| Sep 28 @ 12:12 PM |
i am in a difficult situation over a crush and need advice
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emjaytilinfinity
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I'm currently a freshman in college. i had a crush on this girl from my highschool i barely barely knew in high school indirectly. shes currently a junior and still obviously apart of the whole highschool thing. for basically my whole senior year i sort of loosely had a crush on her and thought about making a move. i only really had one opportunity throughout the year which was a 2 second pass in the hall which i couldn't even count on to see her. still i let that pass and now feel sort of lost as what to do. i've spoken with her maybe 10 words a long time ago but i am positive it wasn't anything she would remember and i'm essentially starting from scratch. i played basketball with her brother twice i think over the summer but i don't think he'd remember me either other then maybe just recognizing my face from somehwere.
now i'm sort of in a difficult position trying to even get the opportunity to speak with her. i know a bunch of people really casually who know her but i really don't know anybody she knows who i'd be comfortable confiding in. i've considered just going back to my highschool and visiting my teachers and going in the gym before school where i always played ball. i went to a large high school and i'm basically just hoping i would catch her and catch her in a situation where i could talk to her. i thought about going to a football game and maybe hoping she showed up. a problem being i honestly dont know that many people around the school anymore and would feel like a loser going alone and trying to talk to her in that situation. and itd be hard to find her and not act like i was there looking. she plays field hockey. that could be an opporunity to meet her but a big problem with that is they always play on weekdays and unless i can find a special time that works out i wouldn't be able to be home then. also would i even have a chance to get to talk to her in that type of situation since shes playing or practicing i wonder. she has a facebook. i don't really know about that though. i get the vibe girls get sweettalked constantly by jerks on facebook and a lot of them just ignore guys they dont know. plus it seems like it could be interpreted as creepy and her profile is set to private which doesn't even leave me with anything to talk about. i feel like i'm just throwing it up to a very low chance on facebook although i could be wrong.
and what do i say? you caught my eye last year and i wanted to talk to you. you looked like an angel walking down the halls my names blah blah blah? i dont know. just act like i saw her on the spot for the first time? i would say something like that if i just randomly saw her tomorrow not something i planned because i couldn't let the opportunity pass. there's no magic lines but is there anything better i could say with the very little i have to work with?
also i'd like to add i've had girfriends i'm not like desperate or weird typically (am i being that way now?). i can't really explain why i have a crush on this girl so much. i'm not like obsessing or anything too extreme. i have this situation in perspective and i recognize she's just a girl and we could not get along or whatever even if i did succeed in asking her out. still shes just on my mind still and not fading at all. i think back to her all the time and always seem distracted when i'm with other girls. i've had a dream or two about her. i really feel like i need to give the best shot i can at getting to know her. i feel like i could move on one way or another but i need to give it the best attempt i can figure out first. and maybe i can hope somehow it could work and be something i'm glad i went through with.
i would really appreciate any incite (i'm bent on trying to do my thing first not forgetting her so keep that in mind). i feel so lost and confused about what to do. thanks guys....
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| Sep 28 @ 4:36 PM |
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Loreli
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Look-
in all kindness...I'm not reading all of that.
I got enough from your opening.
If you like someone, and it's legal-ask them out.
Or not.
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| Sep 28 @ 6:02 PM |
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redhairNfreckles
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My advice is to take all the English classes you can fit in.... 
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| Sep 28 @ 7:11 PM |
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BandTMom
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I'm with Red.
There's nothing wrong with going to a HS football game and if you see her, striking up a conversation, but I wouldn't count on anything happening. Like you said, it was a big school and if she didn't notice you last year, it may or may not happen this year.
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| Sep 28 @ 11:20 PM |
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Say_Yes
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You are in college. It is time to act like an adult, so be an adult and just ask her. (While you are at it, you might try writing like an adult too. After all, you are in college.)
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| Sep 29 @ 9:33 AM |
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oct_cat
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Hmmm, a 21 yr old college freshman & a 16/17? yr old high school junior???  If truly 21, I'd have to say stick with 18 yr olds & older . . . & keep it legal.
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| Sep 29 @ 7:45 PM |
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Say_Yes
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^^^^^
I had assumed that since he was a freshman that he was 18-19. If you are 21 and she is 16-17, stay the hell away from her. You could face all sorts of potential legal problems, which could end up with you being labeled as a "Sex Offender", for the rest of your life. Wait for her to come of age. If you are still interested in her, then ask her out. Till then, move on.
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| Oct 1 @ 8:34 AM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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Don't be a creeper. Date college girls. College guys who dip into the high school crowd are seriously weird and creepy.
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| Oct 1 @ 8:39 AM |
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burnslikethesun
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Leave the child alone. you are in two different worlds now.
Let go of the one you left so you can explore the one youre newly in.
Dont be a creeper,
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| Oct 1 @ 9:21 AM |
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oct_cat
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"creeper" . . . is that the new term used nowadays?? Geez, in my day it was "weirdo". 
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| Oct 1 @ 9:22 AM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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yes...relatively new term, only about a year old i think
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| Oct 1 @ 9:25 AM |
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burnslikethesun
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I like QueenLippies, version better. It's politer.
I would have said, don't be a child stalking molesting freak ya dirt rat bag bastard.
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| Oct 1 @ 9:28 AM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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Yeah.....it's creepy, alright.....  When guys in college are dating high schoolers it just makes me wonder what's so wrong with them that they can't find college girls, lol
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| Oct 1 @ 9:30 AM |
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oct_cat
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jeepers creepers!! lol
future pedophiles??
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| Oct 1 @ 9:31 AM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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I don't wanna go that far, but.....just makes me wonder.....
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| Oct 1 @ 9:47 AM |
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burnslikethesun
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Back in high school, I couldn't date the girls, all my girlfriends were in college, so I can't say for sure, even my Anne is older then me.. I think its fear of growing up, they have a connection to the past life of the easy world, or haven't honestly fully matured. But yet, either way, ripping off the band aid is for the best here.
That high school child, girl, whoever, may only be a few years behind, but she is in a different world. Allow them their own chance to grow, without forcing the field to be plowed before their season has come.
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| Oct 4 @ 11:58 PM |
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Always_Striving
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 oh sorry about that. I fell asleep somewhere after the 80th chapter of that book by the OP.
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| Oct 5 @ 12:21 AM |
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chubs
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oh wow, I haven't heard the word "creeper" referring to this situation in a long time...about 12 yrs ago, when I was a handsome young man of 40, I meet a gal who was still in high school who tried to "creep" into my world, and bed ...she was the sweetest little thang ya'll ever saw and I'm here to confess that poor ol' chubs was mightly tempted by this one  ...she even came over with some other refugees and stayed at my house when grand forks got flooded out...but I kept my decency and left her alone ...we used to call her "crepper" 
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| Oct 6 @ 3:12 PM |
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DiamondRain
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My advice if you are still around...
Forget about Facebook.
Women love a confident guy. If you are interested in this girl, the best thing to do is to walk up to her and say hello. Just think of something casual to say, it doesn't have to be anything really earth moving, just something simple like "I remember you from HS. How is the college experience going for you so far?," or "Aren't you Amy Smith? I remember you from West Undershoe Junction HS. How are things?"
A question is a good approach.
If she is interested, she will let you know by responding and engaging in further conversation. If she's not, she will let you know by trying to cut things short.
Just for going up to her and starting a conversation, you will already score extra credit. That isn't an easy thing to do, and she will see it as confidence.
Play it by ear after that, if she is busy, don't keep her too long. But before the end of the conversation, ask her if she'd like to talk again sometime and if yes, ask her how to get in touch with her.
Keep it casual, you are interested, but not obsessed.
Think about how you would feel if the roles were reversed and she came up to you to strike up a conversation. You'd be flattered and impressed right? She will be too. It gives you a good start.
But it sometimes doesn't work out no matter what you do. No problem, it just means she isn't the right one. If that happens, forget about it and move on.
One last tip if I may offer it.... be sure to take some writing courses there in your college.
Good luck!
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| Oct 6 @ 9:26 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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Women love a confident guy.
Key word = women. This girl could be 16 or 17....that's not a woman....
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