Why try to deny your feeling.
When ya know its just a matter of time.........
Oh why not to I die.
Dont push me away, when you know Im right.
You know, you want me, so why not tonight?
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| Sep 13 @ 5:45 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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What the heck does "closer" mean to you? Men generally aren't emotional types unless they are gay or French. 
Always ... where do I start?? arghhhhh
1)Yes MEN are emotional....BOYS aren't
2) LOVE, hate happiness are ALL emotions just like anger extreme like etc etc
3) Wanting to form a lasting relationship is not double talk..  one that is MORE than JUST SEX is what a REAL relationship is about... remember when your member aint no longer working ... what ya gonna do with your mate then??? um lemme think  oh yeah ... IF you have a close and lasting relationship the lack of performance on your part (or hers Im trying to be fair here) will not be a breaking point for the LOVING LASTING RELATIONSHIP  capisce? 
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| Sep 13 @ 5:55 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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Oh and my advice DONT RUSH ANYTHING!!!!!!!!! and surely dont push him into something hes not ready for ... resentment or fear does not a lasting relationship make
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| Sep 13 @ 6:22 PM |
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Gallows_Humor
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great advice Becky....
unless the guy is french or gay....
something does not add up here.....
how many actual "alone time" type dates have you been on?
kids in the house is a definite......platonic date.......(imho...)
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