| Nov 8, 2005 @ 9:56 PM |
Why are most older single men afraid of Marriage?
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mebrooks313
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Seems to me that men think up all kinds of escuses. They can't afford the gas, they can't commit, they want to be sure, they don't like something you do or don't do, My God, is there no end to excuses?
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| Nov 8, 2005 @ 10:01 PM |
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Seamonkey836
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Sounds to me like you are running into the wrong guys.
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| Nov 8, 2005 @ 10:11 PM |
Why are most older single men afraid of Marriage?
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summersquall
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I think people are hesitant to get married for a lot of different reasons. With age comes wisdom right?
Ok that was humor...;)
I really don't think age should make a bit of difference when it comes to marriage, as long as there is love involved in the relationship.
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| Nov 8, 2005 @ 10:16 PM |
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spongebob777
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I'm not afraid of getting married again, I'm afraid of getting married to the wrong woman again.
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| Nov 8, 2005 @ 10:22 PM |
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Pete73052
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I'm not afraid of getting married again, I'm afraid of getting married to the wrong woman again.
 Some of us want to be sure the person we marry will be there when our Depends need changing. 
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| Nov 8, 2005 @ 10:51 PM |
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Billstv286
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I am not afraid, I just want it to be for life this time. I am a single father and must be very careful this time. I can stand the pain but my son should not have too.
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| Nov 8, 2005 @ 11:23 PM |
Why are most older single men afraid of Marriage?
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Loves_Fool
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even young guys are affraid of marrage with the way that things are now adays once it used to be till death do we part now it is hey girls get new divorced Barbie she comes with all Ken's exceseries ok yah that was a little corny but true why rush into things that you are not sure of
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| Nov 9, 2005 @ 3:39 PM |
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Satz_o
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Many of us older men realize marriage is nothing more than a man-made law. A law which in many cases prove the balance moreso for women than men.
I don't make excuses, I simply say I am not getting married.
The good thing about that is it weeds out who you wish to date and who you don't.
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| Nov 9, 2005 @ 9:23 PM |
Why are most older single men afraid of Marriage?
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definitelydi
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I think a lot of older men are set in their ways, and getting married would mean they'd have to live outside of their "comfort zone." Frequently with age comes stubborness.
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| Nov 10, 2005 @ 4:26 PM |
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starlight121
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I would stay clear of such men, I would think they are secretly still married just to keep the Pension with their current wife and for health insurance reasons.
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| Nov 10, 2005 @ 4:57 PM |
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lecriveuse
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when i was 38, i dated a 58 year-old guy. like one woman said, he wanted 2 set up housekeeping, etc. everything but marry. "u dont want 2 marry" he says. "its no big deal." it was to me, and i moved along (oh, i should've listened).
ppl should b cautious, but if one-half is dragging the feet, leave! i haven't met one signing up for china  (i wonder if i'd like the pattern he'd chosen). just take your time, ladies. it may hurt to think of still looking, but wouldn't you rather do that than to marry a mule?
 show them my motto: i'd rather be happy and alone than married and miserable.
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| Nov 10, 2005 @ 6:01 PM |
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lobo65
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They've probably been screwed over in past divorces, and don't want anything to do with marriage again. My two brothers are in that boat, and will probably never marry again. Can't blame them.
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| Nov 10, 2005 @ 6:34 PM |
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grumblebear
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Marriage? I'm only 44, but even I see less and less reason for getting involved, I know I'll never trust anyone enough to think about marriage, let alone get involved...
I know I'm bitter, I know until I let go it will make me unhappy
unfortunately I have too many bad memories, and lessons taught to me about the foolishness of trusting anyone...
thats life... I'm honest about it
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| Nov 10, 2005 @ 6:35 PM |
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freestylegreek
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Im 25 yeard old and when i get older im not looking to get married and im not afraid of it. I just dont wanna have my time wasted or waste someone elses time.
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| Nov 10, 2005 @ 10:18 PM |
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Mudplay
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"I am not afraid, I just want it to be for life this time. I am a single father and must be very careful this time. I can stand the pain but my son should not have too."
You nailed that one Billstv! Its amazing how many women (and men) cannot understand the concept that the kids will always come first. For any serious relationship to be considered, I would have to be certain it was best for my kid. I postponed my right to put myself first the day he was born.
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| Nov 10, 2005 @ 11:05 PM |
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sandy3269
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As one guy posted, as you get older you can't help but get a little more in tune with the relationship cycle.
Because of the way society has moved, the balance of power and with it the relationship between man and woman has changed. For the most part neither are aware of the societal forces that push them.
Some guy are still walking around dragging their knuckles, cave man style. Some women empowered by that change, are flaming arrows, to thier detriment.
Few of us know how to do a relationship that survives in our disposable society.
Me, if I found one I could talk to I think I might stand a chance.
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| Nov 11, 2005 @ 12:17 AM |
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swingpup
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I am unable to speak for other "older males" only myself. I have been divorced for 20 years and I love it.  Why? I know for myself I am able to have "companionship" with a variety of females when and if I desire. If I desire to stay home alone and work quietly no problem, to jet off for a week or two I'm able to do so. If I would happen to discover one woman that could be everything...I may once again consider marriage.
What is everything? That would include but is not limited to; being a best friend, a sexsational lover, adventurous, a career woman that is secure both emotionally and financially, out going, fun, intellectual, nice looking with a great attitude and no obvious b---h like tendencies.
One discovers that to expect any one women to possess all the above attributes is unrealistic. Therefore for different situations, different events, etc., it's different women. If and when Ms. Right comes along we BOTH shall know it. Until that occurs I have yet to lose and sleep over it.
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| Nov 11, 2005 @ 10:12 PM |
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RareQuestor
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It's like Jeff Foxworthy once commented: You can go to a party at a single guy's house and trash all of his furniture and he is only out $15 bucks! Older men tend to have more money saved up and have acquired more possessions and that tends to make them more conservative.
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| Nov 12, 2005 @ 3:35 AM |
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misskitty56
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oh...a lot of women my age would have possessions,too...
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| Nov 12, 2005 @ 8:38 PM |
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nadine21
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me personally in the dating thing, I will be looking for a life time patner so I filter those emails that looking for a friend or casual thing, so that why you still have to ask your date if you intrested in them what they looking for so you can stay or move on. 
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