| Jan 22, 2006 @ 12:11 PM |
What is it with men who cant be honest with women?
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kate657
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Last few times i have either chatted with a guy online or in person. they just seem to show interest in me. Then wheni respond they back off and say it wouldnt be fair to me lIts like they lead me on.
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| Jan 22, 2006 @ 1:33 PM |
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SnowDreamer
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Happens to everyone, I suppose. I've communicated with men online and even given out my number for them to call and never heard from them again. Several times I've gotten winks and have responded and that was it. Don't let it bother you and don't take it personally....I have to admit I've done the same thing with men.  Yet, I've met a few men from an online dating site (not this one) and had a great time meeting each and every one of them (one of them I'm supposed to have a third date with tonight), so just ignore the bad ones and concentrate on the good.
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| Jan 22, 2006 @ 1:36 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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 There are women who can`t be honest with men too..
so I think it all equals out in the end...maybe they should get together...and lie to each other... 
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| Jan 22, 2006 @ 1:45 PM |
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Angel54214
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I just wish they would read the profiles! I get interests from other countries that are not being filtered and I return emails of not being interested, still they write. Then the winks from young ones my kids age in other states. I just ignore them and delete the winks. Our soldiers have written to me and just send my blessings from USA then say no thank you.
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| Jan 22, 2006 @ 2:58 PM |
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chinabull2000
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This certainly works both ways, and yeah, it's irritating!
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| Jan 22, 2006 @ 5:03 PM |
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mangolover60
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What is it with men who cant be honest with women?
Maybe it's because you wouldn't play with them if they were?
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| Jan 22, 2006 @ 9:08 PM |
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wsuling
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Kate, think of it this way hun, at least they never get close enough to really hurt you. Blessing in disguise most likely.
Think of being in a long-term relationship and having them back off, or even worse, finding out they were never honest with you or themselves from the get-go.
I guess we've all been there before huh? Let's just try not to go there again.
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| Jan 22, 2006 @ 10:43 PM |
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MotownManiax
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Kate, if anything I'm too brutally honest. I tell women up front my weaknesses, which I'm sure has stymied more than one possible connection. But hey, people will find out things about us eventually, so why sugar coat it?
***Amended for Angel Sweetums -- Awww, you're WAY too sweet
[Edited on 1/23/2006 12:11 AM]
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| Jan 23, 2006 @ 12:51 AM |
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spicygamble
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I know the senario all too well.
(and yes, it bears no bias to gender)
There are simply people out there who...
1.)bait every profile they can. They send out those emails as if their life depends on the quantity of responses &/or the quality of the quest. It's all about the chase.
2.)play a game of cat & mouse. They simply want to know that they still have "it".(*sigh...ahh, the it) No one gets a chance to see it coming & the potential dater is left unaware.
3.)never intend to meet anyone. It's all just a big hustle. As soon as it becomes clearly possible for the hustler to make a date/connection, the challenge is over(& so is the chase).
...it happens to the best of us~
an unfortunate detail of online singles that never made it to the handbook.
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| Jan 23, 2006 @ 8:55 AM |
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Kat_luvr
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As soon as it becomes clearly possible for the hustler to make a date/connection, the challenge is over(& so is the chase)
That Scenario is soooo familiar. Can't tell ya how many times That has Happened.... 
I just keep reminding myself... there are plenty of fish in the sea....eventually ...A nice guy will Swim by. 
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| Jan 23, 2006 @ 9:38 AM |
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Mischief484
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Sounds like they are being honest with you. There might be some initial interest there, which leads them to contact you. Then after learning more, they realize that you're not quite what they're looking for. Would you rather they just give you the silent treatment, or politely tell you that they're no longer interested?
Maybe it's just me, but I think most people would appreciate the polite honesty of saying "you're nice, but it wouldn't be fair to you to feign interest where there isn't any."
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| Jan 23, 2006 @ 12:10 PM |
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kattsmeow
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.)play a game of cat & mouse
I got a catnip mouse as a gift,,,it got tore up all over the house.....
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| Jan 23, 2006 @ 8:53 PM |
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spicygamble
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We don't want to hear you whine........
Is this concidered your constructive commentary?
If so, I question your profile per se...
"... I am non-critical and non-judgemental."
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| Jan 24, 2006 @ 2:01 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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because women can't be honest with men either. if you are going to make blanket accusations about men, we can retaliate with the same about women and be equally correct.
I have to be *honest* here 
I agree ...whats good for the goose should also be good for the gander...in other words if you can dish it out..then in all honesty you should be able to take it when its served back at you...hmmmmmmm..make sense?...too me it did
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| Jan 24, 2006 @ 2:54 PM |
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ILLLOOK
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But I thought I was being honest. I wink and email after reading profiles then talk and maybe date but at the end I have to be honest either I say I dont think it will work or you are awesome let's get it on LOL. Is that really the wrong way to handle it. Should I wait till I know for sure that she is the one before I wink or email how am I to know.
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| Jan 24, 2006 @ 9:13 PM |
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SlotCar1
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Same here! I thought I WAS being honest! Heck, I AM being honest. Look at where it has gotten me.
On another site I stated I was blonde, 26yo, 6'6" and a fireman and my mailbox was FULL every day!
When I lie about myself most women believe it. When I tell the truth we all can see where it is getting me, right? Y'all tell me how bad my attitude is and how I should change my profile, etc, etc... Y'all don't like the truth when you read it!
No, I'm NOT living in the past but... Out of the 40+ women I have had a relationship with there are only TWO I know I would be with right now but one of them is dead and the other was forced by her parents to stop seeing me 'way back when' but told me recently that she still loves me and if she wasn't still married.....
Out of the 40+ they are/were the 2 most intelligent, attractive, honest, NON-shallow ones of the bunch.
Go figure!
[Edited on 1/24/2006 9:21 PM]
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| Jan 24, 2006 @ 10:34 PM |
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spicygamble
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...food for thought~
Honesty is rarely the problem.
Selfesteem issues, disrespectful or shameful behavior, being unrealistic...these things cause the problems.
Pretending does not fix the problem, neither does blaming.
Truth is, you may not be able to fix this(but don't stoop to such an equally low level, either).
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| Jan 24, 2006 @ 10:59 PM |
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Alternaut
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Last few times i have either chatted with a guy online or in person. they just seem to show interest in me. Then wheni respond they back off and say it wouldnt be fair to me lIts like they lead me on.
You got off easy. You're lucky you can cut your losses so early, when they are few. I have to wait until I've invested a great deal of... myself before she realizes she's not interested anymore and, I dunno, goes off and plays dead or something. 
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| Jan 24, 2006 @ 11:00 PM |
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7eternity
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AND, I have been as honest as GOD and have had it cost me the relationship more than once.
It's not easy to be a good person. It's probably not happening just to you Slot. Whenever you choose honesty over lie in your choice, you do the right thing. And you should keep doing it. 
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 2:47 PM |
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RustyRae48f
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[QUOTE] There are women who can`t be honest with men too..
so I think it all equals out in the end...maybe they should get together...and lie to each other
That's for sure,Tink...
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