| Oct 9 @ 1:28 PM |
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oct_cat
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Since the ". . . Still Single" thread brought some of the single people out with their ideas & opinions of why they are single, I had the idea of doing the same for married people. Or maybe you once were married (that counts too), at the time were you the reason you were still married?
So we'll see what happens with this. Thanks to your_princess for the original "still single" thread & to strata for the 'thumbs up' on this idea.
Let's hear your thoughts . . .!
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| Oct 9 @ 2:56 PM |
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Angel178
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I was the reason that I stayed married. I stayed to try and make it better, somehow thinking I could fix it. I stayed, trying, until he and an action he made caused it to end.
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| Oct 9 @ 5:53 PM |
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your_princess
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I certainly think that contributing to my marriage 100% has something to do with staying married, as does sleeping with only my husband!
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| Oct 9 @ 7:18 PM |
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lazareth
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it's a joint effort on both of our parts....
4 and a half years and it's been better than I ever imagined
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| Oct 9 @ 9:23 PM |
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signme
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Never been married so I can't add to this thread. 
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| Oct 9 @ 9:50 PM |
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oct_cat
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Aw sign . . . you already added to it.  Never say never! 
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| Oct 9 @ 11:10 PM |
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signme
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| Oct 9 @ 11:41 PM |
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your_princess
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it is something that both have to continuously work at, when it becomes effortless...it is already done in my opinion. people continue to change through out life, and will EVEN change through out a relationship...and it is always going to be a work in progress. marriage or any serious relationship is not for those of the selfish nature. its a give and take and there will be times where it seems like you are giving far more than what you take and vice versa. You just hope the person you are with will continue to but forth the same effort you do...you never can be too sure, unfortunately.
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| Oct 10 @ 8:12 AM |
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oct_cat
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You just hope the person you are with will continue to but forth the same effort you do...you never can be too sure, unfortunately. I was just reading an article, geared towards women, of 10 tips for keeping the relationship going; however it can go for both men & women. Two points that stood out most to me:
1) Don't get too comfortable in the relationship & neglect your appearance: keep taking care of yourself, dress nice for him/her, use perfume/cologne, etc.
2) Keep the relationship fresh: do special "little" things throughout the relationship; little notes tucked where he/she will find them, candle-lit dinner at home for no special reason (he/she should be the special reason, what more do you need than that??), etc.
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| Oct 10 @ 8:16 AM |
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gunn12fan
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I have to agree with sign. I've never been married either so I dunno.  what to add or say
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| Oct 10 @ 3:59 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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I am not married yet, but damn I am, the reason I am happily here.
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| Oct 10 @ 5:30 PM |
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Nightowl001
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For a lot of years, I was still married because I actually believed in "for better or worse" and "until death do you part." I just figured I got "worse." Unfortunately, my ex seemed to feel pretty much the same way. No matter what reasonable request I made, I was stuck with her decision about it. 
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| Oct 11 @ 12:00 PM |
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Bluebonnet72
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I got married because I was single.....
now I'm married and...I would like to be single again ....   
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| Oct 11 @ 12:41 PM |
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blueyes101
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Me too....  ..........
Always great to see you........ 
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| Oct 11 @ 12:57 PM |
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Bluebonnet72
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| Oct 11 @ 1:55 PM |
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daisy315
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my neighbor and I were talking about this the other night.. I bent over backwards to keep my marriage going.. but if the spouse refuses to COMMUNICATE and discuss problems in a rational manner.. the marriage is doomed..
I witnessed my neighbor and her husband get into a heated dispute.. but I was amazed at how they LISTENED to each other when they had something to say to each other.. I told her later on that I had never seen a married couple behave in such a mature manner when there was a serious issue at hand.. I was impressed.. and I told her so.. I learned something that night..
BTW.. by the end of their discussion, they agreed to disagree and were still madly in love with each other..
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| Oct 19 @ 8:19 PM |
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Always_Striving
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< Never been married, and wonder why people choose to do it then later get divorvced. Someone is holding back the information.
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| Oct 20 @ 8:54 PM |
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notsoplain
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The smart thing to do is to lift your hind leg!
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