| Jan 17, 2006 @ 4:34 PM |
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spongebob777
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Here's something new to toss around.
Have you ever had problems with outside interference in a relationship?
I recently came to the realization that I may have once questioned my own motives in a relationship not because my motives were questionable, but because others were questioning me about my motives. Kind of a post hypnotic suggestion sort of thing that made a real mess.
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| Jan 17, 2006 @ 4:45 PM |
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ruready4me2luvu
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Spongey that outside interference is what got me into a marrage I didnt want the first time. His religious family said it dont look right yall living together. I think I'm gonna get married again......by the summer  
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| Jan 17, 2006 @ 4:55 PM |
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spongebob777
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Usually it's interference from the families. That's one reason I push my family away from my relationships.
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| Jan 17, 2006 @ 5:00 PM |
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ruready4me2luvu
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AND it was his family, otherwise I'd never gotten married him then or any other time. If they'd just left us alone we'd figured it out on our own and went our seperate ways instead of having to go thru a marriage and a divorce  Next time I'm just gonna take a ride, get married and then tell 
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| Jan 17, 2006 @ 5:10 PM |
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spongebob777
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I once saw a judge rule that he wouldn't immediately grant a divorce to a young couple. I don't know how legal it was but the judge issued restraining orders against both families to stay away from the couple for the 60 untill they came back to court. He was a good judge even though he later ruled against me on something and screwed me up. However when he ruled against me he said it was "crappy" deal and no fault of my own.
Interestingly enough I ended up becoming friends with that judge after he retired and moved into some property he owned near where I lived.
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 3:22 PM |
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kattsmeow
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Bumping this back up. Very interesting post.
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 3:29 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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his mother. god damn it. i have never met someone who was so crazy....besides myself, but that's different. no seeing each other outside of school, no talking on the phone, nothing. i don't even know why she hates me so much....she won't say.
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 5:16 PM |
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Loreli
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LGQueen-
is it someone still in your life, or you want him there? If he's old enough to get away from his mom, then HE can stop the interference. You're still young, you have lots to look forward to...don't let just one get ya down! 
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 5:26 PM |
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Jankia
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Yea,I had interference,but it was the kind that I didnt listen to but should have. 
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 5:27 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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he's still in my life, we're on a hiatus right now, and chances are when we're ready to start our relationship over she won't be ready for it to start over. he's a mama's boy so there's no chance of him ever standing up to her, so basically, i have to wait until she decides i am no longer worthy of her hatred.
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 5:36 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Yea,I had interference,but it was the kind that I didnt listen to but should have.
Me to but live and learn.. 
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 6:06 PM |
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Magickman
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Family interference is one reason that in the last 25 years, I have only introduced one woman to my family. It is likely that she will be the last.
My younger brother introduced his then fiance, to the family. After they subsequently married and divorced, he was bitter, because we "let him marry her." Go figure.
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 6:43 PM |
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sjpinatl
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I told my brother once and only once that his wife was not stable enough to have a baby with. Well, maybe I should have interfered more. He is in a bitter divorce, needs to prove her insanity, and the poor baby will have a crazy angry mother his whole life.
But if I had interfered more, would it have helped? Probably not.
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 6:44 PM |
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sissycat411
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LGQ, does he have intentions of going on to school after graduation? It may not be you ....but his parents realizing he needs to put his education first.....Try not to take it personal....What grades are the two of you in??
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 7:14 PM |
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UnconventionalCreativity
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I dated this guy who came from an extremely religious family. When I was first introduced to his parents, I had a nose ring, wore black clothes, and wasn't religious; they thought I was the devil. When it came to the break up, I was the one that called quits, which is surprising because he dumped my very religious friend after me. Reason? Because his mommy didn't approve of her either. 
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 7:16 PM |
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Thunderscribe
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Were you the devil?
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 8:40 PM |
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arn_arn
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if you want a life with no interference.....
best to move to a deserted island. Take a
cookbook... 1,000 ways to eat and cook raw coconut
on an open flame
life is nothing but interference. When it stops
you can bet your heart has too ! and they will be piling dirt
over you.
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 9:28 PM |
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Angel54214
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"Sponge"...First of all, ask yourself what are your personal space boundaries. Friends, family, co-workers will interfere is you let them. People generally don't give free advise unless you ask them for it, if so then be prepared for all their advise. If they just move into your personal space and your uncomfortable with it, then you set the boundaries straight right away in kind words, but firm. That's my opinion. I have had those problems in the past with family and friends interfering in my personal business that I did not hang a welcome sign on.
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 9:40 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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sissycat....we're seniors in high school. he does want to go to college after high school, and the issue used to be his education (this has been going on for awhile)....but now he's making acceptable grades and it's mainly about the fact that she doesn't like me, she's even told other people she doesn't like me.
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 11:08 PM |
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sissycat411
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Lip...how long have the two of you been seeing each other...and do you have any idea when this all started....her not liking you? Was there a time her attitude was different and was there one significate turning point?
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