| Feb 5, 2006 @ 11:14 AM |
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father_heart

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OK after a long, hard research of my dating life and they files, i have come to these facts.
1, I have dated seriously 5 times
2, 4-5 became live in. ( no deduction on the other one, she passed away before we got the chance. )
3, 2-5 are mommies to my babies
4, out of the 5 3were younger 2 were old
5, the younger ones bought more gifts, mostly with my money. the older gave better gifts, not vaule, just thought out better or even made em.
6, the youngers rarely were origanal pretty much cookie cutter stuff
7 older women are more creative
8 had a really hard time comunicating with the younger ones, most disargreements were were settle by just walkin away.
8, the older ladies, always seemed to listen
9, there is a more even check and balanc with the older women, seemd more natural.
SEX
YOU GET AHELLL OF ALOT MORE FROM THE OLDER WOMEN, well atlease in the begining.
HERES ONE< the older women were more judgemental and critcal then the youngers. which doesnt make sence if youwere with age offers knowledge and experiance..
all said they liked football when we first started dating only one accually ment it.
they all said things that they thought you wanted to hear. a little less frequent in the older yet do to lack of research matterial i cant really say
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| Feb 5, 2006 @ 11:24 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR

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YOU GET AHELLL OF ALOT MORE FROM THE OLDER WOMEN
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| Feb 5, 2006 @ 11:28 AM |
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father_heart

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no slow your roll.
that up to the indiviual to judge.
lol
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| Feb 5, 2006 @ 11:32 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR

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Roll?
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| Feb 10, 2006 @ 7:08 AM |
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bevrice

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Rhythem, you speak of equality being distorted, lol. I am still a lady, still like to to be treated like one. Equality was really all about jobs and wages, most women didn't and don't want to be treated like a man, some women took it and take it too far, lots of men take it too far. It is no wonder that so many are confused about their sexuality any more. Women still have to have the babies, guys, you can't do that, goodness only knows we would like to pass that buck to you, lol. Confident, secure women don't pay for dates or meals, they know who they are and they demand respect and to be treated like a lady. Lol, and all you guys want confident women, remember? Well, guys, most women want a confident man, and one who above all else knows how to treat a woman, our needs are different from yours, regardless of "equality". Most of us cannot be, nor do we want to be men or like men, and we sure don't want to be treated like one. We like men who are gentlemen, with manners, you are not going to impress us much if you expect us to pay for a date, lol, quite the opposite, and I am sure not going to chase YOU, you have to do the chasing, make the approaches, we are worth it, guys.
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| Feb 10, 2006 @ 8:42 AM |
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MotownManiax

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Is this topic STILL around???
I thought Summer and I finally finished this debate five threads ago?
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| Feb 10, 2006 @ 8:44 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR

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I thought Summer and I finally finished this debate five threads ago?
I didn`t do it.. Besides I don`t date younger women
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| Feb 10, 2006 @ 9:44 AM |
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Mischief484

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Confident, secure women don't pay for dates or meals, they know who they are and they demand respect and to be treated like a lady.
Utter, complete bulls***.
The 23-year old LADY who bought me lunch last Friday is every bit the confident, secure, 21st century female. Although she is 20 years younger than I am, she very much sees herself as my equal. She is independent. She is self-supporting. She is confident enough and articulate enough to go after what she wants, whether it's closing a new deal, chasing a life-long dream or asking a man she's interested in if he'd like to be treated to lunch. She does not need me to do anything for her, and therefore does not demand anything from me. Those things have nothing to do with being a man or a woman. They have everything to do with having a high self-esteem. Those are the people I want to be around, regardless of their age.
Thank GOD that the archaic attitudes like the one quoted above are dying off faster than World War II vets. They can't be stamped out fast enough.
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| Feb 10, 2006 @ 1:18 PM |
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bevrice

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Lol, sugar, you forget my occupation, and do you ever have things all backwards!! Hmmmm, a woman who knows what she wants and goes after it, a sign of confidence in herself, or doubt that you would ask her out. Confidence in herself or doubt that you would like her, so she pays for your lunch. Emotionally crippled, maybe and probably, carrying around a lot of baggage, probably, or controlling, absolutely. Your prob, sugar, and boy are you going to harvest a lot of those until you open your eyes and see the light. Husband hunting, lol, absolutely, you have a good salary, and men your age are patsies for younger women, or a good many of you are. So are you foolish, sorry, yes? It is certainly not your manners or your sterling qualities that would make her want to go out with you. You are cute but not drop dead gorgeous, okay, now think about it, it is sure not your profile that makes women want you. Why do you think she asked you out and is paid for your meal? Is she ugly, do you think men her age ignore her, lol? Change your wages on your profile to thirty or even fifty thou, see how many of them go out with you, I DARE YOU. Maybe you like women to go out with you for your money, for possible marriage security, lol.
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| Feb 10, 2006 @ 1:35 PM |
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bevrice

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Think about it like this, mischief, do you want a woman who has to ask men out because they are not asking her? If she was all that, she would have plenty of dates. Do you want a classy, elegant, sexy, beautiful, confident woman or one of the guys? Lol, that is the difference between a lady and just a woman. All the men are after the former, the latter chases the men around, and all the men know it, she has probably asked a number of them out, too. The former may not be drop dead gorgeous, but she has an aura about her that makes her most desirable and men think she is. She doesn't HAVE to ask them out or pay for their dates, lol. She has as many dates as she wants, and by the way is more likely to judge a man for who and what he is, not his salary, believe it or not.
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| Feb 10, 2006 @ 2:41 PM |
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ServantOfChrist2

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Bevrice, God bless you. :-)
I'll confess something to you.
I've been reading your posts, (solely as an observer), for a while now. I've not wanted to respond to any of the comments you've made chiefly because I try to be a very positive-type person. I'm not much of a confrontational-type person. (This is not "the confession".)
If you don't have anything nice to say, say nothing. So I said nothing.
Yet most of the time when I was reading your posts I felt almost offended.
Almost. *giggle*
But I confess that I believe the main reason for my almost-hurt-feelings was because you were "hitting-a-little-too-close-to-home".
After reading your posts from this afternoon, I tried to apply your words objectively to my own life, and...
It helped.
Thank you.
For reasons due to my personal Christian convictions, I've not dated for...a while. *grin* My personal adoration of women has not helped me to "stay away from "them". (I LOVE everything about women. *grin*)
But many years ago I had asked Christ for help in this regard.
I believe He understood "the sentiments of my heart" and He complied.
While the "non-dating" has produced the easily-anticipated loneliness; the "sacrifice" of sorts, I believe, has also been responsible for my receiving His blessings.
Your words in todays posts have given me "new eyes". You've helped me to "see", (to understand), certain things. Things about myself and things about women-in-general.
Sorry...this doesn't really have anything with "The Thread", but I wanted to thank you in public. (I'm sure there are others who have similar feeling to my own about your posts.)
So..thank you. :-)
(Spelling correction)
[Edited on 2/10/2006 4:05 PM]
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| Feb 10, 2006 @ 10:36 PM |
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Angel54214

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"Servant", you have all the riches in the world...a true heart, soul and destiny. That was a wonderful post, you set a great example of what a man truly is...We thank you!
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| Feb 10, 2006 @ 10:53 PM |
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ruready4me2luvu

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about it like this, mischief, do you want a woman who has to ask men out because they are not asking her? If she was all that, she would have plenty of dates. Do you want a classy, elegant, sexy, beautiful, confident woman or one of the guys? Lol, that is the difference between a lady and just a woman. All the men are after the former, the latter chases the men around, and all the men know it, she has probably asked a number of them out, too. The former may not be drop dead gorgeous, but she has an aura about her that makes her most desirable and men think she is. She doesn't HAVE to ask them out or pay for their dates, lol. She has as many dates as she wants, and by the way is more likely to judge a man for who and what he is, not his salary, believe it or not.
Wooohoooo Bev
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| Feb 11, 2006 @ 12:26 AM |
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MotownManiax

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Bevsters, that just about sums it up.
Ready, y'know I'd be good for the check if we lived close enough to actually have dinner out.
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| Feb 13, 2006 @ 7:52 PM |
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rythemrevue

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Sweetie, naw, don't think she is jealous, gee, she is telling the truth, younger guys are after older women all the time
Yes..because most women their age won't have anything to do woth them.So if they find an immature cougar... she may go for it just cause they want someone younger..regardless of personality etc. also..... some because they know older women are more secure work wise financially, etc...and want to take em for a ride...or be "kept".I have seen a lot of these older women you ng guys hit on as well... older guys wouldn't hit on most cause they are trying to be stuck in their teens or still be like their own daughters.... why is it that you RAREly see this in guys out of curiousity? /// where they try to look like their sons...or their age? I find nothing more of a turnoff if I see a woman in her 40- 50's with her 20 yr old daughter...trying to dress the same and attract younger guys icky poo ! :o0
thirdly have you ever met any of these geeks> hahaha....,,in a nutshell...
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| Feb 13, 2006 @ 9:03 PM |
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ILLLOOK

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Wow these are some wild post. I can't believe how much stereotyping is going on if someone does this they are this thats all bull for sure. People are different in all things. I think people shouldn't judge other people for what they are but who they are. Just because someone wants a man to pay shouldn't make them lesser than one who wants to pay. What makes one more confident than the other nothing. It is very sad to see people putting down each other because we are all different and thus want different things. I have found one thing out in life to say I won't or I can't do something limits oneself.
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| Feb 13, 2006 @ 9:43 PM |
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Jankia

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^^^^^^
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| Feb 14, 2006 @ 2:52 AM |
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brian2005

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First of all Witty it might help to post your pic on your profile. It might help a little.
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| Feb 14, 2006 @ 5:54 AM |
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BrokeLostUnhappyandHorny

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When you are in your forties, you are at the prime of your dating life..that is for men. The young ones like you and the mature ones like you too. You need a job, you need a car, you need money and you need brains.
Every age has it's advantages. Probably find the mature ones better in bed but then with all the porn movies out there, the rising youth is learning fast what the mature ladies learned from experience.
If you are looking specifically for someone MUCH younger, you probably have some kind of problem. You can't handle the intelligence level and sophistication of someone your own age.
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| Feb 14, 2006 @ 7:56 AM |
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horselady9

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Interesting (ok, forgive me for being a newbie, sort of.. this has doubtless come up any number of times in the past)...
But a bit of perspective (which may also have come up before): Dating someone significantly older OR younger isn't the problem, though it can lead to amusing and/or difficult situations. But being involved in a serious relationship with someone significantly older or younger can over time develop more stresses than the relationship can bear.
Long ago and far away, I got involved with a man 16 years my senior. Age was irrelevent in the beginning, but over the 10 years we were together, it reared its ugly head. I was going up in my career, and he was headed down. He became jealous not only of the time I needed to spend earning a living, and the people with whom I worked, but of the time I spent pursuing my interests. And frankly, I came to resent his unwillingness to pitch in rather than arrive, park on his butt, and expect to be waited on/nursemaided/accomodated... I wasn't ready to act the aging woman (which at that point I wasn't and still am not), and he resented my youth. Things obviously ended badly, and I vowed never to make the same mistake again - at the ends of the age spectrum, 10-15 or more years are very significant, while in the middle they appear irrelevent.
Of course, I didn't realize that it works both ways until I was dating a much younger man. The truth dawned when he said he wanted to introduce his mother to the woman he loved. I already knew his mother. She and I were contemporaries, riding out of the same barn.
But that's a lesson learned that many simply don't consider. And yes, it does close some doors. At the level of 'dating' age differences can be trivial, but when building a lasting relationship, or one the partners hope will last, you have to look several years into the future and acknowledge the effects of one partner dealing with aging long before the other. If you can handle it openly and candidly, all well and good. But you can't ignore it.
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