| Mar 3, 2006 @ 12:12 AM |
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JesterDrawers
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I like this one too says older women are smarter
Ya think? Well...if they're sooooo smart, why am I still single???? 
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| Mar 3, 2006 @ 7:57 AM |
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MotownManiax
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My only problem with a 40+ year old dating someone twenty years younger is simple honesty about intent. Is that so hard to give in this society anymore?
If the reasons you go after someone so young are love and a genuine relationship, great.
If the reason is just to sleep around to prove your virility and satisfy your ego, that's fine, too. Immoral as h*ll, but I can't stop you.
Just come clean and don't BS me.
It always amazes me when older men or women (mostly men, but the times-they-are-a-changin') boast and backslap about how many sweet young things they've notched on their belts, but when magnified under the glare of scrutiny get all defensive with righteous indignation, and try to wrap themselves around an aura of respectability to defend this shallow behavior.
Oh, for crissakes, quit denying, call it what it is? For those in it only for the tail/c*ck, be mature and step up to the plate. You have no intention of anything serious, right?…you're just out to nail young p*ssy/c*ck and stroke your ego?
Are there exceptions, do some date much younger people out of love, respect, and an honest search for compatibility? Of course, so please don't jump down my throat bashing me with that old argument. But, forgive me, the "majority" of people I read in these forums and defend this kind of behavior are definitely NOT in this group, not by a frickin' long shot…lol.
If you disagree with my characterization of your dating "proclivities", or in denial, or can't stand to look in the mirror and face the truth that you're not the all-around great, wonderful, super person you think you are, too bad.
I'm only giving my opinion. If you don't like it, here's a quarter. Go argue with somebody that cares.
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| Mar 3, 2006 @ 8:25 AM |
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bevrice
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[pe2]  Right on, mo!!!!!!!!!
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| Mar 3, 2006 @ 8:41 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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I'm only giving my opinion. If you don't like it, here's a quarter. Go argue with somebody that cares.
 
Way to go!..Great opinion there Mo
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| Mar 3, 2006 @ 8:42 AM |
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bevrice
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lol, Pav, your American wives took you for a ride??? How many wives have you had? Sounds like you have to go overseas and meet them and get taken for another kind of ride. It sounds like you must not be a good judge of character because there are women and men who do that everywhere, so you are just making excuses.
Lol, now when you get to be seventy or eight, and brother, it ain't that for away, you will have this younger wifey, lol, and she gonna stick you in some nursing home and go have her fun. You will be walking around the house with your sweater on and she will have the ac turned up because it is hot in the house. She will want to go out dancing, and you and your cane and your old body can't handle that. She is going to be out buying, buying , buying, and you on your retirement income are going to be hurting. She is going to be finding all these hot, virile guys her age. So set yourself up to be hurt, because that is exactly what you are doing. I am a psychologist, and sugar, women, young women aren't normally attracted to older men unless they have baggage, probs, or just plain ol are looking for a way out of something. They can see you as an extension of their father, lol, but that means they have a problem, too. So unless you are totally gorgeous, so good looking that you just mow them down, lol, don't think they are going out with you because they are attracted to you, lol, they have a motive or a reason, UNLESS you are very wealthy, then they sure have a motive. That, or they are so ugly that they can't have anyone their age.
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| Mar 3, 2006 @ 9:07 AM |
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bevrice
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I didn't want to go into family history, but here goes. My mother was married four times, the last time to a man that was more than twenty years her senior. She was in a tight spot with money and liked him well enough as a person. Their marriage was stormy at best, and very hard on us girls, my sisters and I. I got married right after high school to get away from him, my middle sister rebelled in every way possible, even down to trying to commit suicide when she was in the ninth grade. He was older and couldn't handle having teenagers and kids around, he tried to rule with an iron hand.
He hated it when my mom went out and splurged on us or herself, and that was her nature, she did that when she was single. She wanted to travel, to go out and do things, but when they did, it was always with this much older crowd that had been HIS friends, this left her without an outlet for herself. She couldn't go anywhere by herself, he was afraid she would meet someone younger than himself. She was miserable, HE was miserable. They had nothing in common. They were married for almost twenty years, and toward the end of his life, he was crying to his brother about his home life. He came down with senile diabetes and became impotent, as it so often does to men. He felt used all the time.
In his will, he left the house to my mother, as long as she didn't remarry, geeeeeee, she was still young, too.
Now, my mom didn't look back on her marriage and talk about how much she had loved him, but talked about how grateful she was that he had provided for her, how grateful she was to him, lol. Okay, guys, this is what you want????
Also, I saw a documentary on men who brought wives back from Russia, all the women could say was how grateful they were to the men for marrying them and bringing them over here and giving them a life here, not one word of love. That is no different from my mom. So, guys, younger, foreign, is all the same. Do you want someone who loves you, adores you, or someone who is grateful to you???? LOL, guys, and YOU think YOU are playing your little games, getting the younger women, THEY ARE PLAYING YOU.
We are made to marry within out own age group, because then we can go through the same stages together, comfort one another when we grow old because we are going through it, too and understand how the other feels. We tend to like the same things and to be able to do the same things as others in our age group do. We grew up at the same time, liked the same things, knew the same things, did the same things, it is called basic compatibiltiy.
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| Mar 3, 2006 @ 9:10 AM |
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Pete73052
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I'd rather have nobody than a bitter old woman around. Thanks for the advice Bev, but I'll take my chances on the nursing home. Every person's intentions are different.
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| Mar 3, 2006 @ 9:18 AM |
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bevrice
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Lol, sugar, worked as a nurse's aid while I was going to college. DON'T THINK IT DOESN'T HAPPEN. Bitter old woman, lol, I am happy all the time, but in the same respect, am a retired psychologist, so, honey, you can take advantage of my training, lol, or do your own thing. All I can do is plant the seed.
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| Mar 3, 2006 @ 9:22 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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So, guys, younger, foreign, is all the same. Do you want someone who loves you, adores you, or someone who is grateful to you???? LOL, guys, and YOU think YOU are playing your little games, getting the younger women, THEY ARE PLAYING YOU.
That could also apply to the younger guys who marry older women and are grateful that they have finally found someone to replace their mommy..and whose to say that a man in the same age category as ones self isn`t just marrying cause hes grateful he found someone who would marry his sorry tush.. 
But thats just my opinion. 
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| Mar 3, 2006 @ 9:26 AM |
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sjpinatl
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Who says all women of a certain age are bitter? I am consistently told I look about 10 years younger than I am, and I have never been married or let a guy walk over me or take advantage of me. I know the way scarred people CAN be, but guys can get that way too, and it also depends on how they process things.
I know what you mean by bitter, but that does not have to do with age.
It is ok if a guy wants someone youthful, but prejudice when they say they feel young so they need to be with someone young in age. There are other women who look and act young as well. This is the only problem I have with it.
But I really think you can do whatever you want. The shallow and narcissistic will always be out there. The more they show it off, the more fair warning the rest of us get. Carry on
Edited to add....I just had a little epifany(sp). Men attract bitter women because they are bitter. Now that I think of it, I have seen it on here and in life. Try to run from it by seeking 20 somethings, but it will never work. Unless you are rich and want to be a sugar daddy. 
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| Mar 3, 2006 @ 9:32 AM |
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bevrice
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Lol, tinker, you are so right. 
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| Mar 3, 2006 @ 9:37 AM |
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bevrice
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sj, so right, you hit the nail on the head, just read what these guys have written, lol, and then they talk about women being bitter. Like attracts like, so right on, girl. Maybe some men like to be sugar daddies, lol, maybe it is the only way they can get the kind of woman they want. Such a great sacrifice of personal happiness that can be, lol, they don't know what headaches and trouble are.
So sj-----
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| Mar 3, 2006 @ 9:41 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Unless you are rich and want to be a sugar daddy
 There you go..or sugar momma.
I`m not at all bitter myself..less tolerant then I should be at times,but thats just the  devil in me over-riding the angel. 
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| Mar 3, 2006 @ 9:46 AM |
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bevrice
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here is another side to an older woman. My house is mine and paid for, my cars are paid for, I owe nothing to anyone. So, am I looking for a man to take care of me monitarily? No, I do perfectly fine by myself, I can pay for myself. I want someone to share my life with, love, spend time with, do things with, make love with, companionship, meaning. I have no baggage, am well past that stage of life. Now guys, shy away from the older, go for the younger who want and need you for your support, for children, they are very needy. Older women are going to look at you as a person and like you for the person you are, not because of your money, or your looks, or what you can do for them. Now, this is as a rule, and like in anything, there are exceptions to the rule.
Lol, you know Benjamin Franklin was known for his wisdom. Wisdom is the greatest thing you can seek, it is so much more important that education, or even intelligence. You can be a genius and still be an idiot, lol. Wisdom learns from others instead of going out and making its own mistakes. Wisdom listens and gleans the good out of things and the logic.
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| Mar 3, 2006 @ 9:58 AM |
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bevrice
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By the way, guys, when you marry or have a relationship with someone much younger than you are, lol, don't think that men or women are envying you or admiring you. Lol, they might tell you that to your face, but behind your back they are laughing at you and saying, "Boy, is she taking him for a ride!!" They are thinking how foolish you are. Ask anyone for the honest truth.........really.
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| Mar 3, 2006 @ 10:30 AM |
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MotownManiax
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Yep, on the subject of bitterness. There's enough bitterness to go around at any age, believe me.
I've seen 20-year-olds just as bitter as 60-year-olds. Only difference is older people seem better able to articulate "why" they're so bitter...lol.
Now, you can be alone the rest of your life, which for some is a perfectly acceptable solution, though not very psychologically healthy (being in a good relationship is always best).
However, to those that qualify it as the "main" reason for going after women in their 20's and 30's, the problem is sooner of later you are going to reach an age when you'll "have" to date older women…..I mean, you're not Donald Trump and able to exchange your wife for a young super model every 10 years, are you?
You don't like dating bitter people, here's a simple solution -- don't. But if you're in my age range or older and just can't seem to find "anybody" our age that's NOT bitter? I find that astonishing, extremely difficult to believe, and pretty flimsy reasoning if you ask me.
The evidence simply doesn't bear it out. There are tons of attractive women "any" age that are joyous, happy, and fun to be around. I see them every day, and I'm not even looking...lol.
To reference an old forums poster I debated repeatedly on this subject, and use his argument as an example...his reasoning for going after 20-something-year-olds was because he couldn't find women his own age (40's) healthy and energetic enough to keep up with him. Different argument, same logic. Again, I see women my age in great shape, every day -- aerobics instructors, marathon runners, even bodybuilders (sheesh, they intimidate the crap out of me...lol) -- so I have no idea what the heck he's talking about?
No, to me that just sounds like a smokescreen. Evidently, people must feel uncomfortable to reveal their true intentions for fear of being labelled shallow and narcissistic.
Come on, I won't snicker...much.
Thx Heaven (below).
[Edited on 3/3/2006 11:31 AM]
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| Mar 3, 2006 @ 10:45 AM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Ah, generalizations!! They're always such fun to watch...at 62, I'll just gravitate to people whose company I enjoy, and I don't particularly care what their ages are; they also tend to be people who look at things the same way I do and don't particularly care how old I am.
Funny how that works...
And Mo, you're certainly right about 40-something women; I know very competent athletes, and even tri-athletes who are in their 40's. I think they might not be interested in the 'old poster' though, they're not only athletic, they're exceptionally intelligent.
[Edited on 3/3/2006 10:55 AM]
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| Mar 3, 2006 @ 12:07 PM |
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bevrice
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Lol, was just thinking, you know we women come to you guys and ask you for advice about men and how they think because you ARE men, you know how you think, you relate to other men, they share their feelings with you and talk openly to you. We, or it seems, we women respect your opinions and know that you know what you are talking about.
Now men, on the other hand, have gotten insights on to how women think, what we tell one another, and what we hear from other women, as well as our own experiences, but they seem not to want to see or listen, why is this? Why do people always think they are the exception to the rule, that it is "different" with them. The sad thing about it is, they always find out too late that their situation was just the same as everyone else's.
Maybe it is a macho thing, maybe men look down on what we have to say because we are women and "don't know anything" or that because they are men, they know better.
Mo, I am not talking about you, you are an exception, and like I said, very wise, very astute.
It is also very amazing to me that all these younger women who supposedly want or desire older men, seem to be absent in this discussion. I wonder where that abundance of women, lol, NOT, are?
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| Mar 3, 2006 @ 12:35 PM |
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13lucky
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This is still going ????? Jeeeeesh Give it a break..If A Man wants a Younger Woman and has good intentions, Great! if a Woman whats a younger man and has good intentions Great! Who cares... Leave them be and let them figure it out... Heck when ws the last time someone listened and didn't have to learn by hard knocks ?
I beleive in letting people make their own decisions..and be responsible for them..
Older women smarter ...I don't think so...they are just better at the head games...
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| Mar 3, 2006 @ 12:42 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Older women smarter ...I don't think so...they are just better at the head games...
 I can think of other games I`d rather play.
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