| Jan 16, 2006 @ 10:47 AM |
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Angel54214
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This is for both genders on how to be safe when dating. What are some of your experiences that could have been a better judgment call? What are some of your tips for being date safe? Here is some of mine:
First Meets:
Bring a friend or relative along
Call a friend or relative when you are meeting
Carry a cell-phone (digital as well)
Carry pepper spray
Don't leave food or drink for anyone to tamper with when having to leave the table
Don't allow being picked up at home or work
Don't give out home or work address
Don't dress to entise (first impression?)
Don't get in other vehicle
Be sure not being followed after the initial meet
Be your best judgement on common sense because your you!
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| Jan 16, 2006 @ 10:55 AM |
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Pete73052
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Other than not giving out personal information - I don't agree with any of those. How would you feel if a guy showed up on a date with his mom? 
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| Jan 16, 2006 @ 11:15 AM |
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Kat_luvr
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Hmmmm... I always carry protection... A small can of hairspray and a bic lighter makes a great flame thrower.....I also Carry a dagger....( hey I grew up in NYC ok?)...Otherwise, I think having a cell phone.. First date, definetly having my own vehicle.. and not dressing too provactively...I think telling my family what my plans are is smart too, but If I am having an encounter i would not tell them.
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| Jan 16, 2006 @ 11:15 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Don't get in other vehicle 
shoot I gotta walk?
I kyna disagree with some of those Angel..lol..
Don't give out home or work address
I haven`t had any problems with my dates so far..I meet at my sons..one time in a public place..(a park)..
I wouldn`t dream of taking anyone along  lol..he wants to date you not your relatives...lol
I`m not making fun of your list Angel 
...as for dressing to impress..I let them know right off that I`m wearing jeans..why should I put on a dress if thats not the real me..
Don't leave food or drink for anyone to tamper with when having to leave the table ..
This one I am rather cautious about since my daughter was given the date rape drug in her pop...
Other then that I just use my own best judgement..
Good Topic though 
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| Jan 16, 2006 @ 11:58 AM |
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AngelLight
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If it's an initial date or meeting, I always have a cell phone, let a friend know who I am going out with (first and last name), where I'm going, and the time I might be home. I would not ever get in the car of a stranger. That's an obvious safety measure for any woman, or man for that matter.
I also meet in a public place, and I certainly don't give my home address or social security number out 
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| Jan 16, 2006 @ 12:31 PM |
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7eternity
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Whew..
I'm glad I'm still alive lol. 
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| Jan 16, 2006 @ 1:06 PM |
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AngelLight
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Do you really take no precautions when going on a first date if you've never met the person before?
Does taking some level of precaution really mean that one is dead? Would you get in the car of someone you never met?
I'm seriously, not sarcastically, asking.
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| Jan 16, 2006 @ 1:07 PM |
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Aselune
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for initial meeting I agree to have a safe person..someone who knows when you're going and give them a contact name and number for the fella you're meeting..but I'm not bringing someone with...it's nerve wracking enough..to not be nervous on a first meet..lol let alone to bring the grand inquasition with you..
After the initial meeting though...go with your gut..
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| Jan 16, 2006 @ 1:16 PM |
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AngelLight
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I agree. After the initial meeting listening to intuition is right where it's at.
And for me, I could never bring someone with me on a date.
It would be like bringing someone with me to a job interview.
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| Jan 16, 2006 @ 1:18 PM |
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Aselune
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lol had a first meet today...  I think it went very well
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| Jan 16, 2006 @ 1:20 PM |
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AngelLight
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Sounds great
typo
[Edited on 1/16/2006 1:20 PM]
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| Jan 16, 2006 @ 1:52 PM |
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torees121
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Other than not giving out personal information - I don't agree with any of those.
Me neither. I guess I am not that paranoid, and to think that I have lived for 35 years.
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| Jan 16, 2006 @ 2:02 PM |
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AngelLight
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Paranoid? or Cautious?
It is true that everyone has to determine for themselves what being safe means if one has never met someone before.
And, I'm sure this meaning would change depending on how much you have conversed with the person, if at all, either in writing or over the phone, prior to meeting.
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| Jan 16, 2006 @ 2:12 PM |
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ruready4me2luvu
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In my years on the internet dating scene I have only had TWO pick me up at my house and this was only after MANY conversations and I had already had all the pertinent information on them personally.
I've always met in a public place, local restaurant of choice to meet and was in my own vehicle.
God know's I'd never take anyone else along on a first date, hard enugh to get the guy to concentrate on just you Im so glad I don't have to do this anymore You gals can have fun for me too
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| Jan 16, 2006 @ 2:12 PM |
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torees121
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If I am going to do all the things on the list regardless of the circumstances (phone conversations, emails, etc) I would call it paranoid. I do think that I am cautious, yet I don't do anything on the list except carry a cell phone, which I do 24/7 anyway. Bad things can happen any where and at any time, not just on a date. I have been dating for 6 years and safe so far.
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| Jan 16, 2006 @ 2:20 PM |
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AngelLight
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Very glad to hear that.
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| Jan 16, 2006 @ 2:22 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Bad things can happen any where and at any time, not just on a date. I have been dating for 6 years and safe so far.
Always a first time
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| Jan 16, 2006 @ 2:26 PM |
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Pete73052
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The idea is to know who you are dating pretty well before meeting them. That's what email and phones are for. I don't go out with everybody who winks me. It takes a bit of effort on both our parts before it's time for a date. If you haven't had the pre-requisite conversations, how much fun could a date possibly be. After you know a little about the person, it's a lot more fun to get to know them better.
Having said this, there are a couple of dates I've been on where I wished I'd had some pepper spray.
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| Jan 16, 2006 @ 2:30 PM |
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MotownManiax
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 A woman should ALWAYS take precautions when meeting a guy for the first time, but that doesn’t mean she should obsess about security. You do that and the date/meeting will feel like a hermetically-sealed lab experiment, not something relaxing and spontaneous…lol.
Just use some simple rules: always meet in public, tell others where you’re going, who you're meeting, and approximately how long it will last, and never give out personal info.
Other than that, enjoy. 
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| Jan 16, 2006 @ 2:34 PM |
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torees121
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Just use some simple rules: always meet in public, tell others where you’re going, who you're meeting, and approximately how long it will last, and never give out personal info.
That is being cautious, which is how I like it
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