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What should be the responsibilities of women and man in marriage ?


Apr 21, 2010 @ 4:03 PM What should be the responsibilities of women and man in marriage ?    
alaskenmike


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MARRIAGE, THE RESPONSIBILITY OF THE MAN

1. The husband is the head of the home. This connotes leadership in the area of family life.
2. The foundation for the family and for the home is the husband's love, for without his mental attitude of love, he can expect no response from his wife.
3. The woman was made for the man, to please him, and the woman is never complete without the man. The woman only becomes complex when she has nothing to respond to.
4. When a man invests nothing in his marriage, he will receive nothing in return.
5. The husband's responsibility to the family does not end with being the bread winner, which is only a small part of the responsibility in compatibility in marriage.
6. The husband should initiate love, mental attitude love, expressing itself in conversation, and behavior pattern, as well as sex.
7. The husband should have time for his wife and family. The whole life of a woman is centered in her husband, while the husband has many interests.
8. The wife wants to feel wanted and protected. Her security is in the love of her husband, not in the money he earns or his social prestige.
9. So every woman needs and wants attention, she wants to feel as though she belongs. She should be protected, rather than maligned.
10. A woman is like a plant that requires sunshine and water for survival.
11. The man who lives by his ego, one who is wrapped up in his own importance, has no capacity for love.
12. Some men want their wife to assume the role of a mother to them, to give care and protection and attention to them as a mother would. So, instead of the man giving, he demands this protection. This type of a man has not grown up and thinks only of what he can get, not what he can give.
Example: Some men get into problems at work, and they may then, when at home, expect their wives to answer the phone, saying they are not at home, or expect their wives to smooth-talk some critic out of his hostility for the husband. It will never work.
13. A woman wants to look with respect toward her husband. She does not want to look at him as just another child to rear and handle.
14. She needs to have a sense of security which comes from knowing that he makes decisions which are good, that he has good judgment; this develops respect, true love demands as one of its ingredients.
15. Marriage does not give the man the right of being a bully, or a brute, one who demands their rights as the head of the house with never a "Thank you." Nor does it give the wife the right to spend a lifetime trying to straighten out her husband, and to mold him into the image of her own idealism.
16. The man is the guardian and custodian of the woman's soul. He must not destroy her responder. To possess a woman's body, without possessing her mind, her soul, is a fallacy.There must be mental attitude love first.
17. The establishing of rapport is the responsibility of the man and it starts with the mind.
18. There are three areas that the man must understand about the woman:
A. Her spiritual make-up.
B. Her mental make-up.
C. Her physical make-up.
19. A woman must be free and have freedom to respond to her own husband's love, for without freedom, she will not have the desire.
20. A woman's desire toward her husband must be correlated with her volition, her free will. A man who eliminates a woman's free will, volition, destroys the whole mental attitude picture.

Now, all this sounds great on paper but in real daily modern living I just don't see this taking roots.

And, how much of this would be just chucked-up by the feminists to male chauvinism and misogynistic attitude towards women ?


[Edited on 4/21/2010 4:16 PM]
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Apr 21, 2010 @ 4:58 PM What should be the responsibilities of women and man in marriage ?    
Loreli


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I don't think it all sounds great on paper...there are some valid points, but it's mostly hooey.

The whole life of a woman is centered in her husband, while the husband has many interests.
hmm, maybe that's why there are so many divorces
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Apr 21, 2010 @ 5:19 PM What should be the responsibilities of women and man in marriage ?    
Heaveninawildflower


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So who's taking care of the kids while she's so centered on her husband?

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Apr 21, 2010 @ 5:21 PM What should be the responsibilities of women and man in marriage ?    
gypsy29


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1. The husband is the head of the home. This connotes leadership in the area of family life.

Havent had a husband for 9 years, so im outa luck?? But really, a man must earn the respect that is required for this position, and I don't see that happening a whole lot these days.

2. The foundation for the family and for the home is the husband's love, for without his mental attitude of love, he can expect no response from his wife.

No, the foundation for the family, is the parents marraige. without a healthy marraige, the family is sunk.

3. The woman was made for the man, to please him, and the woman is never complete without the man. The woman only becomes complex when she has nothing to respond to.

No really.......

4. When a man invests nothing in his marriage, he will receive nothing in return.

And finally we have the crux of the problem!

5. The husband's responsibility to the family does not end with being the bread winner, which is only a small part of the responsibility in compatibility in marriage.

Ding ding ding! We have a winner!

6. The husband should initiate love, mental attitude love, expressing itself in conversation, and behavior pattern, as well as sex.

Remember, that without love, women don't want sex. But overall, a nice thought!

7. The husband should have time for his wife and family. The whole life of a woman is centered in her husband, while the husband has many interests.

Ummmmm really??? I have no interests outside my husband??? I'll go tell my boss that and see what she says....

8. The wife wants to feel wanted and protected. Her security is in the love of her husband, not in the money he earns or his social prestige.

Please repeat that a little louder... although if the bills aren't paid, we don't feel very protected!


9. So every woman needs and wants attention, she wants to feel as though she belongs. She should be protected, rather than maligned.

Or used for sex and a work slave, and house slave......I could go on and on and on


10. A woman is like a plant that requires sunshine and water for survival.

And the occasional pedicure!


11. The man who lives by his ego, one who is wrapped up in his own importance, has no capacity for love.

And there are SO many of them, how do we find the rest?


12. Some men want their wife to assume the role of a mother to them, to give care and protection and attention to them as a mother would. So, instead of the man giving, he demands this protection. This type of a man has not grown up and thinks only of what he can get, not what he can give.
Example: Some men get into problems at work, and they may then, when at home, expect their wives to answer the phone, saying they are not at home, or expect their wives to smooth-talk some critic out of his hostility for the husband. It will never work.

Have you ever talked to my ex???


13. A woman wants to look with respect toward her husband. She does not want to look at him as just another child to rear and handle.

NO S*#% Sherlock!!!!

14. She needs to have a sense of security which comes from knowing that he makes decisions which are good, that he has good judgment; this develops respect, true love demands as one of its ingredients.


Yup! Although, I make my own security these days!


15. Marriage does not give the man the right of being a bully, or a brute, one who demands their rights as the head of the house with never a "Thank you." Nor does it give the wife the right to spend a lifetime trying to straighten out her husband, and to mold him into the image of her own idealism.

Hhhmmm you DID meet my ex! I don't deal with a bully very well..... hence the divorce.


16. The man is the guardian and custodian of the woman's soul. He must not destroy her responder. To possess a woman's body, without possessing her mind, her soul, is a fallacy.There must be mental attitude love first.

Maybe her heart, but the soul is hers.


17. The establishing of rapport is the responsibility of the man and it starts with the mind.

Well, he certainly can kill rapport.... and the mind IS the most sexy organ on a man!


18. There are three areas that the man must understand about the woman:
A. Her spiritual make-up.
B. Her mental make-up.
C. Her physical make-up.

Let's keep it simple, take her to the church of her choice, take out the damn trash without being nagged and tell her she's pretty even though she has put on 15 lbs.


19. A woman must be free and have freedom to respond to her own husband's love, for without freedom, she will not have the desire.

That means we have to get out of the house without you on occasion. We arent going to cheat on you if we go to lunch with the girls, it's just lunch.


20. A woman's desire toward her husband must be correlated with her volition, her free will. A man who eliminates a woman's free will, volition, destroys the whole mental attitude picture.

Ok, that means we have to be able to CHOOSE you, not be forced to because you are too darn self centered that you wont let us make up our mind. If you love us, show us, and not by force or weaseling.

Overall, not a horrible list..... and that's coming from a feminist!

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Apr 21, 2010 @ 5:34 PM What should be the responsibilities of women and man in marriage ?    
alaskenmike


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3. The woman was made for the man, to please him, and the woman is never complete without the man. The woman only becomes complex when she has nothing to respond to.

No really.......

Then why women are so desperate to get married ? ...if not for the "completion" as a female/woman ???
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Apr 21, 2010 @ 5:41 PM What should be the responsibilities of women and man in marriage ?    
Loreli


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Huh?
I've only known ONE female that was chomping at the bit...
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Apr 21, 2010 @ 5:52 PM What should be the responsibilities of women and man in marriage ?    
alaskenmike


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Being single and lonely is much harder for a woman to deal with.
Man don't have the need to "nest" as much as women do.
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Apr 21, 2010 @ 6:10 PM What should be the responsibilities of women and man in marriage ?    
Heaveninawildflower


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Being single and lonely is much harder for a woman to deal with.

Personally I was a lot lonelier (and more miserable) married than I ever was single.

A few years after my divorce, way back in my 30's, one of my cousins asked me if I was going to remarry. It was with genuine puzzlement that I asked her why would I, and since I'm still single despite many proposals in the interim, I guess I've never found a good answer.

p.s. I have a good man in my life right now, and if he thought that I was sexier if I cooked more, I'd cook more. Since he apparently thinks the sexiest thing I can do is continue just being me, I guess I'll do that instead...including telling him he screwed up the tent pole setup and going ahead and showing him how it should be done...and that was the FIRST time we went camping. He still brags about it to family and friends...he thinks it's sexy that I'm smart.



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Apr 21, 2010 @ 6:45 PM What should be the responsibilities of women and man in marriage ?    
ColdinWisconsin


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Oh you Bastard. I think I peed a little on this one.


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Apr 21, 2010 @ 8:26 PM What should be the responsibilities of women and man in marriage ?    
LipGlossQueen9


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I am about to get sick concerning 90% of this. It's straight up retarded.
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Apr 21, 2010 @ 8:34 PM What should be the responsibilities of women and man in marriage ?    
Merchitown


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Good Gawd, Gypsy you made it through?! Honey you get a big ol' curtsy from me!
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Apr 21, 2010 @ 8:34 PM What should be the responsibilities of women and man in marriage ?    
Jalon


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Personally I was a lot lonelier (and more miserable) married than I ever was single.

Amen Sister Heaven!

Okay, I actually do agree with numbers 4, 5, 11, 19 and 20.
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Apr 21, 2010 @ 8:43 PM What should be the responsibilities of women and man in marriage ?    
newlife2006


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LipGlossQueen9
... It's straight up retarded.

Well...it's more like traditional , patriarchal model of marriage.
In fact , somewhere in Afganistan our puss would have had more chances for success with his post. His problem is - him being at the wrong place and at the wrong time.
( Come to think about it - not that long ago , just some 60 years ago, his idea of marriage would have been quite acceptable even here, in USA ... )
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Apr 21, 2010 @ 8:45 PM What should be the responsibilities of women and man in marriage ?    
LipGlossQueen9


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The patriarchal marriage model is retarded. That's what I'm trying to say. Thank God my relationship isn't run like that.

If you need another person to feel completed and whole, you need therapy and you're a sad and pathetic person....whether or not you have a vagina.
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Apr 21, 2010 @ 10:32 PM What should be the responsibilities of women and man in marriage ?    
signme


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I also think women can "nest" with or without a male in her life. I wouldn't mind a guy to help take care of some of the structural problems with my house, but I can pretty much handle the rest if I have to. I would though like a man around who can cook!
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Apr 21, 2010 @ 11:07 PM What should be the responsibilities of women and man in marriage ?    
Angel178


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OMG!!! This is too funny! I used to be "that" type of wife. See where it got me? A restraining order on him cause at the slightest bit of protest for a little equality or even a little help in the home....my marriage was over. Men like the OP who think like this need to marry women from a another time. Someone who dosen't think or have opinions.

Get a grip!
The nesting thing mostly kicks in when you have children. Not to get married!

Being single and lonely is much harder for a woman to deal with
Mike...not sure where you got this from. I'm pretty sure that if all men were like you, women would rather be alone...not lonely.

I can't believe we all feed into these threads. We must all really be bored. If I actually met a man that thinks the way the OP does...I would soooooooooooo make fun of him with my friends. A little pointing and laughing would take place too!
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Apr 21, 2010 @ 11:21 PM What should be the responsibilities of women and man in marriage ?    
LipGlossQueen9


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I'm really not sure why I react to Big Pussy anymore.
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Apr 21, 2010 @ 11:32 PM What should be the responsibilities of women and man in marriage ?    
Angel178


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LGQ...because he likes to "push buttons", not have a conversation.
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Apr 21, 2010 @ 11:37 PM What should be the responsibilities of women and man in marriage ?    
LipGlossQueen9


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*sigh* I should know better
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Apr 21, 2010 @ 11:39 PM What should be the responsibilities of women and man in marriage ?    
Angel178


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Don't feel badly...we all react the same way.
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