| Jan 23, 2006 @ 2:12 PM |
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scarletsara
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I have been seeing this guy for three months. He lives 2 1/2 hrs away
and works a demanding job (doctor). At first he was attentive and the sex was great. Now he is busy with alot of things and doesn't have much time for me. I have been doing all the calling/visiting, the sex is still great.
Do you think he is trying to handle two women or is he losing interest in me?
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| Jan 23, 2006 @ 2:13 PM |
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kattsmeow
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No, sounds like he is too busy for another woman. Have you asked him?
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| Jan 23, 2006 @ 2:15 PM |
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Aselune
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depends scarlestra..is he an attending or resident...and it would also depend in what field...the board exams are coming up for residents..and they are on call more than off call...attendings have to cover ground a lot too during exams.. I would probably ask him out right if things are ok between the 2 of you and tell him your fears...
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| Jan 23, 2006 @ 2:29 PM |
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scarletsara
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He is an anesthesiologist, I have asked why he doesn''t have much time for me, he just says he is busy. But he does find time to devote to personal projects. Seems I am not up there on his list of priorities.
I do really like him, but I am wondering if I should move on before I
become too attached.
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| Jan 23, 2006 @ 2:30 PM |
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AngelLight
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Speak with him directly and honestly about how you are feeling and about what your concerns are, but I would not jump to the conclusion that he has another woman or doesn't care for you anymore.
If you have an open and honest discussion with him, your fears may very well be alleviated.
If after speaking with him something about what he says just doesn't add up or feel right, trust your intuition and act accordingly. You may have to end the relationship if your better judgement tells you so.
If after speaking with him and your better judgement tells you otherwise, go with that. But by all means, address your concerns with him. Don't dismiss them because you are afraid of what he might tell you.
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| Jan 23, 2006 @ 2:31 PM |
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7eternity
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Scarlet,
He doesn't need another woman to lose interest in you. You're making yourself too convenient and available for that guy, which is boring. If you want to know, sure you can ask him what's going on, but he'd tell you only if he wants to. What you can rely on is the way he acts around you, where he looks when he talks to you, the tone of his voice...
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| Jan 23, 2006 @ 2:33 PM |
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MoonBeamTag45
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I'm an RN.... and I would never get involved with a Dr.....sorry, but you did ask. They are ( for the most part ) very busy, on call, constantly upgrading thier education ( not a bad thing as a patient ) They are just a whole new breed of people...
I would say that if you want a relationship with a Doc....get use to his being busy. It's his job, not you. I don't think he has another woman...I think he is just filled to capacity.
Good luck !!!
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| Jan 23, 2006 @ 2:42 PM |
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Mischief484
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I'd say ignore the guy. If he's too busy, he's too busy and he'll get around to you when he can. If he's not interested anymore, no amount of talking will change that. And if you're the "other woman," you know it's not going to work out well in the end, anyway.
Ignore him.
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| Jan 23, 2006 @ 2:49 PM |
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Aselune
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I would say that if you want a relationship with a Doc....get use to his being busy. It's his job, not you. I don't think he has another woman...I think he is just filled to capacity.
exactly...I'm not a nurse (lol yet but soon  ) but I do work in the hospital..and I tend to see the docs more than their wives do (lol have actually gotten to know a few by phone pretty well lol)...a relationship with a doc is a hard road...and yes the anesthesiologists are still on call..just like medical doctors are..and this is a busy time for them...during the holidays most of the elective procedures are put off..now it's turn up the heat time..not trying to make excuses for him..but I totally agree with everyone..you need to talk to him..before you decide to end the relationship...then you need to ask yourself if a distance relationship (even only 2-3 hours) is what you really want..then..another self conversation..should things get serious with this man..is this a lifestyle you are willing to accept...
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| Jan 23, 2006 @ 3:05 PM |
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MoonBeamTag45
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This is probably off topic....and maybe I'll be booted from the forum for this ( I'm kinda new, so I'm not sure ) But, I'm not afraid to test the waters ( so to speak )
Asulene is right. I spend more time with the docs at work than thier wives do. I've been contacted by docs, probably because of my profession ( and I politely respond that I'm not interested ) No offense to the docs...we love ya ! We love what you do, and that we can wake you in the middle of the night, and bother you while your trying to be at a family gathering, we love that your available, even if it's your sons graduation, your anniversary, your birthday, or the funeral of a relative....but, it's not what I want in my life.
There are many, many women that would find a relationship with a doc rewarding ( sometimes I worry about the motives, and I'm not speaking of the thread starter ) But, I've seen it happen, and yes....the docs talk about them to us at work. Oh sheesh ( I may never work again...lol ) There really is a hospital "family" Look at what we go through together....Gunshots, Murder, Overdose...we don't save them all, and we cry together. And we cry often....
This is turning into a sad thread for me...but it's true. I would never date a doc, but if you want to...just realize that he is going to be busy, and your probably not on his mind 24/7.
On the other hand....I am really attracted to construction guys !! Tanned all summer, rough hands...hard working...handy around the house....and no late night calls that they have to climb out of bed.
If I get the boot for this....well...I'll find another forum to voice my opinions....  
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| Jan 23, 2006 @ 3:05 PM |
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MoonBeamTag45
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oops...I posted that rant twice !!!
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| Jan 23, 2006 @ 3:08 PM |
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MoonBeamTag45
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Asulune...by the way Congrats on your endeavor !!! 
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| Jan 23, 2006 @ 3:41 PM |
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scarletsara
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Thanks everyone, I think I will take mischiefs advice and ignore him,
it's not like I can't get plenty of male attention elsewhere  him.
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| Jan 23, 2006 @ 3:54 PM |
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MoonBeamTag45
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Smart girl :)
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| Feb 4, 2006 @ 2:01 PM |
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MICHIGANGIRL11
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My guess would be if he isn't having a relationship w/another woman. There is another woman who interests him and he is trying to figure out who he wants to be with more. I just went through this back in October, I wish I would have recognized the signs. Good Luck...........
Michigangirl11
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| Feb 4, 2006 @ 2:19 PM |
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ruready4me2luvu
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My guess would be if he isn't having a relationship w/another woman. There is another woman who interests him and he is trying to figure out who he wants to be with more. I just went through this back in October, I wish I would have recognized the signs. Good Luck...........
Michigangirl11
It's very easy to recognize the signs if it's someone from MD MIchigangal we all tell each otehr. I just went thru this B/S last week, wht a loser/liar/con/cheat  Mother Nature rules and when men learn it and abide by it they wont get revenge tossed their way Yep, I've passed along the info about the creep to other women he's had contact with here  I dont mess around when it comes to things like this 
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| Feb 4, 2006 @ 6:00 PM |
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TigerEyes71
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I wouldn't blow him off completely. My Aunt used to say
"Give a man crumbs, he'll come back for more."
Perhaps you have given him the entire cake and now that he's had his fill, he doesn't need as much. I would say, being only 3 months into the relationship, start doing more for yourself. If he sees that you aren't constantly waiting by the phone or ready to drop everything to go and see him, he might think twice before blowing you off to go do something else. Reverse psychology... try it, it might work.
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| Feb 4, 2006 @ 7:24 PM |
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painter007
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whenever a guy says hes been busy hes with another or not into ya. If a guy digs you nothin gets in his way.
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| Feb 4, 2006 @ 7:46 PM |
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branddrgn
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I don't really know how true that one is when the man's job involves saving lives....
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| Feb 4, 2006 @ 7:51 PM |
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spongebob777
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If he's a doctor it really could be a simple matter of being very busy.
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