| Feb 14, 2006 @ 12:34 PM |
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Mischief484
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Think about it like this, mischief, do you want a woman who has to ask men out because they are not asking her? If she was all that, she would have plenty of dates.
Bev, you know absolutely nothing about this woman. Your last three posts are full of assumptions and stereotypes, none of which are even remotely close to the truth. You don't know whether she gets asked out by other men or not. You assume that she can't get a date because she asked me out? I'm sorry, but that's bulls***.
On Sunday, I was at a Mardi Gras party tending bar along with four other men, all in their 20's. I had two women ask me if I was single, I had one hand me her phone number and another drag me out from behind the bar to dance. They ranged in ages from 24 to 50. One of the other bartenders has a twin sister. He introduced her to me after she asked him who I was. She's 26, blonde hair, green eyes, and smokin' hot. She has my number and I have hers. Wanna guess who called who first?
My phone rings off the hook on Thursdays and Fridays. I don't have to write anyone here or on myspace. My regular email inbox is full of Valentine's e-cards. My date for the Ball on Friday night contacted me on another dating site. She's coming all the way from Atlanta, on her own nickel. We're gonna eat, dance, drink and screw each other senseless. But if she couldn't make it, I'd have my choice of any of the others.
I guess all these women are desperate too? If that's really the case, then all I can say is: THANK GOD FOR DESPERATE WIMMEN!"
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| Feb 14, 2006 @ 9:10 PM |
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bevrice
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Servant, so sorry I haven't answered you sooner, my computer crashed, just got it back. You are a lovely person, we could all learn much from you. My mother taught me the don't say anything unless you can say something nice as well. As I got into Christian counseling, I realized that sometimes it takes a hard blow to bring someone around and open their eyes, remember our Lord never pulled any punches, he was know to call people snakes and sons of vipers, blind guides. If I say something that offends you ever, please let me know, I only say the things I do because I care, if I didn't care, I wouldn't bother with all this, is too stressful, and I really hate arguing. I, like you, asked the Lord to choose for me, but after a number of years began to realize that the things I was seeking in a mate, weren't necessarily what He wanted me to have. I have had to readjust my thinking and to begin to look to the inner person. That was really hard for me to do. I will pray He sends yours to you quickly and that you don't have as much to learn as I did, or the as much growing as I had to do. You are a blessing, honey.
Bev
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| Feb 14, 2006 @ 9:23 PM |
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bevrice
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Lol, sorry, mischief, am not impressed, lol, that kind off women are a dime a dozen, and can be had by any available man, who wants that? Lol, and for sure, who wants a man who any woman can have, especially women who hang in bars and pick men up? MMMM, a special man is a man that all the women want, but they can't have, he keeps himself separate from that kind of woman, he has class, self respect, and is not going to give in to that kind of desperation for sex.
I have never had to ask a man out in my life. I certainly have no shortage of dates, and if a man wants to dance with me, he has to ask me. I am a lady, and love being treated like one, and there are lots and lots of men who like being with women who are ladies and know how to treat them. That kind of man makes us feel special when we are with him, because HE is special and knows how to make us feel appreciated, cared for, not like just another lay, sure don't need that. That kind of men are a dime a dozen, can find them everywhere, but who wants them? I want to spend my time, because my time is important and the greatest thing I have to share is myself, with someone who is somebody. That does not mean money, but means, morals, principals, caring, gentleness, that makes him SOOOOOOO sexy to me.
A man who pokes that thing in any old hole is nothing that any decent, worthwhile woman wants in her life, we want something of value. Why settle for a cow chip when we can have a diamond? You are settling for the chips, your choice. Please wear condoms, refrain from oral sex, giving or receiving, you are way too promiscuos not to practice safe sex, sugar, and way to un choosey about your women.
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| Feb 14, 2006 @ 11:55 PM |
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ServantOfChrist2
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Thank you for your kind words, (and for the encouragement you offered also. *smile*)
God bless you Beverly. :-)
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| Feb 15, 2006 @ 9:51 AM |
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Mischief484
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This entire thread is a perfect example of why men should never, EVER listen to women about what they want in a man.
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| Feb 15, 2006 @ 10:30 PM |
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ruready4me2luvu
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This entire thread is a perfect example of why men should never, EVER listen to women about what they want in a man.
Haaaaa, she told you good  Now just turn around and collect your spanking on the way out.
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| Feb 16, 2006 @ 11:19 AM |
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Mischief484
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Here are a few details about the 23-year old who offered to buy me lunch:
Never been married.
Attends Mass weekly.
Does not go to clubs.
Works 60 hours a week.
Has had only one serious boyfriend.
Parents are still together.
Likes blues and jazz and loves Steely Dan (who merged both with rock and roll and created their own genre).
Masters degree in Economics (my other degree).
Runs four times a week.
But good ol' Bev has her figured out. Women like this are a dime a dozen and any ol' man can have that. Jennifer is a tramp. A common trollop that no good man wants.
Now, some stereotypes are unavoidable. There's the "nice girl." The "bad boy." The "type A" personality. People put other people in cubbyholes that match their names. It's a very human thing to do.
When does stereotyping become an object of pity? When the mind doing it is so closed, so stubborn and so narcissistic that stereotyping is the only thing it knows how to do. It gets even more pitiful when the stereotyping is cheered on by other small and lonely minds. Someone's in real bad need of a little Harper Lee.
The irony of it? This foul-mouthed, hard-drinking, womanizing poster child for bad boyness pities the angry, lonely souls who think Jennifer is a tramp because she broke their stereotype.
And if that doesn't have an ear or two steaming, then screw'em in both ears because my meter on this subject just ran out.
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| Feb 16, 2006 @ 11:29 AM |
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13lucky
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Mischief484
You got a phone# for her...??A woman like her...Is a catch...and someone would be a lucky guy.. :)
Teasing about the number...but not the girl..
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| Feb 16, 2006 @ 7:23 PM |
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Gimmesumluvn
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Be very casual in your approach. Strive to make her feel safe and comfortable with you because at first she is going to feel suspicious of your intentions. Whatever you do, don't lust after her. Just act friendly and make her feel relaxed
What is this!!!! Advice on stocking your pray?
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| Feb 20, 2006 @ 3:25 PM |
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bevrice
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Lol, mischief, and doesn't it strike you as rather strange that a girl who, you claim, has all these sterling qualities would be CHASING a forty something year old and asking him out, even paying for his meal. Something is wrong somewhere. Firstly, if she was all that, and I will repeat myself, she wouldn't HAVE to ask anyone out, much less pay for the date. Secondly, why would a girl like this want a self professed bad boy who has the morals of an alley cat, and the personality of a sour pickle, lol? Certainly it is not because of your character, and I KNOW you can't compete in looks nor body, nor even sexual prowess with the young men her age. Now do you smell something rotten here? Gee, mischief, you seek to impress, but you fall way short of the mark. Again, I am not impressed, you make yourself look like the big bad wolf seeking to pounce on innocent little red riding hood. Maybe you played her up too good. Hmmm, one serious boyfriend. If she is attracted to you, maybe a whole lot of casual ones, huh? Maybe she is not so innocent, maybe you left out something. Or maybe she is looking for a father figure, lol, should be very flattering to you, you are old enough to be her father.
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| Feb 20, 2006 @ 3:35 PM |
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BrokeLostUnhappyandHorny
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BVRICE:
You don't go to the same clubs these guys go to, if you go to clubs at all. Not meant as a slam.
Nowadays, no one asks anyone to dance. They all get up on the dance floor, dance, strut and see what happens. Times they are a changin.
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| Feb 20, 2006 @ 3:53 PM |
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Gimmesumluvn
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Times they are a changin.
Yeah, and ain't that a shame!
I only go to clubs when I am dragged by my friends, but it is a very depressing atomosphere...it's like just seeing the empty shells of people who have lost touch with their own heart. It is very sad to me....so after a couple of hours of enduring it...I go to the local and ever so comforting AJ's Alley.. for pool, dance, a great band, karoke, darts and least of all.. cool people and good conversation a great variety of things...not exactly the "meat market" but a great place to cut loose! 
Oh yeah..as for the topic at hand; Personal experience plays a part in my views on older men, dating younger girls and this quote sickens me:
Be very casual in your approach. Strive to make her feel safe and comfortable with you because at first she is going to feel suspicious of your intentions. Whatever you do, don't lust after her. Just act friendly and make her feel relaxed
I was prey to that when I was a girl and did not enjoy it, but I will leave out the graphics and maybe you will still get the picture of what I am talking about.
Please don't misunderstand...I am not pointing my finger and using sterotyping just commenting on the quotes 
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| Feb 23, 2006 @ 10:10 AM |
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MotownManiax
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Babyidontcare, where were you a couple months ago when another thread did this same topic? I could have used your support against another well-known cradle robber, summersquall??
 Wonder if he still reads these things?
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| Feb 23, 2006 @ 11:36 AM |
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13lucky
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For me ..the idea of a younger woman is appealing in a couple of ways..
She isn't harden from life yet. (Attitudes)
Everything is new or at least seems to be.
Their joy for life is an inspiration
And i could go on...
The bad:
Who wants babies at my/our age ....
Sometimes people need to experience life..and can't be told and this can lead to "I told you so" fights etc.,
Different Music..and cultural upbringing
Father and Mother...my age 
But I try to keep an open mind about whether I would or wouldn't... Because who knows what Life has in store for you.
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| Feb 23, 2006 @ 1:42 PM |
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T_i_m
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Quote: Mischief484
This entire thread is a perfect example of why men should never, EVER listen to women about what they want in a man.
Agreed.
There seems to be some very bitter, confused, poorly phrased and possibly demented opinions in here.
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| Feb 23, 2006 @ 2:50 PM |
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someone_me
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Your last three posts are full of assumptions and stereotypes, none of which are even remotely close to the truth.
Mischief, I think you hit the nail on the head here. Some people only think one way and that is the way it will always be with them, even if you are saying something totally different. Face it, you know that you are a "player", that dreaded term that women use to name call and label because they can't handle their own relationship situations in a positive healthy way. But then again, I never met a woman who wanted a guy who couldn't get other women either. 
and call them on a regular basis like a man use to do
Ahh yes, the ol double standard in dating thing once again raises it's ugly little head. Why should anyone (male or female) show interest in someone who's not showing interest in them? If she's not willing to call me, I'm not going to be willing to call her either. You can have your traditional game playing thank you.
I KNOW you can't compete in looks nor body, nor even sexual prowess with the young men her age.
Bev, how do you KNOW this? You been going out with all the younger men clamouring after you? I think you are way off base here and very presumptuous. You do not KNOW this to be true. There are many guys in their 40's who can compete in the areas about which you KNOW they can't.
This entire thread is a perfect example of why men should never, EVER listen to women about what they want in a man.
That's because they never really want what they say they want.  Even when they say they want Someone else to choose for them, it's still not what they want. 
I just don't understand why this topic keeps coming up over and over and over again. Women dating younger men, men dating younger women, why can't you just go out with whom you want to go out with?
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| Feb 23, 2006 @ 3:11 PM |
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13lucky
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Because we all need to comform to a select few 
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 12:50 PM |
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someone_me
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All us ladies have been there done that and know what a 20 something year old woman thinks
Don't you just love the broad sweeping generalizations around here? Just because one used to think that way, does it mean all do? I wouldn't say that all younger women like older guys, but would guess anywhere from 20-33% do. Just like not all younger guys like older women, but some do.
And no, not all 35 year old and up women are bitter when they give advice, only those who are actually bitter when giving advice are.
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 10:55 PM |
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bevrice
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Lol, of course they don't want to know the truth. I wonder why thirty percent of the young women aren't MARRIED to older men, seldom EVER see that, and when they are, they are really not pretty, can't get anyone their age, lol. Sorry, that is not nice nor kind, but we all know it is the truth. Like my mom said, "there is no fool like an old fool." That saying has passed the test of time.
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| Mar 1, 2006 @ 11:06 PM |
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bevrice
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Someone, lol, NO, I don't go out with the thirty and forty somethings, late forties maybe, but LOL, IT SEEMS LIKE I WAS THIRTY AND FORTY AT ONE TIME. I prefer someone closer to my own age, I don't need the young guys to make me like myself, or feel young. I want someone I have something in common with.
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